Imo as the father, he has a right to know. Jmo

Thanks hun.

its up to you and how you feel. Your not preg. So you dont owe him an explanation about anything... My opinion

I'm from bc too...
Personally I don't think it's fair to keep such info from him cause of a disagreement. I agree with sami that he was the father, I realise it's not a popular opinion these days to think a man is half the responsibility for a child, but i'm sticking to it - it was also his child. Sorry to hear about the miscarriage for sure, i've been there too. But maybe you should wait until you're comfortable to tell him. But if I were him I wouldn't want to be left in the dark no matter what kind of jerk I am, lol.

Hey hun~i'm really sorry to hear about your situation!! I feel that you should tell him, but only when your ready to talk to him about it......Don't stress yourself over it, but I think he has the right to know..

From all the nasty things he's said to you, I personally don't think you have to tell him. If he can't be nice and civil about it, he doesn't deserve to know. But it's completely up to you :) I think if he's a little nicer to you, he should know. That's just my opinion.. Good luck hun!

I think it is up to you. If you don't want to tell him you don't have. If you do. Then tell. It is all up to you.

Well the problem solved itself. Thanks for all the advice. I decided I wasn't going to tell him because I don't need to be reminded of everything. So he was a jerk again today and didn't seem to want to be civil and he told me that that was the last I was gonna hear from him... He said the same thing last month... Let's hope it's true this time.

Hey, I hope u r ok

Well, you sorta *tried* to tell him. He didn't want to listen.

I wouldnt tell him....Jmo....I went through so much with my "sperm donor" that I dont give a damn if he lives or dies to be honest with you....He disrespected me and my child and i'll be damned if im gone care what the hell he wants now....He hasnt been there for you or with you to help you through any of this so why should it matter what the outcome was....Jmo hun...

I don't think you owe it to him but I think if u told him he would get out of your life faster!! Goodluck hunny.

thanks hun :) yeah i'm ok. I have a great support system with my friends and all u guys so i'm doing well :)

[quote=saminsunisma"]"well, you sorta *tried* to tell him. He didn't want to listen.[/quote]

i would have told him if he would be civil and polite to me, but he's not, so imo I owe him nothing.



i totally agree with u. He hasn't been a part of my life as far as i'm concerned since we broke up months ago. And he never would have been there for the baby. He says he would, but that's just a load of crap.



thanks hun. Hopefully this time he keeps his word and stays away. I would like it much better that way.

Like I said you tried, you don't owe him sh*t.

Good luck either way hun....Do wats best for you....Fudge wat he thinks....

I don't think you "owe" it to him, considering he's a complete jerk....However I do believe that he has the right to know.....Not telling you what to do, but that's what I think....Tell him when your ready to. Maybe it will grow him up a bit...

honestly I don't care if he grows up or not. He's not my problem anymore. And the only way he would have gotten an answer out of me is if he would have been respectful of me. But that's fine, it's all in the past. I just had one of the best nights i've had in years and I didn't think of him once, so i'm pretty happy right now :)

I think he has a right to know, no matter how much of an ass his been!

good gor you girl!! You deserve it!!