Hello,
i'm having a very very hard time with my
girlfreind and just don't know what to do,
we have been together for 3 years now and
she has been wanting to go out more with
her freinds and I have no problem with
that.
But lately its been getting alot more and
I had a talk with her and basicly told her
I really don't like it and I would like to
spend sometime with you too.
So a few weeks go by and all is good and
she seems very happy even at work since we
do work together too and yes its very hard
but we seemed to manage, anyways she says
she's not happy anymore and needed to take
a break for a week or 2 and this was last
week. I wasn't to fond of the idea since
I don't think breaks work so good and is
always kinda weird after but I agreed with
her since that is waht she needed.
She moved in with her mom and she called
me wanting to come home after about 3 days
to which I agreed but when she came home
it lasted about 5 days before she said she
still needed time apart and wasn't sure
what she was feeleing but she says she
really loves me but doesn't wanna live
with me right now, needless to say i'm
freaking out and can't take this anymore
and told her to leave and don't come
back.
But this is killing me and I love her so
much so I called her to find out what is
going on and no she says she just needs a
few weeks to herself and says we will be
fine but how do I know that!!!
There is no other guy in this and I know
that for a fact. So what should I do I
cannot handle loosing her at all.
Thanks for listening.
Jon
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FISHX
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2004 Posts: 920 Location: UK
Posted: 01-21-05 14:08pm
Jon i,m so sorry that you are having a
tough time. It sounds to me that your
girlfrind is just going through the
everything is the same every day routine .
I would suggest that you court her from
her parents house for a few weeks I know
that it will be hard because you want her
back living with you but honestly put some
excitment in her life send her flowers
pick her up and then drop her back of at
her parents really get to know each other
again things will work out. Good luck.
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 01-21-05 21:09pm
I think you should give her some space but
call her and tell her that when she is
ready to talk you will be there. I know
how she feels. I went through that a few
months ago with my ex. I just didn't know
what I wanted. I eventually realized I
wanted him but then he like I am sick of
this I am leaving you and that was 6
months ago and I still love him but can
see why he did it . Don't make the same
mistake just stick it out and she will
probably come back to you. Just giev her
time to figure things out. Pm me if you
ever need to talk.
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yanny
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jul 2008 Posts: 1 Location: ,
Facing the reality of a broken relationship. Posted: 07-31-08 00:34am
Actually there comes a time to us that we
need some space and time for ourselves. To
better realize if we really love each
other or if love was enough for the two of
you to continue with that relationship.
Maybe it was too hard for you but i'm
telling you that it was harder for her to
be in that situation. Maybe she loves you
but she need some time for self
realization. Just like the song says "even
lovers need a holiday, far a way from each
other." That was probably is happening to
her. All you have to do is to understand
her for a while, then, after a week try to
confront her again. You can also go to her
house, visit her and do something sweet
presents. Bring her some flowers and
chocolates or something really special.
Girls usually appreciate those special
things made by their partners. Who knows,
she will soon realize that she really
loves you... But in contrary to that, you
must also know that when you love, it was
accompanied by risk. In the sense that you
must be ready for what ever decision she
will take. It's either too permanently end
your relation or work it out. But the best
way is be to honest with each other. Don't
be mad at her. It is better that she was
honest to you than continue the
relationship where in it was all a lie.
Accept the possibilities and face life for
another tomorrow to take..
