If you are already on bad terms with the
guy, you should not expect any help from
there. Now, unless your relationship
with your parents is horrible and you
don't trust them to have your best welfare
at heart, I do feel that you are best off
telling them. This is stressful enough
to go through, and much harder if you have
to do this alone. Now, if your parents
are supportive and will help out, then the
situation becomes a lot easier. You did
mention in your post at the pregnancy
forum that you are "against abortions."
therefore, I really think that you would
be better off without one. When you are
opposed to abortions, then having one will
cause you a lot of stress and
selfcrimination down the line.
But again, that choice is yours to make,
and only you know whether you can go on
with the pregnancy.
That aside, if you don't have an abortion,
then you have to decide whether you want
to be a mother or not. If you do want to
or feel you are up to it, possibly with
help from parents and friends, then it
makes things easier.
But if you feel that you honestly can't
tell anybody, not because it would be
embarassing, but rather because you fear
something serious will happen if you tell
them, then you need some other support.
In that case you also then would need to
consider an adoption. This is also the
case if you do tell your parents and they
are suppoortive, but you all agree that
your family can not handle a baby. There
are lots of agencies that help with
adoptions, so it is not hard to actually
get done.
But as with abortion or even with giving
birth, there are stress and emotions
associated with it.
It is a huge decision you have ahead of
you, and it does become much easier to
handle if you can talk with somebody you
trust. Usually, that is your parents who
almost always truly have your best at
heart.
Well, that's enough for now. Lets know
what you think or if there is anything
else we can do for you.
