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*LiDdLeMoMmY15*
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I Told My Mom
Posted: 01-09-05 20:38pm
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Welp! She wants me to get an abortion..
Peyton and I refuse.. I am going to try
to convince her that is not a choice for
us. If she would just give us a chance..
I mean we are not idiots! We know how
hard it is going to be. We would like to
offer to take care of our
responsibilities! All I want from her is
love and support!!!!! I am going to try..
Please pray and I know im only 15 and he
is 17 but atleast we arent murders and
running from our problems!!!
Xox jessica oxo
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*LiDdLeMoMmY15*
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Posted: 01-09-05 20:40pm
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**** excuse me***
atleast we arent trying to be murders like
my mom and run away from our
problems!!!!
Xox jessica oxo
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bd1012
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Re: I Told My Mom
Posted: 01-09-05 21:06pm
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| *liddlemommy15*
wrote: | welp! She wants me to get
an abortion.. Peyton and I refuse.. I
am going to try to convince her that is
not a choice for us. If she would just
give us a chance.. I mean we are not
idiots! We know how hard it is going to
be. We would like to offer to take care
of our responsibilities! All I want from
her is love and support!!!!! I am going
to try.. Please pray and I know im only
15 and he is 17 but atleast we arent not a
nice acts and running from our
problems!!!
Xox jessica oxo |
tell her straight up that it is not up to
her! It's your choice.. Not even your
bfs.. Do what is best for you! I don't
really agree that abortion is running from
your problems but anywho.. Just decide
what's right for you..That's all that
matters!
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:09pm
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Awww well i'm glad you told her...But i'm
upset that she wants you to get an
abortion. The choice is yours though and
only yours. But i'm glad you and peyton
(i spelled it right this time ;) )want to
keep your baby. Abortion is not an option
for me. I'm pro life.
Congrats
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Krista Kai
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:12pm
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Aww jess... Maybe that was just your
mom's first reaction and she'll change
after she's thought about it a little.
Parents mainly try to protect their kids
and that's maybe what she feels is how to
protect you. Give her a chance to think
about it and then be ready to talk again
cuz she'll definitely be back to talk some
more. Meanwhile, tomorrow go talk to your
counselors at school and see what kind of
options they have for teen moms staying in
school. Also call wic to find out about
the programs they have. At least that
way when your mom comes back for another
talk you can show her you're trying to
keep everything together and still do the
right thing for your baby. Main thing is
don't get into a yelling and screaming
match with your mom no matter how upset
she gets. The main thing you've got to do
is show her you're trying to be as grown
up as you can be about it and maybe
that'll change her mind.
Still you should also listen to what she
has to say. If you just close your ears
you'll just be being stubborn and not
listening just like you maybe think she's
doing.
No matter what, good luck jess.
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laura_girl
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:18pm
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Sweetie,
stick to your guns and eventaully she'll
come to terms with the fact that you're
not getting an ab and will start to get
excited about her impending
grandmotherhood! It will happen. In the
meantime, stay strong! Why don't you go
out and buy a cheap unisex outfit or a
recieving blanket. And make a Dr.'s
appointment. Not only will this make it
more real for you it will make it more
real for her. And come on here anytime
you need to... Or msn me (if you have msn
im at t
ellmeasecret2@hotmail.Com )
best wishes,
laura
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*LiDdLeMoMmY15*
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:33pm
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Thank you so much girls :wink: I dont
know what I would do without yall!!
My mom hasnt really spoken to me since the
outcome. All she said jess why are you
made at me?? What reaction were your
expecting?? And all I said was not
abortion. Abortion is not an option for
peyton and i. In the end of all this I
bet she would be really happy that I had
her grandchild. And just to think she
wanted to get me an abortion!! I so
scared that she will call the clinic
tomorrow and schedule an appointment for
abortion.. What should I do if she does??
Peyton is thinking about joining the air
force... B/c the air force pays for our
house, and food for the baby and they give
us extra money. Only if my mom would give
me a chance to prove to her that I am
serous about this situation.. But she
didnt even give me a chance to talk awhile
ago!!! I will talk to her some more
..But if she makes that appointment I will
be mad at her forever and that is a
promise.. B/c I am not putting a scar on
peyton and i's heart all because only my
mom wanted me to get an abortion.. No
way!!!!!
Sorry so long but this is important to me
and I need all of yalls help! Thank you
for taking time and reading this!! It
means the world to me right now!!!
Xox jessica oxo
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bd1012
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:38pm
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| *liddlemommy15*
wrote: | thank you so much girls
:wink: I dont know what I would do without
yall!!
