Pregnancy Forum - I Think She's Pregnant page 5


I Think She's Pregnant	Join us now!

Medical Questions-> Health Forums -> Pregnancy -> I Think She's Pregnant

Author

Message

steen

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest

Posted: 02-09-05 23:24pm

tazzy d wrote:

first off everyone didnt call you stupid....

enough did. Enough that it is outrageous. And I am frankly disturbed that you are not more upset that somebody who needs help gets heckled instead.

Quote:

but just look at your post. No one helped you. We said go to a clinic or something around you. Funny you said you didnt have those okay well then we said a doc. Or whatever. You thendidnt want to hear that.

nope, he just couldn't apply that.

Quote:

seriously steen did help me alot by only giving me 1 simple link malaysia's planned parenthood link which is what I need all along

you said you didnt have one of those. And that is in your words but that is what steen gave you a planned parenthood link.....

actually, it wasn't planned prenthood, but just something like it:
http://www.Ffpam.Org.My/hist ory.Asp

Quote:

okay once again we tried. Just because we didnt get the actual link for you doesnt mean we didnt try to help you.

that was before the heckling started, right?

SamiNSunisMa

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 27 Nov 2004
Posts: 1528

Posted: 02-09-05 23:49pm


Okay, steen, but when the same person make 21054923 posts about how they might be pregnant it gets old.

steen

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest

Posted: 02-09-05 23:51pm


And if you actually read what they said and answered according to that person's concern, then there wouldn't be that much need to repost the request for help. And so what if it gets old? Is the green light to heckle, belittle and tease them. Is that frankly an acceptable thing to do to somebody in distress? It is astonishing that you guys still are trying to blame him for your own less-than-exsemplar behavior. What is wrong with taking responsibility for your own actions and appologizing for demeaning and ridiculing this guy? Blaming the victim is not a sign of maturity, in case anybody is not clear on that.

SamiNSunisMa

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 27 Nov 2004
Posts: 1528

Posted: 02-10-05 00:08am


Blah blah, we answered him, he didn't like the answer so he asked again. It's stupid and ignorant don't tell me he has never been to the doctor before... So why doesn't he take his girl to that place?

jessamyn

Moderator

Joined: 18 Aug 2004
Posts: 4116
Location: San Diego, CA

Thanks: 11

Thanked:3

Posted: 02-10-05 00:14am


Haha hilary he just wanted someone to do the work for him basically and thats what steen did

SamiNSunisMa

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 27 Nov 2004
Posts: 1528

Posted: 02-10-05 00:25am


Obviously he has a phone... And internet lol, so yeah he did I guess.

l2at24

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 06 Nov 2004
Posts: 1509

Posted: 02-10-05 07:05am


Okay, I went back and read this entire post again. There was no sign that he was scared about anything except his gf being preg. He didn't mention being concerned for her health or any other consequences that would come with her being preg. He gave us all these dates and said she took and hpt. He said he couldn't take her to the doc b/c he was 17 and she 16 and it would look funny. He never said there was no doc available. Jessamyn even asked him where he lives!!! And he didn't answer. If I really felt he wanted/needed 'help' I wouldn't have found humor in his situation. Steen, lighten up.

BrianBaby

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 19 Jan 2005
Posts: 1383

Posted: 02-10-05 08:04am


Everybody: can we please give a big round of applause for steen being the god of this forum and for having all the right answers! :) ::clap::clap::clap::

jessamyn

Moderator

Joined: 18 Aug 2004
Posts: 4116
Location: San Diego, CA

Thanks: 11

Thanked:3

Posted: 02-10-05 08:05am


Dude he finally pmed me and was like we'll die if we go to the docs or something! Hello then dont have sex!

Tazzy D

Advanced Support Team

Joined: 30 Oct 2004
Posts: 3718
Location: , va

Posted: 02-10-05 09:40am

steen wrote:

tazzy d wrote:

first off everyone didnt call you stupid....

enough did. Enough that it is outrageous. And I am frankly disturbed that you are not more upset that somebody who needs help gets heckled instead.

Quote:

nope, he just couldn't apply that.

Quote:

actually, it wasn't planned prenthood, but just something like it:
http://www.Ffpam.Org.My/hist ory.Asp

Quote:

okay once again we tried. Just because we didnt get the actual link for you doesnt mean we didnt try to help you.

that was before the heckling started, right?

stten look I figured it out. He just wanted a mans opinion and no
one elses. Esp. Not from us lol..... We are pregnant woman

steen

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest

Posted: 02-10-05 10:03am

l2at24 wrote:

steen, lighten up.

why should i? As long as you are so busy showing your immature need to attack him for you being mean to him, I have no reason to treat you with respect. When you can't even owe up to your actions and admit that you didn't treat him nice, you really don't have much standing in telling others what to do.

