Arguing about whether or not everyone is being mean to him isn't right or helping him either.

This tread itself stopped being helpful when the meanness started. Right now, only pm helps him out.

okay so if you want to point fingers who else is starting caca. You ....
Your on here giving opinions as well but not for him.. Its for everyone else on here.... My point exactly

I agree. He got the opinions he was looking for, but didnt like them, so the girls tried to re-assure him in giving him another opinion, he didnt like that either, he only heard what he wanted to hear.

Steen, you called 3 girls 'mean' for joking with him, if you consider them 'mean' you should consider him 'stupid' for not listening. Its not right, but its the same thing.

rather, they weren't helpful, as the advice was not applicable to his situation.
and then, because they spoke past each other, it was ok for the "girls" to be snide and ridicule him? I find it abhorrent. I find it poor manners and a whole bunch of other things. If somebody wants help and what you tell them doesn't help, then just leave it be, don't start attacking him. *especially* after it was clear that he does *not* live in the us, and all the posters started berating him because he didn't like the advice that only was applicable in the us or the western world in general. It is not his fault for living in malaysia.
read carefully. They weren't "joking with" him. They were ridiculing him. That is something else entirely, especially when he is scared and seeking help. It is like kicking somebody after they are down.
nope, as there was no advice that he could use. If you ask for help, and the answers are not useful, should you just accept that, or should you continue asking for help? There *were* useful answers out there. And if, instead of ridiculing him, the "girls" had bothered reading what he wrote and perhaps asked some clarifying questions, then they might have been able to help him. They chose not to and to assume that if he couldn't use their brilliant answers, it must be because there was something wrong with him. Such extreme narcissism.

Why can't everyone just move on and get over it? The guy will be getting help for him and his girfriend hopefully. No one can make sure he gets her to a doctor b/c we aren't there. Fighting about it isn't going to help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, please forgive me steen. I should have been able to read his mind like you did. If he would have posted his 'whole' situation, I would have done everything I could to help. I do research for people all the time. Look at my posts. He wanted more info, diff answers, but didn't give us anymore info about his situation. And is what I said in my last post true? There's absolutely no one he could go to? Is she the only girl that could possibly be in this situation? The only preg in that area for years? They were both born and now 16 years later she is the only woman left for miles? I don't buy it. I don't care what country he's in. Most other countries have much tighter families than americans. Surely, she can find help.

I dont know what could be more helpfull then going to the doctors?
If thats not good advice, then I dont know what is... But if...

He cant go to the doctors
he cant tell his parents
abortion is illegal
and he has no money
so, he should just sit back and do nothing, right?
Well, hell sit at the computer saying "is she pg, is she pg?"

steen- what advice did you give him? And why is it so great?
And why do you feel the need to disect everything anyone says?
You seem a little too on the defense.

Okay, like I said I found a clinic in haiti, you can find one in malaysia, your telling me you have internet connection etc but never been to the doctor? :roll:

Lmao hil, I didn't even think about the internet access and no doc thing. That's the thing that drives me the most crazy. The disecting of every sentence!!!!! What is your profession again? I'm assuming you make a nice income, since most docs do. And if you have time to do all this posting, to even visit this site each day, I want to do what you do. Lmao.

Steen? He's a therapist, shrink, psychiatrist, some head doctor.

Seriously, the can't find the doctor bugs me, I found one, and i'm sure you've gone to the doctor before, it may not be the best clinic/hospital in the world, but do not tell me they don't have clinics in malaysia.

Isnt he just awful sometimes!

yes!

Urm..Isn't this forum about helping someone and not flaming? Seriously steen did help me alot by only giving me 1 simple link malaysia's planned parenthood link which is what I need all along....I told you all b4 i'm not from us therfore planned parenthood can't apply for me-_-....Anyway sorry for being stupid or whatever you all called me and thx for all your help..I'll talk it over with steen privately...Sorry for causing so much disturbance.....

They have clinics everywhere you just have to find them...

Most of the girls on here just have issues with steen because he argues everything

steen dont you dare quote me on this

first off everyone didnt call you stupid.... But just look at your post. No one helped you. We said go to a clinic or something around you. Funny you said you didnt have those okay well then we said a doc. Or whatever. You thendidnt want to hear that. Now you are just contradicting yourself ex.


Seriously steen did help me alot by only giving me 1 simple link malaysia's planned parenthood link which is what I need all along



you said you didnt have one of those. And that is in your words but that is what steen gave you a planned parenthood link.....



I told you all b4 i'm not from us therfore planned parenthood can't apply for me-_-....





Okay once again we tried. Just because we didnt get the actual link for you doesnt mean we didnt try to help you.

Okay scaredguy.....

I honestly do not think that your girlfriend is pregnant. I had implantation bleeding when I was pregnant, but never a regular period. I've heard of some women having a period while pregnant, but it's very unlikely. She probably just had a really messed up period that month. She's supposed to start her period in like 10 days, right?? Just relax untill then, and if she gets her period, then she's def. Not pregnant! Seriously I think your just really scared and really paranoid about all this...Nipple sensations can be alot of things like ovualtion, arousal, hormones, etc.....If she dosn't get her period this month, then try finding any dr around you. It's very important for her to get pre-natal care right away if she is indeed pregnant. I really think she should go to the dr regardless if she get's her period or not, because any women who is sexually active should be regularly checked by a gyno. I know your scared and you feel weird going to a dr like that so young, but ultimately only you can decide what to do in the end! Good luck hun!!

i didn't read his mind. I read his post, just as you apparently did, kind off.
If he would have posted his 'whole' situation, I would have done everything I could to help. I do research for people all the time. Look at my posts. He wanted more info, diff answers, but didn't give us anymore info about his situation.[/quote]so therefore he should be ridiculed?
the only one they know, for all we know. That you *assumed* otherwise, that's your doing. Buit hey, you could appologize to him, perhaps?

i gave him a link to the family planning clinic association of malaysia.

start by getting through med school.