First of all you are 16.. Do you have a job? Think about the baby.. Are you going to be able to give your child what they need. That is the most important thing you need to think about.. You are only 16 I think that is a little bit to young to start planning to have a child... The best advice is to be more carefull if you arent preggo get on it, it will be the best thing for you.. Good luck to you

Yes I have a job and so does my boyfriend. We could handle it its just I dnt kno how I would tell my dad if I am preggo...Help!

Hey hun..Well first of all you need to find out for sure if you are or if your not...I was married by the time I found out I was havin my baby...But I was only 17...Im 18 now..It was hard to tell my mom and dad..But my husband and I just sit down and told them and they accepted it and the fact that I had enough respect to tell them before I got to far along helped out..If u want to talk..U can post again or pm me

First of all, be sure whether you are actually pregnant. Get a test.

Then if you are not, better find out whether you want to be pregnant or not. If you know that you can not, then better get on birth control. Otherwise, you would have to go through all this again.

(and, by the way, per statistics, only 4% of grils who get pregnant while in school actually manage to graduate highschool. That's not good odds.)

now, if you are pregnant and want to continue the pregnancy, then it really sounds like you need to first tell your mom and then have her help you figuring out how to handle your dad.

Find out for sure if you are pregnant or not first....No sense crying over something that isn't even there, right?? Go from there...One thing at a time

ditto. Why don't you wait until you finish high school? If you're already preg than that's one thing, but if not finish this part of your life first. School and getting married.

When I found out I was preg. At 19 I was scared to death to tell my dad. I told my mom first and asked her to tell him for me. When I was at her house one day she still had not told him, as I was leaving she went to the kitchen where he was cooking at told him just as I was fixing to walk out the door. He called my name and told me to come into the kitchen... I was scared to death! He was at the sink and I walked in and by my surprise, he turned around, smiled, and said are we having a boy or a girl?? He gave me a hug and told me he loved me and if I needed anything to let him know. I was so scared and stressed out at the thought of telling him I never imagined he would take it that way. It will sometimes surprise you the way people handle things. Be honest with your parents if you are preg. They will love and support you when you least expect it! Good luck, and keep us posted.

First of all, how many people on this forum are under 20 yrs. Old??? I've read soooo many posts about young girls being pregnant...Am I the only one who sees that something is wrong with this picture and has been for several years. Now, to the girl who says she "raised her brothers", how did you raise them if in your post you mentioned mom and dad? Young girls now a days think everything is sooooo easy when in reality, and sorry to say, these types of relationships never last......

age has nothing to do with anything texan.....

texan. I am 18 years old and have been with my 19 year old boyfriend for 3 years. I will be 19 in april. I am 12 weeks 5 days pregnant for the first time. Do you have a problem with me being so young and pregnant? Let him without blame cast the first stone....

I got pregnant teh first time at 17....Then again at 17....Then 2 times at 18...I didn't get that chance of seeing those first 3...But i'm going on 20 and I have a wonderful like, with a wonderful husband adn child. It was a strugle for us, but we've made it this far and I see nothing wrong with it.

So what if the girl is 16 and pregnant, she might make a better parent than some 30 year old woman!! So she has my support 100% even though i'm not sure what to really say to her, besides take a test before worring about telling her parents. :)

No, age is not the issue. There are sooooo many other things that young girls need to be focused on...Like getting an education. All i'm saying is that marriage and having a family now a days is so common in the young generation. Young adults find that everything is easy until they are in the situation. Why are people getting upset with my post. This is a forum to post whatever one thinks and feels correct????

I beleive you said you saw something wrong with young pregnant girls~am I correct??

I am in my 2nd semester of college right now. I have every intention of finishing my education and so does my boyfriend. 30 some years ago, starting a family was an important thing after high school now we're being told to put our family insentives on hold and go to college for 5 years and then after that when your in your mid twenties, start your family.

Ok im not going to sit here and tell you that you are not abe to take care of a baby at 16 because I am 16 and I am 20 weks pregnant. But for the rest of my life I have to be a mother and basically my childhood is over. I work almost 50 hours a week because oterwise I could not support my daughter. If you are pregnant then your life will forever change but if you are not please wait until you are more financialy able to support a child.

yes you did say something was wrong with it. You're judging, not stating an opinion....Back when my dad was growing up those ppl didn't go to college, but jumped right into a family....Now it's something that's wrong to do? I'm not in school right now, but that's because I would rather my husband get back to college and get a degree in something and start making us some more money tahn we're making now.