My mom hasnt really spoken to me since the
outcome. All she said jess why are you
made at me?? What reaction were your
expecting?? And all I said was not
abortion. Abortion is not an option for
peyton and i. In the end of all this I
bet she would be really happy that I had
her grandchild. And just to think she
wanted to get me an abortion!! I so
scared that she will call the clinic
tomorrow and schedule an appointment for
abortion.. What should I do if she
does?? Peyton is thinking about joining
the air force... B/c the air force pays
for our house, and food for the baby and
they give us extra money. Only if my mom
would give me a chance to prove to her
that I am serous about this situation..
But she didnt even give me a chance to
talk awhile ago!!! I will talk to her
some more ..But if she makes that
appointment I will be mad at her forever
and that is a promise.. B/c I am not
putting a scar on peyton and i's heart all
because only my mom wanted me to get an
abortion.. No way!!!!!
Sorry so long but this is important to me
and I need all of yalls help! Thank you
for taking time and reading this!! It
means the world to me right now!!!
Xox jessica oxo |
she shouldn't be able to force you to have
an abortion.. If my mom ever forced one
option or another on me, i'd slap her
silly.. Don't think I wouldn't! My bio
mom that is. I don't know what I would
do if bfs mom did that to me.. I'd
probably just pack my caca up and leave.
I'd def slap the caca out of bf if he
tried to force anything on me.. Esp if he
believed that I should keep the pregnancy
in case I wanted an ab.. No guarantees if
that's what I would do.. I'm just
saying.. Anyway.. I'd leave him if he
ever did that becuase that would be
forcing me to gestate since the only
reason I have sex is so he doesn't go
through withdrawl. He is prolife btw.
Don't bother telling me I need a new bf..
He is just a guy who is at his sexual peek
and that's only a 1/3 of our story.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:40pm
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If ur scared...See if you can stay with a
friend..Or peyton. Maybe peyton can be
nearby in case he needs to pick you up or
something. She can .N.O.T make you have
an abortion.
Keep ur chin up girl
luv yas
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*LiDdLeMoMmY15*
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:43pm
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Thank you! :) yall are right! Im not
trying to run from my responsibilities!!
So im not going to the appointment (if she
makes one)!!
Bd1012 - my boyfriend is all for my
decision he doesnt want me to get an
abortion and all.. He wants this baby as
much as I do!! Is that what u were
talking about?? My mother is the one
wanting me to get an abortion.. Not my
b/f.
Thanks yall
xox jessica oxo
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:46pm
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Anytime...Always here for ya
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bd1012
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:47pm
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| *liddlemommy15*
wrote: | thank you! :) yall are
right! Im not trying to run from my
responsibilities!! So im not going to
the appointment (if she makes one)!!
Bd1012 - my boyfriend is all for my
decision he doesnt want me to get an
abortion and all.. He wants this baby as
much as I do!! Is that what u were
talking about?? My mother is the one
wanting me to get an abortion.. Not my
b/f.
Thanks yall
xox jessica oxo |
no.. I am just saying that in case your
bf did want you to abort.. It wasn't up
to him either.
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laura_girl
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Posted: 01-09-05 21:50pm
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If your mom makes an appointment for
you... She still can't make you do it.
If she forces you to go, tell the Dr. /
nurse / counsellor (some laws require them
before an abortion) that you don't want it
to happen, that you're being forced.
They cannot legally force you to abort if
you say no, no matter what your mother
says.
I think you should find your local
pregnancy crisis centre and ask them for
help. They're generally pro-life
organisations dedicated to supporting
mothers-to-be who are in need. Try http://www.Birthright.Org/ to see
if there's one in your area.... Or just
google it. Some can even set you up in
temp homes from teen moms if you find you
really can't stay at home. But I hope it
dosen't come to that.
As for your bf joining the army.....
That's a wonderful sacrifice for him to
want to make for you and baby, but it's
also a huge commitment. And since you're
underage, would you have to marry him
before you recieved benefits? Would your
mom allow you to? Were you ready to marry
him *now* before you got pregnant? You
still have time to think about these
things, and while it's wonderful that he
wants to make that sacrifice for you and
his child, just make sure it's well
throught out first!
Best of luck,
laura
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rachrach
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Posted: 01-09-05 22:25pm
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Good job on telling your mom, i'm sorry to
hear she wants you to get an abortion..
It is your choice though, and I wish you
all the best!
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peanutbuttertreasure
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