Question On Teen Marriage / Engagement / Fiance??? Posted: 10-23-03 23:58pm
I was just wondering.....Ive read some
posts and some of you young teens (like
15,16,!7,ect..) say they have fiances or
plan to get married? How can you get
married if your a minor? What if you
guys are both minors? When you say
fiance that means you're engaged right!
Do you guys have real engagement rings..Or
what? Im sorry to be so nosey but im
really curious! I think insurance girl
got married at 17. I dont know maybe im
mistaken...But how did you do it anyway?
Whats the deal on the marriage plans for
you guys.(there I go being nosey again).
Do you guys have rings at all? Or if u
got married young(under 1 did you have a real
wedding or just by paper at first. Im
from california and you need parent
permission from the "bride" & "groom"
to legally be married (if under 1. They have to be
there when u get married and they also
sign the paper document. Whats it like
where you guys are at? Any replys would
be greatly appriciated! Thanx much love
to everyone!
Jennifer a-k-a lildreamer
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Mommy_2_b
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Re: Question On Teen Marriage/engagement/fiance??? Posted: 10-24-03 06:29am
Lildreamer - I dont know about all the
other people but up here in nova scotia
people under 16 can't get married, people
between 16-18 have to have their parents
permission and they have to go through a
whole bunch of legal stuff. But thats
canada I dont know about the states.
Myself im 19 and dont have to worry about
that ... Although getting married at 19
is looked down upon I dont care i've been
with scott since I was 15 and now im
having his children. Anywho dont know
about the rest ~melissa
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 10-24-03 10:46am
I didnt have to worry because I was old
enough but he did get me an engagement
ring, a real pretty one. He proposed, we
told the family and stuff. It was nice.
But for young ones, they need to have
parental consent and the parents need to
sign for it, then by court order you have
to get pre-marital counceling.
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Mommy_2_b
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Posted: 10-24-03 10:47am
Well I guess its basically the same all
the way around then anyone underage has to
have parental consent and the councelling
and stuff ~melissa
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 10-24-03 10:49am
Which is a good thing too.
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Mommy_2_b
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Posted: 10-24-03 10:56am
Definitely! I can't imagine getting
married at 14 or 15 thats just way to
young in my opinion. Maybe you really do
love them but ur hormones are goin so much
you'll be in love one second and heart
broken the next
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 10-24-03 10:57am
I know! Imagine if I did that! Id be
.S.O.L right now!Hahaha its all puppy
love! Thats what I think. The counceling
is great to get couples to realize
problems before they get stuck!
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Mommy_2_b
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Posted: 10-24-03 11:02am
Haha exactly! I can't imagine my brother
gettin married lol hes like a lil player -
well ok not that bad he just dates a lot I
think I raised him enough not to do
anything at this age though. Hahaha what
a funnny picture my lil bro married hehe
now i'llbe smilin all day
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insurancegirl
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Posted: 10-24-03 11:04am
Last edited by insurancegirl on 09-29-04 13:17pm; edited 1 time in total
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CrombieChic16
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Posted: 10-24-03 11:52am
Insurance girl,
hey, havent really talked to you before,
but ive got a question...And be
honest....You said you got married at 17
and ur hubby was 23...Being thats about a
6 year difference, how did u think it was
going to work out? Would u advise girls
for or against dating older guys, or does
it not matter....Reason for asking is im
16(im sure many girls say this, but ive
been through so much in my life and am so
much more mature then most 16 yr old
girls) and im not looking for those 1 week
relationships and games anymore, im past
that stage...I just got out of an abusive
relationship about 9 months ago, and am
still recovering, but am ready to move
on...A good friend of mine(shes 1 told me that there
is this really awesome guy who she wants
to hook me up with...She told me im def.
His type and she knows im still a
virgin...So she knows I dont go around
sleeping with every guy...Thing is, hes
21....Im totally ready for it emotionally,
but am a little scared about the physical
part...Now I know getting involved with an
older guy the physical relationship has to
be more advanced than most, and I think im
ready for it...I mean I havent even met
the guy yet but if things were to go the
way I hope they do, I think im ready for
it.....Im thinking about this seriously
and long and hard before I make any
drastic decisions...Id really appreciate
yours and anybody elses advice on
this....
And just to let everybody know, I
understand what comes along with an older
guy relationship and have taken that into
consideration...Im ready to go to the next
level in my life....I just want some
pointers from girls who have been there
before...Some do's and dont's ya
know...Because I think im definitely going
to go with it...I mean, whats there to
lose?
