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Q: What Would You Guy's Do?

asked by: ftmommy201 on December 27th, 2004

Experienced User

Hi all...Ok..I have this situation to where the father and I are not together anymore but he say's he will deff. Be here for the baby and help me out w/him as far as money goes. We still communicate and he is going to be there when the baby comes. Him and I decided "we" weren't going to be an item just because I am pg but that we will both be here in his life so he will know both mom and dad, we can't seem to get along as a couple anymore but he does want to be here for his son. But here is the thing, I really believe that he is going to be an awesome dad and maybe one day there will be a chance for us, who know's. But he want's the baby to have his last name. I am not worried about child support and all that because I know that won't be an issue and I know putting his last name on the bc gives him certain right's and im ok with that but I don't want to make the wrong choice!!! My doc told me after he was born I have 6-month's to where I can change the last name if I want to. Should I give him his last name and see how thing's go? If they don't go well then put my last name? What do you guy's think??

Replies(19)

Tazzy D

replied on December 27th, 2004

Advanced Support Team

My Opinion

No matter what you do or say you can never change the dad/father. All of my children have there dads last name, and I wouldnt change that for the world. I believe a child has that right. Even if you dont put the fathers name on the bc he still has rights. But you said that wasnt an issue anyway. I think it is just prefernce of what you want to call your child and if you want your son to carry your name or carry the fathers name and if he is going to be a junior.............. Good luck hun.. I think you will do what is best for him and you

sandyallen

replied on December 27th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Hi there! If he is the true father I definitely feel his name should be on the birth certificate and should receive his last name but if he is not the biological father then no way should this be done. I would not want any man's name on my birth certificate other then my biological father, no matter what the situation was but you must do what you feel is right.
The best to you all!
Sincerely,
sandy

ftmommy201

replied on December 27th, 2004

Experienced User

Thanks Guys

There is no doubt about him being the dad so I will more than likely put his name on the bc. Your right tazzy..He will always be the dad and I know my son has the right to know that. Thank you guys for responding.

PosrscheLvr

replied on December 28th, 2004

Experienced User

I don't agree with any of this. I think she should put her own last name on the bc. The dad is not going to be the primary caregiver, why does the kid need his last name? I guess I am not traditional or whatever but I think that's crap. If I am going to be a single mother then the kid is going to have my last name, end of story. *shrugs*

Tazzy D

replied on December 28th, 2004

Advanced Support Team

posrschelvr wrote:

i don't agree with any of this. I think she should put her own last name on the bc. The dad is not going to be the primary caregiver, why does the kid need his last name? I guess I am not traditional or whatever but I think that's crap. If I am going to be a single mother then the kid is going to have my last name, end of story. *shrugs*

just because you are the primary caregiver doesnt mean you conceived the child by yourself. Giving the baby the fathers last name is not traditional in my book it is respect for your child. So how about when they get older?????? Mom y dont I have my dads last name??? Do you not know who he is???? Well I want his last name!!!! My point is you can change names in the court house why do it later and waist money....
That is my opinion.. All of my chidren have their fathers last name. I feel that is who they are... But like I said it is all pref. Its up to you what you want your child to be called/named. Good luck hun

~*klo*~

replied on December 28th, 2004

Experienced User

I think its up to you. You no him best and maybe can tell what sort of pap he'll be.