And yes, I did notice that *you* were the one instigating the ridicule.

steen

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest

Posted: 02-10-05 10:06am

tazzy d wrote:

stten look I figured it out. He just wanted a mans opinion

really? And that was indicated where? Rather, he wanted information that was useful to him instead of being attacked and ridiculed. Yes, you obviously *still* are trying to defend how he was atatcked. That is rather sad. At least I thought *you* had integrity. Some of the other posters here have had their differences with me before and shown their lack of integrity, but you at least have always shown that you had it. So why drop it now, defending the ridicule that this guy was exposed to?

~*klo*~

Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy

Joined: 19 Nov 2004
Posts: 353
Location: eng

Posted: 02-10-05 10:18am


Hey everyone, we all no this has happened before right? No1 is ever going to stop any1 from having there own personal oppinion. So now that the guy has had help, and is recieving it from who he wanted it from we should all agree to dissagree with one person or another. And we all no that no1 here was intentially being mean! So lets stop this thread from going on... And on.. And on.. And not write any more!! Please all end now. Goodluck every1, and I hope that I have not offended anyone. Thanks chloe

l2at24

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 06 Nov 2004
Posts: 1509

Posted: 02-10-05 10:56am

steen wrote:

l2at24 wrote:

steen, lighten up.

i figured you wouldn't have a comeback to the first 10 sentences. Anyway, I didn't say anything about respect. I do not feel that you have disrespected me. I guess they didn't teach you that lighten up and respect are not synonyms in med school. And if you've read this thread, I said sorry to scaredguy before you ever posted here. In another post I asked what exactly you did and your reply was - get through med school first. It's amusing you only respond when you feel you have something witty to say and ignore the rest of the post.

steen

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest

Posted: 02-10-05 11:00am


You want me to go into details on how meanspirited you were? Is that what you are saying here? You want me to dissect the rest of your post? I'll be happy to do so if you want me to.

l2at24

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 06 Nov 2004
Posts: 1509

Posted: 02-10-05 11:03am


Please do. Let's see how long it takes you to dissect every sentence...It's 11:04 am my time.

lil_blaze2004

Supporter

Joined: 29 Oct 2004
Posts: 6492
Location: ,

Thanks: 1

Thanked:0

Posted: 02-10-05 11:05am

steen wrote:

you want me to go into details on how meanspirited you were? Is that what you are saying here?

You want me to dissect the rest of your post? I'll be happy to do so if you want me to.

lana and tanya (l2at24 and tazzy) are 2 of the people I would not mess with on this forum since we love them and will back up anything they have to say 100% pretty much no matter what. So I think people should just stop arguing on this forum.. We don't like arguing, no offense but I don't know any man that can win an argument against a bunch of pregnant women and mom's--lol.

steen

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest

Posted: 02-10-05 11:12am

l2at24 wrote:

please do. Let's see how long it takes you to dissect every sentence...It's 11:04 am my time.

very well. Then I also presume you will give my response its due attention so as to not be a hypocrite

Quote:

okay, I went back and read this entire post again. There was no sign that he was scared about anything except his gf being preg.

which certainly is scary enough living in a foreign country where healthcare facilities or access is not necessarily up to speed.

Quote:

he didn't mention being concerned for her health or any other consequences that would come with her being preg.

irrelevant. They are concerned about the pregnancy itself.

Quote:

he gave us all these dates and said she took and hpt. He said he couldn't take her to the doc b/c he was 17 and she 16 and it would look funny. He never said there was no doc available.

and he stated that he didn't know how to. He also stated that if their concern was the need for an abortion, that it wasn't legal, which could get them into trouble. So it is not like calling up your local physician. Did you miss that part?

Quote:

jessamyn even asked him where he lives!!! And he didn't answer.

irrelevant. We already knew that he didn't live in the western world, as abortions were illegal.

Quote:

if I really felt he wanted/needed 'help' I wouldn't have found humor in his situation.

yet you did and ridiculed him.

Quote:

steen, lighten up.

and this I already replied to.

steen

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest

Posted: 02-10-05 11:15am

lil_blaze2004 wrote:

lana and tanya (l2at24 and tazzy) are 2 of the people I would not mess with on this forum since we love them and will back up anything they have to say 100% pretty much no matter what.

even to the point of being mean against somebody who asks for help because they are sacred? Hmm, now that you have revealed you degree of character, we will continue.

Quote:

so I think people should just stop arguing on this forum..

that would be nice. But if I see people being ridiculed as happened here, I will, of course speak up. That is part of my integrity.

Quote:

we don't like arguing,

but we do like bullying?

Quote:

no offense but I don't know any man that can win an argument against a bunch of pregnant women and mom's--lol.

i am not talking about "winning" here

lil_blaze2004

Supporter

Joined: 29 Oct 2004
Posts: 6492
Location: ,

Thanks: 1

Thanked:0

Posted: 02-10-05 11:18am


I didn't read all 5 pages of this post so I didn't see them being mean to anyone. Please if you are here to "help" this guy then do so and that's it you are ruining the pregnancy forum for the rest of us.