Joined: 23 Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: New Jersey
I Feel Like I Am Swirling Down.. And Down.... Posted: 10-24-03 21:18pm
Hello everyone.. I am new to this also.
But I need to talk .. I think... I am a
married women of 3 years, and a mother of
a 2 year old girl. And I think I may be
pregnant again. But then again. It may
be that I am so depressed that my period
is not here... Anyway. I am depressed.
I never smile. I think I don't want this
anymore. I love the mother part.. But
not the married part... When he is
around...(when he is home from work) I am
invisable. I tried talking to him, but
that doesn't work. He doesn't hear me.
I am only 32. I need affection, love and
support.. Someone please give me
something...
Thanks..
Cbk
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jojolous
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2003 Posts: 6 Location: san antonio texas
Posted: 10-25-03 11:30am
Hello billie well I was in a relationship
for 9 yrs and I have 3 kids with this man
he was locked up for a year and he would
always tell me that no other man would
want me cause I have 3 kids well I have
learned that, that indeed was a lie ive
been dating this guy in the service for
almost 2 years on 2/04 and man let me tell
you we have a strong relationship he loves
me for me and loves my kids im so so happy
when we are together we laugh we play
never a dull moment so so different from
my other relationship my kids father was
always going out with his friends or the
were always at the house drinking smoking
etc.... I was not happy but I dealt with
him cause of the kids so my advice to you
is to listen to your heart if your not
happy get out cause un happy parents cant
raise happy kids you two have to be able
to communicate to have a healthy
relationship for your daughter and trust
me im sure your daughter prolly senses
your not happy.......So get out and find
someone that is going to love you and make
you happy life is too short to be wasting
it unhappy,eventually youll get out of it
and think all this time wasted in a
relationship being unhapppy could have you
thinking later why didnt I get out sooner
youll be more relaxed and happy I live by
myself now and coming home to my kids and
having them here without there father here
is so much more relaxing than him being
here I was always tensed cause I was
unhappy I didnt want him here.Anyways ive
said alot hope this helps...
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Billie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: New Jersey
Still Swirling Posted: 10-25-03 21:26pm
Ya know I guess I know that you are
right.. I just can't seemed to do
anythign about it. I guess I can't
imagine me without him. Even if he can.
I do want a happy child though, she is my
life and always knows when I am upset. I
want to do right by her.... I guess god
only gives you what you can handle....
Pray for me please.....
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PSM
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2003 Posts: 10
Posted: 12-09-03 13:02pm
Hi billie. I am new to this forum and
posted my own but wanted to reply to
yours.
My situation is opposite of yours, I am 30
years old, been happily married for 4
years and we planned our first child which
we both wanted and I gave birth on sept.
16th of this year and ever since I have
been majorily depressed/anexity, hard time
concentrating etc., etc.
My problem is although I love my son very
much I wonder if I should have not had
children because I was so very happy in my
life before my child and now I get even
function to work or take care of him
etc.
Anyway, my advice is that if you really
aren't happy in your relationship with
your husband that you should get out of it
because it will only bring you down and
your family.
Hope I helped a little.
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Jax
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 3
Posted: 12-09-03 18:29pm
Hi billie, have you considered couples
counselling? It saved my marriage! It
may help you as well. If your marriage
and your vows are something you consider
sacred, don't you think you should do all
you can to save it? Best of luck- I feel
for you. -jackie
