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s2k
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Joined: 12 Jan 2005 Posts: 5 Location: chicago
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Pregnant 18yr Old Need Help Please
Posted: 01-12-05 22:45pm
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Please I need some help here.... Ok im a
guy... So obviously not pregnant... My
gf is not the pregnant one either but my
gfs sister is pregnant and I need to know
what to tell her we are relativly close
but I cant believe it! I am not the
father or nething she has a bf and yea
"it" suppoesdly broke and I need some help
here on what to say to comfort her she is
good friend and my gf is also upset please
help. Thanks a billion
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-12-05 23:23pm
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How old is she? Can she handle a baby?
Is she working? In school? Graduated?
Will the dad stick around?
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Tazzy D
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Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3717 Location: , va
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Posted: 01-13-05 15:29pm
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| jlee77
wrote: | all you can do is be
supportive. Go with her when she gets
the test, give her pep talks, you and your
gf (her sis) be there for her. Now are
you sure there is not more to this story?
You were quick to say "i'm not the
father"!! I'm not accusing, just asking!
Sometimes things are incinuated by what
is written. :o) is she sure she is
pregnant? Will her bf support her?
Either way she will need her family the
most. And tell her if her bf does not
stick around, she can do it herself. And
tell her to jump on in here. Everyone
here is great, non-judgemental and willing
and happy to answer all her questions, and
support her as well.
Good luck you all of you. Support
her!!!! |
ditto
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s2k
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2005 Posts: 5 Location: chicago
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Wel...
Posted: 01-13-05 22:04pm
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Ok yea im quick to say im not the fatehr
just to make sure we all have the story
straight I didnt mean for it to sound
jerry springer,,, but yea her boyfriend of
only like 2 months tops not even says hed
be happy and he would stick around but I
dont think he gets it.... Hes the father
and well yea... She went to the hosptial
last night and they said its too soon to
tell but we pretty sure and well her
parents = very religious not even joking
she would be disowned by her family I cant
believe it cos I myself not religios at
all still dont eblieve in premarital sex
thats only for myself I dont concern
myself with the actions of others but her
family is insanly strickt about that.
Dont worry about sounding accusive if
thats a word... I understand I only said
that just so u know the story... All that
happened was simple case of broken
condom.... Ack this is no good!
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-13-05 22:23pm
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Um can you answer my questions?
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Nikki n Rudy
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Posted: 01-13-05 22:36pm
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Jess, shes 18 (shes the one hes talking
about in the post) :smiles:
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s2k
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Joined: 12 Jan 2005 Posts: 5 Location: chicago
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Oops
Posted: 01-13-05 22:46pm
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Yea um sorry... Shes 18... Still in
college as like a dental hygenist and I
dont think shed be able to do it on her
own with her boyfriend hes poor himself
and only in grade seven had to drop out to
work.. Sorry
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-13-05 22:52pm
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Hes a seventh grader? Did I read that
right? What?
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s2k
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2005 Posts: 5 Location: chicago
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Yup
Posted: 01-13-05 23:06pm
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Yea hges in seventh grade... Same age but
he had to drop out of school for some
reasons that im not entirly sure... Hes
an evangelous (christian reborn) and his
dads an alcholac.... So yea.. Thats the
story behind that one
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-13-05 23:13pm
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What the hell is an 18 year old doing with
a seventh grader anyways I dont care how
cruel this sounds but if she does keep
that baby she needs to think realistically
and give him/her up for adoption
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i2cuteforhim
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Posted: 01-13-05 23:15pm
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When I was in 7 grade there was this one
guy hwo was like 17 and he was in the 8
grade. I dont think he had any friends
just for the simple fact that he was 17 in
the 8 grade.
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jessamyn
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s2k
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Posted: 01-13-05 23:23pm
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Yea hes the same age as the girl he had to
leave school but he came back to complete
his education hes actaully like a few
months older
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-13-05 23:24pm
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Okay then someone with only a 7th grade
education how great of a role model is
that?
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i2cuteforhim
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Posted: 01-13-05 23:26pm
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How is he going to finish his education??
Dont they have an eage limit in high
school?
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 01-14-05 08:04am
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| i2cuteforhim
wrote: | | how is he going to finish
his education?? Dont they have an eage
limit in high
school? |
after 21 they must go to adult school.
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unknowngirl504
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Dec 2004 Posts: 51 Location: New Orleans
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Posted: 01-14-05 11:16am
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Hahaa...This has to be the most confusing
topic yet!! Lol...I see what he's saying.
When I was in the 8th grade there was a
17 year old in my class. I guess you can
come back to school at any age under 18.
At my senior high school there was a 22
year old graduate. He wasn't the smartest
of the bunch but he put forth the
effort...........................Dependabl
e on a child's life? I dunno...All I can
say is see how he acts when the parents
get involved...If he stays by her
side...He's a good man..If not, than
adoption might be the best idea.
Reguardless of his actions everyone needs
to be 120 percent supportive of her and
her decision.
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