Ok so here is the story... I have been on
birth control for about 3 years and have
always taken it on time, well last month,
I had my period but was too lazy to get
around to getting my new refill. I didn't
get my refill until about 1 1/2 weeks
later. During the week that I was off my
pill I had unprotected sex but used the
"withdrawl" method... I got nervous after
that, so the following day I restarted my
pill( not on the right cycle day or
anything) I then took the pill for the
rest of the month. About at the time (in
the middle of the pack) that I should have
gotten my period, I didn't, I just had
cramps and other "period" signs, but now I
am done my pack and still haven't gotten a
period. Should I be worried that I am
pregnant? Or could my non existant period
at the moment be just because I was really
supposed to have it 2 weeks ago and my
body hasn't become used to this new cycle
that I have started myself in? I def.
Need advice
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 08-15-04 17:55pm
Wow, people come on a forum for help, and
they get yelled at and lectured.
Softball32, it really could be either
case. You could be pregnant, or your body
could just be re-adjusting to the pill.
Let me ask you this- the first time you
started taking the pill 3 years ago, was
your period late the first month? If it
was, I bet thats just happening again.
Regardless, pulling out is not an
effective form of contraception because
pre-cum can contain semen as well. I dont
want to lecture you, but if you knowingly
arent on the pill and have unprotected
sex, you're taking a big risk. It only
takes 3 seconds to roll a condom on.....
if I had to guess, i'd say its just your
body re-adjusting, but I would buy a home
pregnancy test asap! Or go see ur gyno!!
I hope I helped, and didn't just yell at
or lecture you!
Feel free to pm me if you have any other
questions! I'm always up for talking!
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Tubby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2004 Posts: 120
Posted: 08-15-04 21:23pm
Sorry, I guess I just have a problem with
women who worry that their pregnant when
the solution to the problem to preventing
pregnancy is so obvious. 1. Make sure
you take the pill regularly. 2. If you
use any other forms of contraception; use
it consistently and not just when you
remember to take it or feel like taking
it. Just common sense, here people.
Granted, I know that accidents can happen
even if contraception is used religiously.
Nothing is 100 percent fool proof. I
just don't understand how and why women
could come to this board asking such
questions when I think they know what they
are doing is high risk behavior for an
unwanted pregnancy.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 08-16-04 08:37am
Well, tubby once again, stop insulting
people please.
Also, are you on birth control? Have you
never, ever missed a pill? Have you
never, ever ever, been in the heat of the
moment and not realized that you hadn't
yet taken your pill for that day? Or are
you a man who doesn't have to worry about
these things?
No one is perfect, no, not even you.
Yes, it can be aggravating sometimes when
people make mistakes like this, but we are
in fact only human and therefore will make
mistakes.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 08-16-04 08:42am
Also there are quite a few factors that
some people just do not know about. For
instance, antibiotics.....Render birth
control pills ineffective. Yes, most
doctors and pharmacists will tell you
that, but they too are only human and may
forget. Also, natural supplements such
as st. John's wart render birth control
ineffective. And since such supplements
do not have to be fda evaluated they do
not have to say that on the label.
And condoms, certain lubes and such can
cause a condom to break, but does it say
that on the package? No.
I know a lady who was on birth control and
her partner had a vysectomy. She was on
an antibiotic and didn't know that it
counter acted birth control and she became
pregnant. Things happen! So, does that
mean she was irresponsible simply because
she didn't know what could happen! Was
it irresponsible because the 1 in a
million chance of her partner fertilizing
an egg happened?
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Tubby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2004 Posts: 120
Posted: 08-16-04 09:41am
I still feel misunderstood. Notice the
woman said she was "too lazy" to get
around to getting her refill for birth
control. That's exactly what i'm talking
about! Being "too lazy" to get a refill
is no excuse. Yeah, I know no one is
perfect, women can forget to take the
pill, but if a woman knows that she should
be on it and uses laziness to get a refill
as an excuse, to me that's just
irresponsible. And notice that I did say
that I know that no means of contraception
is 100% foolproof, but everyone simply
ignores that I said that. I know that if
a woman takes medication along with birth
control that it can render the pill
ineffective. I also know that things can
go wrong with condoms, etc. Etc. But
when a woman does realize before she has
sex that she should be using protection
and just says "oh, well, what the hell!
I was too lazy to take my pill or refill
my prescription today, but i'll have
unprotected sex anyway. Maybe there's a
chance I won't get pregnant. And I won't
make my man wear a condom either!"--that's
just ignorant and irresponsible. I can't
stress enough that carelessness and
laziness to use protection is what i'm
talking about. Contraceptive failure or
a pill that's missed because the woman
forgot to take it is excusable because no
one is perfect and no contraceptive is
perfect. But a woman like the one who
posted on top who obviously didn't forget
to take the pill but who was just too lazy
to take care of business is what I am
talking about when I discuss
irresponsibility. And i'm sure that all
of you would be taking my side if you knew
a woman who got pregnant out of her own
sheer laziness and irresponsibility to use
contraception and she was taking out all
of frustrations out on you. I've worked
with women who have done that to me, and
believe me I can't begin to tell you how
angry it makes me when women screw up
their lives and then make other people who
have nothing to do with it take the brunt
of their frustrations. Perhaps all of you
would change your tune if you had those
kinds of experiences.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 08-16-04 18:05pm
You know what you really need to mature a
little here. First off, unhappy people
blame everyone else for their miserable
lives and take their frustrations out on
everyone else for various reasons, not
just because of an unwanted pregnancy!
