Embarassing Sex Dilemma Question.. Posted: 01-29-05 04:47am
When I first met him, my baby's daddy
wasn't into sex at all..He said he had sex
with 2 girls before me, and none of them
were able to make him cum..Then when we
started having sex, he came pretty much
everytime..Well anyways now, for like the
past 2/3 weeks..Everytime we have sex I
can't seem to make him cum anymore. It's
really bringing me down and making me sad
cuz now I feel like i'm not good enough,
i'm just like the other girls..I wanna be
different, I wanna make him feel good.
Anyways I guess my question is..Has this
happened to any of you before? Does
anyone have any ideas on what I could do?
Idk I feel dumb posting this, but this is
totally bumming me out :(
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mommaashley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Oct 2004 Posts: 420 Location: Canada
Posted: 01-29-05 12:32pm
Maybe there is something wrong with him.
My guy cums all the time and so I thought
everyone did. Sorry I can't help much
other than maybe there is something wrong
with him.
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l2at24
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 01-29-05 12:33pm
I just read in another post that people,
men or women, who masturbate often get
used to the feeling of masterbation.
Then they have trouble climaxing during
sex. Idk, just a possibility. You
shouldn't feel like it has anything to do
with you. Think about all the women that
never have an orgasm during sex and they
still love their men more than anything.
Lol
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 01-30-05 00:10am
l2at24
wrote:
i just read in another post
that people, men or women, who masturbate
often get used to the feeling of
masterbation. Then they have trouble
climaxing during sex. Idk, just a
possibility. You shouldn't feel like it
has anything to do with you. Think
about all the women that never have an
orgasm during sex and they still love
their men more than anything.
Lol
that was the problem with my last bf I
think. Cuz he was ok for the first bit,
but after that it was like he couldn't get
off unless he did it himself. Really
sucks, I gotta tell ya.
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Clambake
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2005 Posts: 40
Posted: 01-30-05 03:45am
It is a problem with him and I seriously
doubt it has anything to do with his
masterbation habits.
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MissChicopea
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Allston, MA
Posted: 01-31-05 17:32pm
It may very well be a mental block as
well. My husband had never been able to
ejaculate via sex before me. In fact the
first 5 or so times that we had sex he
wasn't able to either. We talked it out
and we figured out that since he wasn't
able to the first few times with other
women, it became a sort of performance
anxiety.
Also, there is the fear in some men of
getting their partner pregnant.
Perhaps you two need to sit down and talk
it out. He may have a lot on his mind.
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 01-31-05 18:35pm
My fella has always had a low sex drive.
It doesn't mean he doesn't love me and we
show affection - kissing and cuddling and
stuff, he just doesn't demand sex ever and
I have to seduce him when I want it - hey
it keeps it fun and you don't get to take
it for granted.
When we do have sex he rarely cums without
manual stimulation and when he has it
suprises both of us lol
the more you guys fixate on not cumming
the worse it gets, you just have to relax
and enjoy.
Indulge in foreplay, have (safe) sex and
then indulge in after play.
I enjoy the sex but it is the fore/after
play and stimulation that concludes the
big *o*
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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 413 Location: Hawaii
Posted: 01-31-05 20:57pm
Thanks everyone
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Posted: 02-01-05 12:13pm
Maybe he's bored of the same old same old.
Change it up. Get some toys, wear
lingerae, seduce him... Surprise him in
his sleep.... Try new locations.
Justin
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cherriegurl
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Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
Posted: 02-01-05 12:34pm
I agree totally with kia, try rubbing him
before or maybe giving him a little bit of
head, and also try lots of positions!
If u need help figuring out some pm me and
ill help u out!
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MommyMichelle
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 11
How Does It Feel...asap Posted: 11-12-05 08:36am
I am just wondering how does it feel when
a woman climaxes. First of all is
climaxing the same as an orgasm. If your
answer is no then I thought so. So how
does it feel is it suppose to hurt? I
have had an orgasm before during foreplay
but I have been asked if I had ever "nut"
before I want to know what is that and how
does it feel?
maybe he's bored of the same
old same old. Change it up. Get some
toys, wear lingerae, seduce him...
Surprise him in his sleep.... Try new
locations.
Justin
the "surprise him in his sleep" is a
really good idea.. My hubby loves that :d
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sibley_b
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Nov 2005 Posts: 28
Re: How Does It Feel...asap Posted: 11-12-05 14:36pm
mommymichelle
wrote:
i am just wondering how does
it feel when a woman climaxes. First of
all is climaxing the same as an orgasm.
If your answer is no then I thought so.
So how does it feel is it suppose to hurt?
I have had an orgasm before during
foreplay but I have been asked if I had
ever "nut" before I want to know what is
that and how does it
feel?
there is a difference! I can't explain
it here though...Lol! When you climax
normally it is just contractions of the
vagina, that you can't control! What
someone asked you about the "nut", they
were talking about a g-spot orgasm, where
fluid is released from the body. Go to
this site and in the top left corner click
on sexual info, she has a long list of
topics! Make sure you read the difference
between the female and g-spot orgasm.
Good luck
www.Talksexwithsue.Com
