Someone please help I am soo lost ok so my
bipolar boyfriend broke up with me because
he said that he couldnt handle his head.
We are so in love and I know he just did
it because he doesnt want me to get hurt?
Well he told me that he needs to get
himself sorted out and to fix himself. So
I said do what you need to I am here if
you need anything an I love you. Well the
other day he told me that I should just
give up on him and that I do not deserve
to be treated like this!! I told him that
I love him and when I fell in love with
him I fell in love with every aspect of
him, I am here for him no matter what and
something like this is not going to turn
me around and run from him. He is in his
depressive state, but he wont let me help
what do I do???! We love each other so
much but it is killing me that he doesnt
want me anywhere or part of anything woth
him right now. Is this normal?? Please
help he is now texting me that he misses
me and that I should be careful because
the weather is getting bad. Do I keep
waiting or what?> I love him with my
entire heart and dont want to be without
him!!! Someone pease reply and help me
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Gary13
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jan 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Austin, Texas
a Little Advice From a Non-expert Posted: 02-03-05 01:12am
I'm no expert in this field and I
recommend you do consult a counselor or a
psychologist, if possible, but I happened
across your message and thought i'd
reply.
Dealing with someone who is in a
depressive state or a manic state isn't
easy. Someone close to me is bipolar, and
it's clear that dealing with the disease
has been very difficult for her.
If your boyfriend has been diagnosed as
bipolar by a medical professional and if
his condition doesn't improve, ask him to
make an appointment. Contact his parents,
siblings, or friends if you think that
would help. Try to remain as calm as you
can when discussing this with him, as
having an emotional discussion may not
help.
My advice is general, and please remember
this is just one opinion from someone with
no medical training:
1. If your boyfriend has by chance ever
hurt you physically, it'd be best if you
kept your distance. You didn't mention
this, and this may not be an issue, but if
your boyfriend has ever hurt you,
*regardless* of his mental state, you
should be safe first. If you live with
him, consider contact a women's shelter.
2. If your boyfriend has been prescribed
medication but he has stopped taking it on
his own initiative, contact his doctor as
soon as you can. Going off medication,
changing the dose, or switching
medications can have undesired side
effects.
3. If your boyfriend is not taking
medication, see if he would consider
visiting a psychology, psychiatrist,
counselor, or clinician to discuss this
option.
4. If, in the worst case, you and/or he
decide it is best to break up, try not to
forget that there are a lot of people out
there, and in my opinion there's no such
thing as one and only one person for you
in the world.
5. If by chance you think your
boyfriend's depression could deepen and he
might become suicidal, consider
hospitalization. (i'm not suggesting he
is suicidal, but try to assess the
situation as well as you can and discuss
it with someone else you know who can view
the situation somewhat objectively.)
6. Try to get some sleep, exercise a
little to help relieve stress, and don't
forget to eat a normal meal. This sort of
situation is always difficult to deal with
emotionally, but you'll get through it.
Briefly put:
1. Consider your health and safety
first.
2. Consider your boyfriend's health and
safety.
3. Do what's right for both of you.
4. Don't avoid warning signs if the
relationship is in trouble. Seek
relationship counseling if you can, but
stay within whatever budget you may have.