If you have a problem with this coworker
of yours then maybe you should do
something about it and not just blame
every woman in the world for it.
Once again, you are obviously a man who
cannot get pregnant in the first place.
I personally have to get pills every two
months. I can only get two packs at a
time. It may be laziness or it may be
that I am tired or just do not have time
to swing over that way in time. That
doesn't make me a bad person nor does it
make me irresponsible! It makes me
human. The same goes for the original
poster! We are human and no one of us is
perfect! "and she doesn't make her man
use a condom" well, that man should have
used his head in the first place and used
a condom anyway, but you seem to have no
problem with that. No, it is all her
fault because she didn't get her pills in
time. Let's just ignore where the sperm
is coming from in the first place. Her
man could have had a reversable vysectomy
or he could use condoms, but no, let's
just blame her.
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Tubby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2004 Posts: 120
Posted: 08-17-04 08:25am
Honey, a big part of being mature is
taking responsibility if one knows that
she doesn't want to get pregnant. I'm
sorry, but being too tired or too lazy to
get birth control just isn't a valid
excuse. Yes, human beings do make
mistakes, but that doesn't give us an
excuse to be irresponsible and using the
too tired, lazy, not enought time excuse
is irresponsible. And honey, if I knew
that I definately didn't want do get
pregnant, I would make time to get my
birth control pills!!!!!!!!!!! And if you
are really in that much of a crunch for
time, then just don't have sex until you
know you are safely taking the pill and
taking it correctly like you should! I
don't understand you women. An unwanted
pregnancy is just too big of an unwanted
responsibility to have the kind of lax
attitude you have. If you have sex and
you know that you haven't been using the
pill or contraception the way you should,
then of course there is a chance you could
become pregnant! But you women do it
anyway knowing that you skipped, missed,
were too lazy, tired, or in a crunch for
time to take the pill. These things are
just common sense!!! I'm not talking
about forgetting to take the pill or
contraception failure. I'm talking about
all the incidences where women know they
are doing wrong, but stupidly do it
anyway! And yes, men should take the
responsibility for contraception too, but
the reality of it is that women have to
learn that they cannot rely on the man
because they don't care. They aren't the
ones who get pregnant, so they figure it's
up to the woman to take the
responsibility. It's not right or fair,
but that is simply the reality of life
today. In a man's mind, if the woman
doesn't want to get pregnant, it's up to
her to take the responsibility. And for
your information, I am a woman who had her
tubes tied twenty years ago and have never
gotten pregnant.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 08-17-04 20:19pm
Oh, okay so since men "don't care" then it
is okay that they don't take
responsibility and let's blame the
women.
I agree with you almost fully, but like
one of the other posts said it is the way
you came here and just started putting
people down.
You are right....If a woman doesn't want
to be/get pregnant then the responsibility
does fall on her shoulders. Yes, the man
should wear a damn condom, but you are
right for the most part they don't care
etc.
I personally, have been too lazy to get my
pills and started a couple days to a week
late. However, I did not have sex then
either. When I was sexually active I was
much better at getting my pills on time.
Now, I sometimes put it off because
pregnancy isn't an issue, but I still
shouldn't because it is bad for me.
Anyway, I am sorry if we got off on the
wrong foot and I am sorry if I offended
you in any way.
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Earth Mother
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2004 Posts: 20
Not That This Helps Your Question Any ... Posted: 11-02-04 17:43pm
But just for the record, st. John's wort
(sjw) has never been proved to affect
birth control pills.
The reason they suspect it might is
because it did affect a treatment for hiv,
and since the body metabolizes that
treatment and oral contraceptives in a
similar way, they decided to be on the
safe side and mention that there's a
possibility the two could interact.
I was on birth control and sjw for several
months, and didn't get pregnant, had no
spotting, nothing. I did research
beforehand and was convinced it was safe,
and sure enough, it was.
To boot, there hasn't been a single report
out there of a pregnancy resulting
specifically from the simultaneous use of
birth control and sjw. Just my two
cents. :d
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004 Posts: 476
Posted: 11-05-04 12:31pm
I think most of the answers here are off
topic. To answer your question, I don't
think preg. Is a concern at this point.
You just screwed up your cycle by skipping
your pills. The pills put u on a reg.
Cycle, and if u miss them your body is
like whoa, when do I bleed now? So wait
a couple months and if it doesn't
straighten out or if you have other preg.
Symptoms, get a test. U can get a preg.
Test at the dollar store for about $1.
