Joined: 02 Jan 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Sacramento, CA
Help! Posted: 01-02-05 22:03pm
My fiancée was recently diagnosed with
bipolar disorder about 5-6 months ago.
She has been seeing a therapist for some
time before the diagnosis, and it was
thought she might have post traumatic
stress syndrome. I suppose it is
possible that she has both, the symptoms
for both are very similar, and describe
what she is going through. From the
informationt that I have been able to
gather about the disorder it appers that
she has bipolar ii. She has been on and
off a few different medications, none of
which seem to be working. She is
currently not taking any meds, and it
doesn't seem to make a difference. I
know her current meds are not working...
We tried to see a psychiatrist at the end
of december but due to some paperwork
problems they gave her appointment away
and we don't know when we can get
another.
About 4 months ago, she admitted herself
to a mental health hospital which proved
unhelpful. Shortly after we moved in
with her parents to save money for our
upcoming wedding, and also because I lost
my job. I've lost 2 jobs this past year
due to overseas outsourcing, so I am going
to school to get a degree and try and get
a job higher up on the foodchain. She has
an extremely disfunctional relationship
with her mother, which probably is making
our current situation worse.
She's already tried to kill herself since
moving in, and has tried to do it in the
past even before she was diagnosed. Her
mother, through all of this, has not
helped in the least bit. Today, we
talked to her mother and stepfather about
moving out of here because it is not
helping her state of mind, and asked if we
could get a loan since I am and she is
unemployed. Her mother responded near
violently, and we've been holed up in her
room ever since. Lately I have been
staying with her all of the time, as I am
afraid she might try and kill herself
again. She's smart, I think this time
she might not make a mistake about it. I
can't bear to lose her, I think if I did
it would push me over the brink myself.
I'm not bipolar (i think) but my mental
health is not so good either, lately. I
feel like there is nothing we can do, and
with this latest rejection from her
mother... I'm afraid.
Our only hope, it seems, is for me to get
a job so we can get out of here. My
problem with that, as i've said, is
leaving her alone. She has pretty much
pushed away all of her friends, and the
few friends she has have gone away to
school. I feel like I am all that she
has, all that she can trust, and despite
her episodes and feelings towards me when
she is having them I know deep down who
she can be. It seems the only times that
she is happy is when she is manic, which
are few and far between. I said earlier
that she is bipolar 2, because of what is
says here. She
is more depressed than manic, and her
manic episodes are very mild. I want,
more than anything, is to drop off the
face of the earth with her, get away from
it all, and live our own life, away from
our current lives.
I'm not sure what to do. I know we need
to see a psychiatrist again. I know that
we need to find the right combination of
medications to treat her problem. I know
I need to find a job... Maybe put school
on hold for a while. I'm just not sure
how I can do all of this.
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bd1012
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 1998
Posted: 01-02-05 22:36pm
Hmm.. That's a sticky situation..
According to what you said about her
mother.. She sounds like she is also
bipolar as well. The only thing I can
think of is to admit her to a hospital and
say that she is a danger to herself and
hopefully they could hold her there for a
while so you can work and get out of that
house.. What about your parents? Could
they house you for a bit? After you get
all settled in you def need to get her on
some new meds.. It's my belief that not
every medicine may be good for somebody..
Some medicine that is poison for one
person could be someone elses miracle..
What she needs to do is see someone who
can pinpoint what chemical imbalance is
causing her problem and prescribe
something accordingly. If someone has
too much serotonine and it's causing
problems.. A seritonine enhancer isn't
going to help.
Now you said that she wasn't taking her
medication because it wasn't working...
How long have you given the meds a chance
to work.. It takes a full 6 weeks to be
fully effective.. Plus colding any
medicine cold turkey could cause
problems..
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Dash16
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Sacramento, CA
Posted: 01-02-05 23:06pm
I suppose it is possible her mother is
bipolar as well, seeing as the disorder is
genetic. I don't think we'll ever know
however, her mother refuses therapy, even
refused to sit in on my fiancee's session
to help her. She's been off the meds for
maybe a month, and has been taking them
before that for longer, definetly longer
than 6 weeks. She's on prozac and and
antiseizure medicine now (or at least was
until she stopped taking them) and before
that it was prozac and depakote. We
think that maybe the meds before were what
caused her to want to be admitted to the
mental health facility before. That
didn't help unfortunately, I don't know if
it was that particular facilty or what,
but that experience has likely made it
difficult for her to want to go back. I
can't commit her against her
wishes... I think it would seriously harm
our relationship.
We're talking with her father right now,
hopefully he can help us. Thing is he
lives in another state. My parents... I
don't see that as an option. They don't
wholly approve of me and my fiancee, they
are very religious and I am not, and my
fiancee and I have been living together
for a year and a half.