Ok I have a problem and I know people are
going to say it is my own fault for
getting involved. I have a boyfriend. I
have had him for 3 years. Just this
summer his cousin started trying to mess
around with me. Well me and my bf had a
big fight.. He left for a few days. His
cousin came over and kind of took
advantiage of the situation. Well now me
and him are back together and my boyfriend
knows about what happened. Well me and
his cousin are still messing around and he
is trying to save his money to get me and
engagement ring. But I just don't know
what to do.
Please help. I love them both. My
boyfriend is kind of abusive and that is
why I have been going to his cousin. But
his cousin is going through a divorce
right now.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 11-08-03 07:59am
Hi baby,
goodness, it sounds as though you are in
between a rock and a hard place. I would
strongly advise anyone who is in an
abusive relationship to get out
immediately. Never ever accept abuse from
anyone, especially not your partner, they
are the one and only person in the world
who are supposed to respect and love you,
not beat you up and abuse you. That is
not love, that is domination. I don't
have a clue what your boyfriends cousins
situation is with his divorce, whether he
is still living with his wife or
separated. If he is still living with
her, then I would suggest taking things
very slowly, as he may be on the rebound
and still have unresolved feelings for
her, especially if their are children
involved. Anyway, good luck and I hope
everything works out for you.
Suzy
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Baby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 61 Location: Ar
Posted: 11-11-03 01:52am
I left my boyfriend this weekend and told
him that I wasn't putting up with the
abuse any more. As for the cousin, him
and his wife were only married for a year
and they have been seperated for four
months. She left town and after the
divorce is final she is leaving state. He
really is a sweetheart. He takes good
care of his little girl too. She is the
sweetest thing. His wife was kind of mean
and has been cheating on him off and own
since right after the baby was born. So
he made up his mind. They never really
got along after they got married. Thanks
for the help!!
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qt3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 264
Posted: 11-14-03 20:50pm
Baby,
good for you for getting out of that
abusive situation!
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phil dennison
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 71 Location: illinois
Posted: 11-14-03 21:56pm
Know good man would take from another man.
Leave them both and realize another man
you pick will be the same until you change
you. Good luck. True love is not this
nutty.
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philb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2003 Posts: 1 Location: Bali Indonesia
Go Solo For a While Posted: 11-15-03 03:34am
People say it takes "two to tango". In
your case, it seems like it takes three.
It also sounds like you're very young.
Your bf's cousin maybe wouldn't have
started hitting on you unless he thought
you wanted him to.
The 'advantage' he's taking of you is of
your youth and inexperience. From the
picture you've painted, it sounds like
they're both jerks and you're a bit of a
bozzo, too.
Get away from both of them and give
yourself a chance to grow up under your
own terms. An engagement ring is no
guarantee of anything, apart from
(perhaps) a life of misery.
You're young enough to learn from your
'mistakes'. Sex, drugs and house music
(whatever) are only ok in the short-term.
Good luck.
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Baby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 61 Location: Ar
Posted: 11-18-03 11:37am
Well I got rid of the cousin too. I am
not dating anyone really but this guy ask
my out and we are going to a movie on
friday. Nothing serious just fun. Most
people think I act older than I am. Just
because of the things I have overcome in
my past. I know this was wrong but I have
it figured out now thanks to all of you.
I will keep in touch.
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Baby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 61 Location: Ar
I'm Back Posted: 07-06-04 13:43pm
Well I got back with my bf for a while.
In jan. He tried to kill me. I was in
icu for three days. They could never find
proof that he was trying to kill me so he
isn't in jail. His cousin that I had got
ride of saved my life. He help take care
of me and get me back on my feet. Him and
his wife are divorced and we are dating
now. He still has to protect me from his
cousin but we are doing good and he bought
me a car. By ex bf totaled my other one.
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