Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 02-09-05 16:37pm
Arguing about whether or not everyone is
being mean to him isn't right or helping
him either.
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 02-09-05 16:39pm
This tread itself stopped being helpful
when the meanness started. Right now,
only pm helps him out.
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 02-09-05 16:41pm
steen
wrote:
this tread itself stopped
being helpful when the meanness started.
Right now, only pm helps him
out.
okay so if you want to point fingers who
else is starting caca. You ....
Your on here giving opinions as well but
not for him.. Its for everyone else on
here.... My point exactly
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-09-05 16:45pm
I agree. He got the opinions he was
looking for, but didnt like them, so the
girls tried to re-assure him in giving him
another opinion, he didnt like that
either, he only heard what he wanted to
hear.
Steen, you called 3 girls 'mean' for
joking with him, if you consider them
'mean' you should consider him 'stupid'
for not listening. Its not right, but its
the same thing.
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 02-09-05 16:59pm
pinkbaby
wrote:
i agree. He got the
opinions he was looking for, but didnt
like them,
rather, they weren't
helpful, as the advice was not applicable
to his situation.
Quote:
so the girls
tried to re-assure him in giving him
another opinion, he didnt like that
either, he only heard what he wanted to
hear.
and then, because they
spoke past each other, it was ok for the
"girls" to be snide and ridicule him? I
find it abhorrent. I find it poor
manners and a whole bunch of other things.
If somebody wants help and what you tell
them doesn't help, then just leave it be,
don't start attacking him. *especially*
after it was clear that he does *not* live
in the us, and all the posters started
berating him because he didn't like the
advice that only was applicable in the us
or the western world in general. It is
not his fault for living in malaysia.
Quote:
steen, you called
3 girls 'mean' for joking with
him,
read carefully. They
weren't "joking with" him. They were
ridiculing him. That is something else
entirely, especially when he is scared and
seeking help. It is like kicking
somebody after they are down.
Quote:
if you consider
them 'mean' you should consider him
'stupid' for not listening. Its not
right, but its the same
thing.
nope, as there was no
advice that he could use. If you ask for
help, and the answers are not useful,
should you just accept that, or should you
continue asking for help? There *were*
useful answers out there. And if, instead
of ridiculing him, the "girls" had
bothered reading what he wrote and perhaps
asked some clarifying questions, then they
might have been able to help him. They
chose not to and to assume that if he
couldn't use their brilliant answers, it
must be because there was something wrong
with him. Such extreme narcissism.
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 02-09-05 17:01pm
Why can't everyone just move on and get
over it? The guy will be getting help for
him and his girfriend hopefully. No one
can make sure he gets her to a doctor b/c
we aren't there. Fighting about it isn't
going to help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 02-09-05 17:09pm
Well, please forgive me steen. I should
have been able to read his mind like you
did. If he would have posted his 'whole'
situation, I would have done everything I
could to help. I do research for people
all the time. Look at my posts. He
wanted more info, diff answers, but didn't
give us anymore info about his situation.
And is what I said in my last post true?
There's absolutely no one he could go to?
Is she the only girl that could possibly
be in this situation? The only preg in
that area for years? They were both born
and now 16 years later she is the only
woman left for miles? I don't buy it.
I don't care what country he's in. Most
other countries have much tighter families
than americans. Surely, she can find
help.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-09-05 17:29pm
I dont know what could be more helpfull
then going to the doctors?
If thats not good advice, then I dont know
what is... But if...
He cant go to the doctors
he cant tell his parents
abortion is illegal
and he has no money
so, he should just sit back and do
nothing, right?
Well, hell sit at the computer saying "is
she pg, is she pg?"
steen- what advice did you give him? And
why is it so great?
And why do you feel the need to disect
everything anyone says?
You seem a little too on the defense.
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SamiNSunisMa
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Nov 2004 Posts: 1528
Posted: 02-09-05 18:19pm
Okay, like I said I found a clinic in
haiti, you can find one in malaysia, your
telling me you have internet connection
etc but never been to the doctor? :roll:
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 02-09-05 19:16pm
Lmao hil, I didn't even think about the
internet access and no doc thing.
That's the thing that drives me the most
crazy. The disecting of every
sentence!!!!! What is your profession
again? I'm assuming you make a nice
income, since most docs do. And if you
have time to do all this posting, to even
visit this site each day, I want to do
what you do. Lmao.
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SamiNSunisMa
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Nov 2004 Posts: 1528
Posted: 02-09-05 19:31pm
Steen? He's a therapist, shrink,
psychiatrist, some head doctor.