I stay home to take care of my child, so I must not be that bad off huh? And i'm planning on staying home with all my children till they're in school. Once all my children are in school i'm planning on going back to work. But that wont' be for another 10-15 years. :) there is nothing wrong with that.

And there are a lot of girls I know, some who are know 26 who had children when they were 16 or 17 and they're doing very well off and ther's nothing wrong with it. Ppl go about their lives differently and I don't think that you should come here and tell them that they're wrong. Cause that's wrong of you to do. Didn't you say this is for opinions and support? Well you're not doing too much supporting.

These girls are wonderful women. They're strong and intelligent!! They have their lives together, but you don't knwo that. I've been here for what? 3 days of posting now? They're great girls...I'm sure they don't think that of me, but whatever!! They're wonderful mothers nad just because they're young doesn't mean that they're going to do something wrong. They're going to go about thigns a differnet way, so let them!! :) it's their lives, not yours and all you need to do is support and give advice. :)

I beleive a girl should be a mature age where she realizes the responsibility of having a child. She should be aware of all the financial burdens and so on. There should definilty be a commitment with the father, and the father should be fully supportive of having a baby. I think it best for a women to at least finish high school. My personal beliefs are that a child should occur in marriage~but that is not always the way it turns out (look at me :).....I do plan on marrying the father sometime in the near future.....

But you said you wanted to be pregnant, right? So now you don't want to be? Just making sure I got that right.

First off....I notice that my post was popular and started a mini argument with texan...I want to thank you all for all the encouragement and support... Texan I see where you are coming from...I kno I am not ready...16 am I nuts right? Right! I took an oath at my church to save myself til I am married and my dad is a very religious person so that is why I am so scared about telling him...Because I had people believing in my oath and understanding its quality. The thing is...Yes I want to go to college...I want to raise a family but not yet...I still havent found if I am prego but if I am...Its not a regret...Thats a child that I have which is a part of my future husband. I plan to marry him...And live the rest of my life with him which is why I gave myself up to him. I dont regret that either.

Another thing...I did raise my brothers and sisters....My parents are divorced since I was 2 1/2....And both got remarried...My dad had 4 other kids with this other women...All she wanted was a baby girl of her own...And until then she kept trying...Had three boys and then finally a girl...Which is my only sister....I love her but my step-mom is not a mother in my eyes. I raised those boys and I love each of them the same. I do love my step-mom with my whole heart...But like I was saying...I practically raised those boys. So theres that story!

Another one...Texan...I understand what you ment...Althought I thought it was a lil harsh...But its ok...Im used to it...Hehe... But honestly...I kno I am not ready...I have a future ahead of me...And having a child would only add more stress in my life as also adding joy...But still! I mean...Like I said I am not sure if I am prego yet...But when I find out...I will tell you all...Trust me when I get my period...I will come one here and scream..With words of course in joy...But if I dnt get it...I will let you all kno...But then again if I do get it...I am starting the pill so no more worries(like this) again.

Its my birthday on friday...The 11th...And my bf is leaving for his monthly training for the army on the 12th...Upset but he got to do it...So hopefully I get my period cuz then he wont have to worry while hes out there...But once again..Yous will be the first to know whether or not I am pregnant.

I wanna thank you all again for the love and support...I feel much better...I feel like I have real friends again...Thanks guys (girls)...Well...I gots to head out...But please reply...Thanx a bunch!

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Have y'all noticed that she hasent posted since everyone started fighting! Every time that someone asks a question that people may disagree about they make it their poragative to debate about it. This is not about y'all!!!!!Yes, technically you may be old enough to have kids but the real question is can you raise them! All she was asking for was a little suport and someone to not judge her, but to talk to her. This is why this forum is going down hill because no one is supportive anymore! Just because she is 16 does not mean that you have to get so technical, and steen sometimes "shrinking" someone is not what they need!!!!!! She needed someone to talk to, not someone to belittle her!