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Q: I Need Help!

asked by: konfuzed on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

Alright,well my girlfriend has yet to start her period, today will be day six,she was supposed to start the 1st of this month. We have had lots of un-protected sex to where I have ejaculated in her,well everytime we've had sex,and we had sex everyday except for most sundays when I do not get to see her. But she cramped from the 1st to the 3rd,but never spotted,never started,and then after those days she stopped cramping and has'nt since. On the 4th day after her missed period she took a pregnancy test,it came up positive,on the 5th day which was the day that has just now passed,she took two pregnancy tests,they both came up positive,we are scared and do not know what to do because of the cramps for the first three days,and we want to make sure she is preganant before telling her parents because if she is'nt we would not get to see one another again,so I really need to know if the cramps mean she is'nt... Please help me.....

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Nikki n Rudy

replied on February 6th, 2005

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Re: I Need Help!

konfuzed wrote:

we want to make sure she is preganant before telling her parents because if she is'nt we would not get to see one another again,so I really need to know if the cramps mean she is'nt... Please help me.....

does this mean you want to make sure she .I.S.N.T before telling because if she .I.S then you wont get to see her anymore? I'm lost.

I think if she isnt, you need to wear a cap and she needs to be on bc!

girlstar

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

It sounds like she's pregnant to me. Cramps are normal during pregnancy.. Especially early on. It doesn't mean that she's not pregnant just because she had cramps. If you're still unsure and want to be 100% positive, I suggest taking her to the doctors and getting a blood test done to confirm it. That way, you two will know for sure and she can get the prenatal care her and the baby need. Good luck!

konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

No if she is'nt I dont get to see her,i want to know if she is or not not because of that,because we want to know,and we dont know if the cramps are a sign she will start her period or if the tests are right or what,and you were'nt very nice about what you said...

Nikki n Rudy

replied on February 6th, 2005

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If she isnt pregnant why wont you be able to see her anymore? Because you guys are having sex??? Im lost.

konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

Yes,because we've been having sex,i would not get to see her anymore,but if she is they wont stop it,but if she is'nt and when we go through all of this with telling them and what not,she cannot see me.

konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

And so her cramping the first three days and stopping are not abnormal then?

Nikki n Rudy

replied on February 6th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

So if she isnt pregnant...Why tell anyone you had a scare??? I wouldn't bother telling anyone about a scare. But sounds to me, she is pregnant. Its rare to get a false positive. There are false negatives but yours arent negatives, they are positives.

You two should get a blood test done on her. How old are you two? Has to be about 16 or so, right??

mom2trevor

replied on February 6th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Cramps without a period were one of my number one signs of pregnacy. With 2 pregnancy tests coming up positive...She's pregnant. She should schedule a Dr. Appointment to confirm how far along she is and then you should discuss how to tell your parents because they really need to know. Have you all discussed what you would do in case of pregnancy? If not, now is the time..

Best of luck to you

girlstar

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

Well, it's not abnormal to cramp on and off during early pregnancy. Since she has taken 3 test and all were positive, i'd say there's a pretty good chance you guys are having a baby. Take her to the doctors.. Get it confirmed and have a talk with her parents.

konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

She is 16,i am 17.

And I just think it seems abnormal that she would cramp the first three days and then not start her period,but yes all three tests have said positive,and yes we've discussed what we are going to do,and the thing is I cant take her to the doctor without telling her parents first,this is why I am really needing help on the subject beacause we are both scared and do not know when to know for sure if she is or not...

konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

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konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

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konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

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mom2trevor

replied on February 6th, 2005

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With unprotected sex and 3 positive pregnancy tests she is pregnant! Tell her parents and get her to the Dr.

mom2trevor

replied on February 6th, 2005

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Sorry double post :oops:

girlstar

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

I had cramping on and off and never started my period. That was my big clue that something was going on.. And well... I'm now almost 8 weeks pregnant. I doubt that she would get 3 false positives. The important thing right now is that she gets prenatal care. I know it's scary but if the only way she can see the doctor is that her parents know, then that's something you will have to deal with. I don't find cramping for 3 days and stopping is odd at all.

konfuzed

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

I am just scared for us to tell her parents and then her not be...
But I mean,she has'nt started,she has'nt cramped since those days,and never spotted or anything,and all three tests showed up positive,i just dont want to ruin mine and hers relationship if it is just a scare...

mom2trevor

replied on February 6th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Just curious--were you trying to get pregnant?

Anyway--with 3 positive tests and unprotected sex...Then she is pregnant..A false positive pregnancy test is very very rare but to have 3 false positives would be nearly impossible....A false negative maybe but not false positive....

I really don't think this is a scare....This is the real thing. She needs to see a dr as soon as possible for her health and for the babies....Don't hold off any longer!

Tell her parents so that she can get the necessary care!

girlstar

replied on February 6th, 2005

Experienced User

I'm sorry, but if all three test were positive and she hasn't started her period yet... She's pregnant. Pregnancy test work by detecting the pregnancy hormone. The only way it shows positive is if she has the hormone present in her system.

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