Im Hurt... Need Some Advice Posted: 01-03-05 00:12am
20 f here... Im in a bit of a sticky
situation. I have wanted to explore my
bisexual side for a while and finally was
able to (to an extent-- nothing more than
kissing). However, since then, me and
this girl have become really close friends
and I have developed a huge crush on her,
which I believe she doesnt know about.
All I want is a relationship with her, but
she seems to want nothing more than
friendship. When she goes to hook up or
hang out with men I get very upset and
nauseated (like I am now). Im afraid this
might ruin my life.... And I came back
from vacation two weeks early to hang out
with her and now im afraid I really made a
huge mistake and im practically letting
her jerk me around by a chain around my
neck. I dont want to lose her friendship,
but the last few months have been chipping
away at my soul, and my sanity, and im
afraid I might slip back into the
depression I once was. I thought I was a
stronger person than to let myself fall
into this trap again, but since this was
my first female relationship, maybe I have
become oblivious. I know that its
impossible to ask you all how to move on
with my life and get over this person
(because this is one of the most troubling
life problems), but if anyone has any
advice id really appreciate it
sunny :cry:
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Whitney4768
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2004 Posts: 69 Location: va
Posted: 01-04-05 16:37pm
All I can say is hunny you need to talk to
her how her hooking up or hanging with
guys has hurt you... Sit down and talk to
her and tell her exactly how this is
hurting you and making you sick.... But
in my opinion I wouldnt let someone jerk
me around and after I saw my love with
another person I would leave it might be
hard but you dont want her to keep doing
this to you and hurting you.... To me
that isnt a friend she might be using you.
If you ever need anymore advice contact
me on aol lilkisses85 or my email lil
cutie1285@hotmail.Com.....
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corsair35
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Aug 2004 Posts: 6
Broken Hearted Posted: 01-04-05 16:57pm
Hey sunny
i would grab a hold of my feelings ,and
just let her know how you feel . The
friendship will only break up if she wants
it to .
If you dont tell her now ,you only will
when you have had enough of her hanging
out with other men. It will be the wrong
time then to let it out and your
friendship will most likely be over .
Let her know and then you can recover from
all this ok
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Jelissa McCullough
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2005 Posts: 7 Location: Kemptville Ontario
Talk to Her Posted: 01-06-05 09:59am
Hun you should talk to her, tell her how
you feel about her, and if it ruins your
friendship well then you will know that
she wasn't such a great friend after all,
if it ends up that way just know that you
are worth so much more, and you can do
better then her, don't waste your life
moping about her, because then you might
miss a chance to meet someone new that you
might actually like more then her.