Seriously, the can't find the doctor bugs
me, I found one, and i'm sure you've gone
to the doctor before, it may not be the
best clinic/hospital in the world, but do
not tell me they don't have clinics in
malaysia.
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4116 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
Thanked:3
Posted: 02-09-05 20:33pm
Isnt he just awful sometimes!
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 02-09-05 20:39pm
jessamyn
wrote:
isnt he just awful
sometimes!
yes!
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scaredguy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2005 Posts: 38
Posted: 02-09-05 20:56pm
Urm..Isn't this forum about helping
someone and not flaming? Seriously steen
did help me alot by only giving me 1
simple link malaysia's planned parenthood
link which is what I need all along....I
told you all b4 i'm not from us therfore
planned parenthood can't apply for
me-_-....Anyway sorry for being stupid or
whatever you all called me and thx for all
your help..I'll talk it over with steen
privately...Sorry for causing so much
disturbance.....
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4116 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
Thanked:3
Posted: 02-09-05 21:14pm
They have clinics everywhere you just have
to find them...
Most of the girls on here just have issues
with steen because he argues everything
steen dont you dare quote me on this
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 02-09-05 21:15pm
scaredguy
wrote:
urm..Isn't this forum about
helping someone and not flaming?
Seriously steen did help me alot by only
giving me 1 simple link malaysia's planned
parenthood link which is what I need all
along....I told you all b4 i'm not from us
therfore planned parenthood can't apply
for me-_-....Anyway sorry for being stupid
or whatever you all called me and thx for
all your help..I'll talk it over with
steen privately...Sorry for causing so
much
disturbance.....
first off everyone didnt call you
stupid.... But just look at your post.
No one helped you. We said go to a
clinic or something around you. Funny
you said you didnt have those okay well
then we said a doc. Or whatever. You
thendidnt want to hear that. Now you are
just contradicting yourself ex.
Seriously steen did help me alot by only
giving me 1 simple link malaysia's planned
parenthood link which is what I need all
along
you said you didnt have one of those.
And that is in your words but that is what
steen gave you a planned parenthood
link.....
I told you all b4 i'm not from us therfore
planned parenthood can't apply for
me-_-....
Okay once again we tried. Just because
we didnt get the actual link for you
doesnt mean we didnt try to help you.
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 02-09-05 21:19pm
Okay scaredguy.....
I honestly do not think that your
girlfriend is pregnant. I had
implantation bleeding when I was pregnant,
but never a regular period. I've heard
of some women having a period while
pregnant, but it's very unlikely. She
probably just had a really messed up
period that month. She's supposed to
start her period in like 10 days, right??
Just relax untill then, and if she gets
her period, then she's def. Not pregnant!
Seriously I think your just really
scared and really paranoid about all
this...Nipple sensations can be alot of
things like ovualtion, arousal, hormones,
etc.....If she dosn't get her period this
month, then try finding any dr around you.
It's very important for her to get
pre-natal care right away if she is indeed
pregnant. I really think she should go
to the dr regardless if she get's her
period or not, because any women who is
sexually active should be regularly
checked by a gyno. I know your scared
and you feel weird going to a dr like that
so young, but ultimately only you can
decide what to do in the end! Good luck
hun!!
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 02-09-05 23:18pm
l2at24
wrote:
well, please forgive me
steen. I should have been able to read
his mind like you
did.
i didn't read his mind.
I read his post, just as you apparently
did, kind off.
If he would have posted his 'whole'
situation, I would have done everything I
could to help. I do research for people
all the time. Look at my posts. He
wanted more info, diff answers, but didn't
give us anymore info about his
situation.[/quote]so therefore he should
be ridiculed?
Quote:
and is what I
said in my last post true? There's
absolutely no one he could go to? Is
she the only girl that could possibly be
in this
situation?
the only one they know,
for all we know. That you *assumed*
otherwise, that's your doing. Buit hey,
you could appologize to him, perhaps?
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 02-09-05 23:19pm
pinkbaby
wrote:
steen- what advice did you
give him? And why is it so great?
i gave him a link to the
family planning clinic association of
malaysia.
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 02-09-05 23:20pm
l2at24
wrote:
lmao hil, I didn't even
think about the internet access and no doc
thing. That's the thing that drives me
the most crazy. The disecting of every
sentence!!!!! What is your profession
again? I'm assuming you make a nice
income, since most docs do. And if you
have time to do all this posting, to even
visit this site each day, I want to do
what you do.
Lmao.
