Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
trouble with ex-boyfriend Posted: 01-21-05 19:47pm
My ex and I split up in august. Oddly
enough he got me pregnant in october. I
never told him and don't plan to. I want
him out of my life. He keeps calling and
everytime he does; he says the most
hurtful things until I start crying and
then he is always like I gotta go bye. I
am sick of it. I feel nothing for him. I
just want it to be over with. He also
seems to always be where I am before I get
there too. He has a girlfriend also I
can't believe it doesn't bother her. His
friends call me too just to say ignorant
stuff to me. I also found a really nice
guy who cared about me and the baby. My
ex and his friend managed to break us up
within a week of him finding out. I am
over him but am now wondering if he is
over me? How can I get rid of him?
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KandyPants
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2005 Posts: 18 Location: Texas
Posted: 02-21-05 11:41am
I understand how you feel. I dated a guy
for awhile and ended up pregnant. I
broke up with him and he couldn't seem to
get the hint that I didn't want him
around. He would call non-stop. He
would threaten to kill
himself...Threatened to kill me once
too...While I was pregnant...So not only
was he threatening me but our unborn
child. He also tried to break into my
house a couple days after he threatened
me. Before all this threatening and him
trying to break in...I tried talking to
him and getting him to stay away, but it
didn't work. Finally after he tried to
break in...I had enough of it and I had to
go to the cops. I told my ex I went to
the cops and if he came to my house again
he would be arrested on criminal
trespassing. Finally he got the hint!!!
He ended up moving up to wy so I haven't
heard from him or seen him in about a year
and a half. Now everything is great.
My daughter is now 8 months old. I'm
dating a new guy...And we are engaged.
He loves me and my daughter. He treats
my daughter as his own. I'm not sure
exactly what your situation is...Or if he
was as bad to you as my ex was to me. If
he was as bad to you as mine was to
me...Then I completely support your
decision in not wanting to tell him that
you are pregnant. However, if it was
just minor problems yall had, he should
know that you are pregnant. You just
need to think of what is best for you and
your unborn child. And just remember
that one day you will have to explain to
your child why daddy is not around. It
might come back to bite you in the ass if
you have to tell your child that daddy
isn't around because mommy didn't tell him
she was pregnant! I'm still having hard
time thinking of what I will have to tell
my daughter one day. I mean...I know in
my heart I did the right think, and that
my daughter and I are better off without
my ex. But it'll still be hard to tell
my daughter why things didn't work out.
Best of luck to you. And sorry this is a
late reply to your post!
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 02-26-05 17:15pm
Thanks for your advice. Congrats on the
enagagement. The reason I haven't told my
ex I am pregnant is b/c both he and his
best friend told me if I ever got pregnant
that I would either get an abortion or
they would hit me in the stomach hard
enough to make me miscarry the baby. Now
I just stya away from him and if I do see
him I try to hide my belly. Everything
has been going good though I think he got
the picture.
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KandyPants
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2005 Posts: 18 Location: Texas
Sorry Posted: 03-09-05 17:20pm
Sorry it's been awhile since I replied to
your last post. Well if you ex is that
big of a creep then I understand why you
wouldn't want to tell him. You and your
baby will be much better off with out him,
just like my daughter and I are better off
with out her dad! Being single and
pregnant can be very hard and emotional.
There were times I would tell my best
friend that no guy would want me now.
For a long time I thought I wouldn't find
anyone because of my situation. I'm just
thankful I found the love of my life so
quickly after having my daughter. So she
will be able to grow up with a daddy.
Plus it's got to be hard for the kid when
they are older and mommy is dating guys.
The kid will get attached easily to the
guy you are dating. I will be praying
for you and your little one. I hope you
are as lucky as I am and find someone as
soon as I did! Good luck with all and
god bless!
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