I'm 18 (19 in april) and i'm 12 weeks 5 days pregnant. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years....We plan to get married, just not sure when. I have been raised in a christian family, who believes sex is for marriage and so on. When I told my parents I was pregnant, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. They were very disappointed in me and hurt pretty bad. However, they love me and are very supportive of me and my boyfriend. The best thing about being a christian is grace. We're only human, you know? God forgives all of our sins....Okay?? Your parents will probably be shocked, and maybe upset, but that;s just natural. Remember, if you bless a bad situation it will turn out to be a blessing in the end!! Good luck hun, and i'm here if you ever need to talk!!

Well, I guess to me, in a way I have disappointed myself to, because I disappointed them. But I don't believe in abortion...Or anything like that. And really the only thing I have to look forward to is knowing they dont believe in it either, and they should still love me, I will always be their grandaughter no matter what...My grandparents are prob. A little more complicated than your parents...They are really hard on me when I do something wrong in their eyes...Same for my dad. But I figure, god wil work it out, the best way he can. And I mean, look what I have to look forward too..Ya know?! It's amazing....Everything happens for a reason, I have always said and belived and if god didnt want me to have this baby and thought I wasent ready he would not have given it to me. Thank you for your support, but I am still undecided if I should tell them over the phone, or fly down for a weekend and tell them over dinner or something...???? Got any suggestions? Becca

Well, I guess to me, in a way I have disappointed myself to, because I disappointed them. But I don't believe in abortion...Or anything like that. And really the only thing I have to look forward to is knowing they dont believe in it either, and they should still love me, I will always be their grandaughter no matter what...My grandparents are prob. A little more complicated than your parents...They are really hard on me when I do something wrong in their eyes...Same for my dad. But I figure, god wil work it out, the best way he can. And I mean, look what I have to look forward too..Ya know?! It's amazing....Everything happens for a reason, I have always said and belived and if god didnt want me to have this baby and thought I wasent ready he would not have given it to me. Thank you for your support, but I am still undecided if I should tell them over the phone, or fly down for a weekend and tell them over dinner or something...???? Got any suggestions? Becca

Yes~god would never put anything on your plate that you can't handle. There's a reason that your having this child, and you may never know why it is, but it's all part of god's plan. I was really dissappointed in myself too......Mostly for having to put my family through this.....I won't lie though, I asked for it. I wanted to have a child~i just never thought it would actually happen.....It's really complicated.....However, i've been forgiven and that's all I need. The guilt is off my shoulders. A while back I used to get really down on myself when I first found out......Then my best friend reminded me that god will never make you feel guilty, it's the devil that will...

I told my parents over the phone.....I live at my university so I couldn't really go home....I don't think I could have told them in person either....It gave them time to sort of get used to it by themselves and by the time they say me, all was forgiven....That's what worked best for me, just listen to you heart....Good luck!

hello becca,

everyone makes mistakes in life, but we all know that a baby is not a mistake it is a gift from god to us and you are giving him that gift back, and even christian parents/grandparents understand that. If you are so scared to tell them this is my opinion. You say they are christians right?? Okay go to the store grab a christian card that discusses congrats or something about a baby, and put a sono pic in there. Just make copies and mail it to them . Good luck hun