Sry for the long post...But thanks for
listening, cant wait to hear what u girls
have to say!
*vanessa*
oh and hes a total cutie...A nick lachey
look alike! Lol ive got a pic of him if
anyone wants to check it out and give me
some feedback!
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insurancegirl
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Vanessa, Posted: 10-24-03 13:35pm
Hi, nice to meet you.
For myself, this relationship seemed to be
the best, and I knew it would work out
(all 16 yr olds know everything, lol).
Anyway, i'm glad that I ended up with
mike, because I feel I would have gone
down the wrong road. I was about to turn
to drugs & alcohol, instead I had a
family. If you feel your mature and you
and this guy hit it off...Go for it!
(in caps) but, be sure that your ready for
the concequences of being with an older
guy, they do want more than your
classmates...Not that they don't want the
same thing too. As I said I was engaged
2 mos. Into our relationship, cuz this is
something he was ready for, and not
necessarily me (i just didn't want to lose
him). As in my other posts, have sex
when you are ready, we don't want another
"unwanted" baby and you having to chose
the hardest thing in your life.
For me i'm lucky things turned out as they
did, cuz for most of my "pregnancy class"
the guys turned and walked away (young and
old).
Good luck,
Jennifer
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babybooz
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For Crombie Posted: 10-24-03 13:48pm
Girl! You sound so much like me! I have
been used., played, lied to, everything in
the book. I was tired of it... I'm 17,
in university. I am a smart girl, and I
know how to make other girls jealous. I
couldn't understand why I couldn't keep a
full time boyfriend. Guys judged by my
looks and ass (you know how it is) and I
was still a virgin too... And I finally
figured it out. I was out of every guy's
league. Age makes no difference...
Unless it's like... 13 and 33... You get
my idea. As long as you and him are on
the same level, then what the hell right?
I know this may sound so weird to
everyone, but i'm going to tell you all my
story. I met matt online. I didnt think
anything of it, and then the woman (like
my second mom) told me I had to meet him.
He is a lobsterman on the coast of maine.
3 hours away from my home town... He's
living on his own, nice vehicles, not to
mention a brand new chevy silverado... He
is a self employed lobsterman, owns a
boat, 800 traps... Now if anyone knows
someone with this kind of work, they know
they are hard working and well respected.
Not to mention his father wasnt a
lobsterman. He comes from a very well off
family... Mature, smart, and this guy
loves me. We have been together for over
2 months. Now I am in university, we are
only 2 hours apart! Who do you think
comes and gets me every weekend and brings
me back? Yes he does... He is ready to
start his life. He has been with a few
girls, and I thought I didn't know what I
was doing either, but he reassures me
everything is wonderful and my
"performance" is wonderful. My way of
thinking... He loves you, then he loves
you. Nothing is going to change that as
long as he is sincere and he has good
intentions. My guy wants to marry me
already and I know its true. We had a
scare a couple weeks ago, and he was calm
and supportive and he said that this was a
little early, but he was still staying
with me no matter the turn out. He had to
take care of me and the baby... Turns out
that I wasnt pregnant... The awesome
thing is, deep down inside, I know that he
wanted a baby. Even if he/ she was going
to be a little soon... So my advice to
all you girls and ladys, whatever happens,
happens because thats the way it was
suppose to. Live for the day, and dont
let set backs hold you back. Find love,
and hold onto it... As I sit here, i'm
almost in tears. I dont know what I would
do if I didnt have matt. Its the greatest
feeling in the world. So crombie,. Go on
a date with this guy, dont let fear stop
you. If your friend is a friend shes not
setting you up for a kill. Keep us
updated.
Sarah
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babybooz
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Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 56 Location: Freddy NB, Canada
Forgot to Say... Posted: 10-24-03 13:50pm
Matt is 19. How many 19 year olds you
know that are like that? I dont know any
but him...
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CrombieChic16
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Joined: 10 Oct 2003 Posts: 745
Posted: 10-24-03 14:12pm
Wow what can I say? You girls are
amazing, thank you for not judging me and
talking down to me as if I was a 10 year
old....I feel the same way about age being
just a number...As long as its not 15 and
35 ya know? I still have my worries and
hesitations, but who doesnt? But anyways,
yea im going to go ahead and meet him and
see what he has to offer...Ive been
through it all and am not going to settle
for less than I deserve, and right now, I
feel like only older more mature guys can
give me that...I know I wont be able to be
intimate for a while with him because I
have to build up that trust first...After
being in an abusive relationship the last
thing u wanna do is get close...But I feel
like I need to, I love having that
companionship and miss it...Insurance
girl, thank u so much for ur input, and im
so happy that things worked out for u the
way they did....And babybooz, thanks for
ur story, it really helped me out...I have
this outlook on men that all of them are
liars and cheaters, but I have to get over
that and learn to give guys a chance
again...Its not their fault that I got
wrapped up with the wrong guy...I am truly
hoping this guy can restore my hope in
this area! Well, ill keep all of you
updated, and if u dont mind, I think I
might email ya guys for some more support
if thats ok...Thanks again guys, I really
appreciate it.
