justacanadiangirl
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What Should I Do?
Posted: 02-02-05 18:55pm
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Well as some of u may remember, I was
having problems with my ex being an ass to
me when I first realized I might be
pregnant. Now I haven't talked to him in
over a month and i'm so much happier for
it. But then yesterday he e-mails me
asking what's going on, and I told him i'm
not telling him a damn thing because he
was treating me like caca and he doesn't
deserve to know. Do u think i've done the
right thing by not telling him about the
miscarriage or should I have told him?
Any opinions?
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 02-02-05 18:56pm
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Imo as the father, he has a right to know.
Jmo
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justacanadiangirl
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Tazzy D
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Re: What Should I Do?
Posted: 02-02-05 21:30pm
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| justacanadiangirl
wrote: | | well as some of u may
remember, I was having problems with my ex
being an ass to me when I first realized I
might be pregnant. Now I haven't talked
to him in over a month and i'm so much
happier for it. But then yesterday he
e-mails me asking what's going on, and I
told him i'm not telling him a damn thing
because he was treating me like health
question and he doesn't deserve to know.
Do u think i've done the right thing by
not telling him about the miscarriage or
should I have told him? Any
opinions? |
its up to you and how you feel. Your not
preg. So you dont owe him an explanation
about anything... My opinion
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lilseraph
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Posted: 02-02-05 21:59pm
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I'm from bc too...
Personally I don't think it's fair to keep
such info from him cause of a
disagreement. I agree with sami that he
was the father, I realise it's not a
popular opinion these days to think a man
is half the responsibility for a child,
but i'm sticking to it - it was also his
child. Sorry to hear about the
miscarriage for sure, i've been there too.
But maybe you should wait until you're
comfortable to tell him. But if I were
him I wouldn't want to be left in the dark
no matter what kind of jerk I am, lol.
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 02-02-05 22:01pm
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Hey hun~i'm really sorry to hear about
your situation!! I feel that you should
tell him, but only when your ready to talk
to him about it......Don't stress yourself
over it, but I think he has the right to
know..
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girlstar
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Posted: 02-02-05 22:17pm
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From all the nasty things he's said to
you, I personally don't think you have to
tell him. If he can't be nice and civil
about it, he doesn't deserve to know. But
it's completely up to you :) I think if
he's a little nicer to you, he should
know. That's just my opinion.. Good luck
hun!
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littlered
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Posted: 02-02-05 22:43pm
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I think it is up to you. If you don't
want to tell him you don't have. If you
do. Then tell. It is all up to you.
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 02-03-05 00:13am
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Well the problem solved itself. Thanks
for all the advice. I decided I wasn't
going to tell him because I don't need to
be reminded of everything. So he was a
jerk again today and didn't seem to want
to be civil and he told me that that was
the last I was gonna hear from him... He
said the same thing last month... Let's
hope it's true this time.
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~*klo*~
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Location: eng
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 02-03-05 12:06pm
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Well, you sorta *tried* to tell him. He
didn't want to listen.
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1stTimeMom2Be
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Posted: 02-03-05 12:15pm
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I wouldnt tell him....Jmo....I went
through so much with my "sperm donor" that
I dont give a damn if he lives or dies to
be honest with you....He disrespected me
and my child and i'll be damned if im gone
care what the hell he wants now....He
hasnt been there for you or with you to
help you through any of this so why should
it matter what the outcome was....Jmo
hun...
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Newmommy23
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Posted: 02-03-05 12:54pm
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I don't think you owe it to him but I
think if u told him he would get out of
your life faster!! Goodluck hunny.
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 02-03-05 14:31pm
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| ~*klo*~
wrote: | | hey, I hope u r
ok |
thanks hun :) yeah i'm ok. I have a great
support system with my friends and all u
guys so i'm doing well :)
[quote=saminsunisma"]"well, you sorta
*tried* to tell him. He didn't want to
listen.[/quote]
i would have told him if he would be civil
and polite to me, but he's not, so imo I
owe him nothing.
| 1sttimemom2be
wrote: | | he hasnt been there for you
or with you to help you through any of
this so why should it matter what the
outcome was....Jmo
hun... |
i totally agree with u. He hasn't been a
part of my life as far as i'm concerned
since we broke up months ago. And he
never would have been there for the baby.
He says he would, but that's just a load
of crap.
| newmommy23
wrote: | | i don't think you owe it to
him but I think if u told him he would get
out of your life faster!! Goodluck
hunny. |
thanks hun. Hopefully this time he keeps
his word and stays away. I would like it
much better that way.
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 02-03-05 14:33pm
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Like I said you tried, you don't owe him
sh*t.
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1stTimeMom2Be
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Posted: 02-03-05 17:05pm
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Good luck either way hun....Do wats best
for you....Fudge wat he thinks....
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 02-03-05 17:20pm
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I don't think you "owe" it to him,
considering he's a complete
jerk....However I do believe that he has
the right to know.....Not telling you what
to do, but that's what I think....Tell him
when your ready to. Maybe it will grow
him up a bit...
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 02-04-05 05:52am
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| brianbaby
wrote: | | i don't think you "owe" it
to him, considering he's a complete
jerk....However I do believe that he has
the right to know.....Not telling you what
to do, but that's what I think....Tell him
when your ready to. Maybe it will grow
him up a
bit... |
honestly I don't care if he grows up or
not. He's not my problem anymore. And
the only way he would have gotten an
answer out of me is if he would have been
respectful of me. But that's fine, it's
all in the past. I just had one of the
best nights i've had in years and I didn't
think of him once, so i'm pretty happy
right now :)
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ndeary
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
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Posted: 02-04-05 06:29am
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I think he has a right to know, no matter
how much of an ass his been!
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 02-04-05 07:50am
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| justacanadiangirl
wrote: | | brianbaby
wrote: | | i don't think you "owe" it
to him, considering he's a complete
jerk....However I do believe that he has
the right to know.....Not telling you what
to do, but that's what I think....Tell him
when your ready to. Maybe it will grow
him up a
bit... |
honestly I don't care if he grows up or
not. He's not my problem anymore. And
the only way he would have gotten an
answer out of me is if he would have been
respectful of me. But that's fine, it's
all in the past. I just had one of the
best nights i've had in years and I didn't
think of him once, so i'm pretty happy
right now :) |
good gor you girl!! You deserve it!!
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