Do You All Think I Should Breakup With My Bipolar Boyfriend? Posted: 01-31-05 21:22pm
Help!!! I want responses, I appreciate
your time and imput
my boyfriend, whom I am in love with, we
have been together a year and half, it was
really great the first half, lately it
has either been really good, or a living
hell.
He yells at me, veins pop out of his head,
his face turns red like a lobster
his heart rate increases sometimes he has
sweat pouring down his face
he yells at me that I am not good in bed
he yells at me that I take things from
him, he drives me around, but I often give
him twenties here and there for gas.
I don't have a car, so I can't drive him
places.
He wants me to spend the weekend there, as
much time as I can
and now he wants me to pay for the towels
he washes, and electricity and food.
He never said anything before. Today, he
says I owe him at least 3,ooo.
I don't have money for a car for myself,
he yells at me if I am dressed nice when I
had to go to a meeting
and I really wasn't, I did not have makeup
just pants, a shirt, and a sweater...?
He has dislusional thought, I am more
than 5o pounds overweight, and he thinks
every other guy in the world wants me, it
doesn't make sense.
I am afraid of him, I wanted to break up
with him before, but then things were ok,
and then we are driving in car, and he
turns down a neighborhood, and pulls over,
he says, leave my purse in the car, and
get out, as I would have to walk a long
long walk home.
There is no public transportaion or
sidewalks around here.
When I am at his house, he can be
loving,sweet, kind, most romantic and
generous, and a love bug, cute, beautiful,
smart, helpful, wonderful
and then I do something he doesn't like,
or what I say, or how I say it
or how I answer the phone, with "what's
up" vs. Saying hello.
He flips out, does a 180, screams at me,
says the f word constantly
i think I should leave him based on the
negative aspects of him
but I know it will be a living nightmare,
I don't know what he is going to do
i don't know if it bipolar, he seeks a dr,
says he was dignosed withbipolar 11
type.
Thanks for listening, pray for me, that
would help.
I want this guy to be happy, I just don't
want it to be hell, when I break up with
him, I mean, when, how do I do it?
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luvdogs
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 1 Location: CA
I Can Relate... Posted: 02-02-05 20:46pm
My wife of 10 yrs is currently being
evaluated by local specialist. In fact
we have a drs. Apt. In a few minutes (so
I have to make this quick). I just ran
access this site a few minutes ago.
Hasn’t had a chance to scroll much but
looks like it can be helpful.
Anyway, she's been on an emotional
roller-coaster and dealing with some
medical issues for some time, and we had a
big blowout about not seeing things
eye-to-eye. We decided to seek
aggressive treatment and give counseling a
try. Thus a meeting with a psychologist
tonight.
So... Are you anyone else (babs..) still
out there?
Got to go
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Justin_Toronto
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Posted: 02-02-05 21:23pm
You already know the answer to your
question, you just want confirmation.
You know you should break up with him, and
you know why. No one deserves to be
treated like this. I'd say run, and run
quick.
I'm just scared of his response when you
leave him. I have a feeling he's going
to stalk you for a while....
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Justin_Toronto
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Posted: 02-02-05 21:24pm
You already know the answer to your
question, you just want confirmation.
You know you should break up with him, and
you know why. No one deserves to be
treated like this. I'd say run, and run
quick.
I'm just scared of his response when you
leave him. I have a feeling he's going
to stalk you for a while....
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Justin_Toronto
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Posted: 02-02-05 21:27pm
You already know the answer to your
question, you just want confirmation.
You know you should break up with him, and
you know why. No one deserves to be
treated like this. I'd say run, and run
quick.
I'm just scared of his response when you
leave him. I have a feeling he's going
to stalk you for a while....
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boogaloo
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Joined: 02 Dec 2004 Posts: 33 Location: kitchener
a Crutch!! Posted: 02-09-05 03:39am
I am a female with bi-polar and have been
dx so for about 10yrs. I've been married
for the same amount of time, but we were
together for about 4 yrs. Before. At
first I had problems with my moods, and
was delusional at times, but over time
with my meds. Things got better (took
about 4yrs.) but I never treated him as
badly as your bf does you. I would get
snappy, but not verbally abusive like
yours does. I think he must be frustrated
more, so at times and uses his disorder as
a crutch. If you continue to allow him to
do so, he will> I believe that we have
to learn about this disorder, and learn
how to live with it, but not allow it to
take over our lives. He needs to take
accoutability for his behavior. I would
put some serious altimatums down, and
stick with it. You don't deserve to be
treated like that, and he can't go around
using his situation as a crutch. He also
sounds like maybe his meds. Are not
keeping him properly balanced. Check it
out, or check out. Good luck!!
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caren1
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Joined: 31 Jan 2005 Posts: 7 Location: fl
Thank You For Your Words of Wisdom Posted: 02-09-05 10:55am
You are right, as I wrote I did know the
answer
and you are right, I needed confirmation
i suppose in the process of that
relationship, or whathave you
i lost my sense of self
i did break up with him, and I wish him
well, sincerely. (he does have major
problems, like his brain is broken)
yet, it did not go without incident
and my knee got hurt and I can't walk so
good, right now, I fell on the pavement,
knee is banged up, and won't heal cause it
is on the patella, I can bend my knee, but
it won't heal right, so far. :cry:
but it was as an 'accident' ( according to
him), so know way to prove how it
happened, no witnesses.
Anyways, life goes on, I just pray to the
universe that is over, and he will be out
of the picture forever.
Thanks for all the responses, it made me
feel better.