*vanessa*
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PregnaJordan
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Posted: 10-24-03 15:28pm
Im 17 and engaged...We dont have rings
yet, but we dont need them...We were
planning on getting married this year and
we talked to mom to get consent and she
wouldnt do it and when she found out that
I was pregnant she said she would sign
but we dont want that to be the reason she
signs for us so we are gonna wait till I
turn 18(hes already 1 by then my
precious little baby will be 2and 1/2
months old..How sweet...Ne ways...Take
care
pregnajordan :d
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PregnaJordan
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Posted: 10-24-03 15:28pm
Im 17 and engaged...We dont have rings
yet, but we dont need them...We were
planning on getting married this year and
we talked to mom to get consent and she
wouldnt do it and when she found out that
I was pregnant she said she would sign
but we dont want that to be the reason she
signs for us so we are gonna wait till I
turn 18(hes already 1 by then my
precious little baby will be 2and 1/2
months old..How sweet...Ne ways...Take
care
pregnajordan :d
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BabyPassion
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Joined: 28 Sep 2003 Posts: 94 Location: Bronx, NY
Posted: 10-24-03 16:17pm
Hey girl,
i'm 19 and been happily married to my 20
year old husband for two wonderful
years....Yes I got married at 17...My
parents had to be present when we got
married...I couldn't get married in the
court chapel because both my birth mother
and father had to be present...And since
my father past away....I couldn't which
sucked....When we was engaged I didn't
have a ring. We didn't have the money for
it, but we do have wedding bands....Awww I
love my honey
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Mybabyandme
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Thats So Romantic!! Posted: 10-25-03 00:11am
So its basically parent consent huh!
Who lives with the bf/hubby or do they
life w/you? Who got engaged/married and
is not expecting or have kids? How did
it feel like being a teen wife? Did you
cook, clean, do laundry? If I was a
teen bride I wouldnt know how to take on
wife roles becuase I can barely take care
of myself.Lol! My mom does my laundry
and irons most my clothes....I dont even
know how to drive!!Lol! How was it like
for you?
P.S opps sorry its lildreamer..Im under my
sisters name! Sorry for the confusion!
Lildreamer
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BabyPassion
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Joined: 28 Sep 2003 Posts: 94 Location: Bronx, NY
Posted: 10-25-03 07:27am
Right now I don't live with my hubby b/c
he is out at sea
.....Well my hubby proposed to me before
we know we were pregnant. I love been a
teen wife. Yes I cook, clean, do
laundry....And it all started when I
married my hun....Lol....Me and mike
didn't even how to drive at first but we
taught each other....Watch out world crazy
driver on the roads
.....I can drive very well....Lol
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babybooz
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Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 56 Location: Freddy NB, Canada
Awesome Gurls! Posted: 10-25-03 10:14am
Hey,
i stay with my hunny on weekends since i'm
still in school. He still goes to work
on saturday so I have all morning and a
couple hours in the afternoon to clean his
house, vacuum, do the laundry, and week
old dishes! Lol* that was how I was
brought up, and its so cute when we take
turns cooking and going grocery shopping
(together). I truely dont mind
cleaning, because he goes out of his way
for me. Literally. All we can do is
give our husbands/ bf (for me) what they
deserve. They deserve a lot if they are
not lying, cheating no namers right? I
am transfering schools in april, so I will
be moving in with matt. I think he
wants me to transfer over christmas but
that would be so complicated. It's
university, not high school! I can't
wait to get married like you girls,
although I am very happy how things are
right now, but a person can never be too
complete, right?
Sarah
ps: its awesome when he gives me his cool
truck for while hes gone at work!!
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did you have a real
wedding or just by paper at first. Im
from california and you need parent
permission from the "bride" & "groom"
to legally be married (if under 1
.....Well my hubby proposed to me before
we know we were pregnant. I love been a
teen wife. Yes I cook, clean, do
laundry....And it all started when I
married my hun....Lol....Me and mike
didn't even how to drive at first but we
taught each other....Watch out world crazy
driver on the roads 