Boyfriend Or Best Friend? Posted: 01-07-05 18:30pm
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2
months now and in the beggining my best
friend and him were friends no they hate
each other and she dosent want me talking
about him in front of her and she thinks I
should dump him because last wwekend when
I was staying the night at her house I
called him and my best friend said he was
a human and so he hung up and I kept
calling him till he would ansewer and not
hang up on me and so then my best friend
called and was talking to his friend her
ex-boyfriend that was staying at his house
about why he hung up on me for something I
didnt do or say and then she was talking
to my boyfriend and I guess he called me a
"stupid health forum" and so she got mad
and then her phone died so we had to
charge it and so we were just talking and
she was like u need to dump him cuz he
said you were a stupid health forum and
that he thinks he is in charge of me and
stuff like that.So when I went home the
next day I asked him if it was true and I
asked him why he said that and we talked
it over and no we are fine.I think he just
says those things when I have friends over
or he does or if im staying at a friends
house or he is cuz when we are alone on
the phone he dosent act like that. My
question is what can I do so they are ok
with eachother but im not asking for them
to be friends im just asking if they can
not hate eachother anymore because I love
both of them!
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Jiltedheart
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 May 2005 Posts: 11
Posted: 05-19-05 06:41am
Sit them both down and tell them that you
can't choose the one and not the other.
She my be your friend but she has no right
to deny you the chance of true love if he
loves he should even have a second thought
about it. Say that they need to talk to
one another like adults and find out what
is causing all this friction. If they
both truely care for you they should be
able to make a some sort of deal. If one
of them or both say they won't try tell
them you are sorry but need some time
alone to think. Not forever just give
them a day or two to sit and ponder whats
important. Ask them back again with the
same question. Talk to them about
possible solutions and see if they are
trying to work with you. If after that
you still have no progress you may just
have to keep em seperate for awhile till
she cools off. If she's your friend she
should go out of her way to start crap
though. You need to be straight with her
about that. She may just miss you or feel
you act differently around him than when
it's just you and her. Why does she hate
him so?
