20 weeks is super early... It's amazing that he survived, usually the "viability" date is around 23 weeks, before this they don't "attempt miracles", your friend must have an amazing team of doctors and her son must have an awesome spirit and drive for survival.
I looked up stats for you... All I could find was that about 8% of babies are considered "premature" at birth (before 37 weeks) but I don't know how often this happens to babies as small as your friend's