Hey guys. Im having a little problem. I
live with my boyfriend and things are ok
but one issue that im having is that when
we are alone like lets say in the car he
doesnt talk to me. I am the only one that
starts a conversation. I always ask him
whats wrong but he always says nothing. I
dont know if he is hiding something from
me or if my relationship is ending or if I
am over reacting. Help. :roll:
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mdw2004
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2003 Posts: 45 Location: Minnesota, USA
It's Nothing Posted: 02-20-05 13:07pm
I know what you mean. Join the club hun,
you are not alone. My ex, whom I dated
for 2 years did it too. Try to break the
silence with music, if in the car. Try
to keep each other occupied, instead of
thinking about what you aren't talking
about. On the other hand, don't rule out
secrets. Get him to talk when you are
intimate. Not talk, no intimacy. Ask
questions, and dont' be naieve. Overall
though, it is probably nothing, just a guy
phase. You might also try not talking to
him. He will get sick of the silence too
and eventually bring things up.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 02-20-05 17:15pm
Sometimes,it means nothing,except that he
is comfortable enough with you to not need
to always be talking.If the silence is a
regular thing and you two never
talk,that's different,but if he does not
feel the need to chatter all the
time,enjoy the mutual silence.
Patty
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dan443
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Mar 2005 Posts: 15 Location: Lincolnshire
Boyfriend Being Quiet? Posted: 03-21-05 11:29am
Well i'm a guy... And i've done this to
my fiancee also, my reason was having alot
on my mind, and not keeping myself
occupied ( for instance being sat in a car
) your mind wonders and begin to think...
My mum was one for claming up and not
talking about her problems and, out of all
the things I could of inherited from her,
I got the claming up too! ( grrr damn you
mother :d hehe ) so this may be his
problem, he may be depressed about
something, or he could just be tired...
If this is the problem you may find it
hard to get him to talk about it.
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SeaBear
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 May 2005 Posts: 20 Location: Asheville, NC
Posted: 05-24-05 17:33pm
Ah ha! My hunny does this all of the
time....I've gotten to the extent where I
don't converse back, then I complain...And
all this does is irratate him,,and not in
a productive good way.
My only suggestion is to distract
yourself! Turn on some great music and
sing it like you are alone in the
car...Make him laugh and enjoy eachothers
energy, even if not in conversation
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anxietyfreak
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2005 Posts: 97 Location: N/A
Posted: 07-01-05 02:23am
Qtpatuty30,
I always do the same thing as u, like me
and my man will be walking around or
driving somewhere and he will sit there in
silence and I always start to
conversation, then when he doesnt respond
back to me as he usually would with like
one of his friends, I ask him whats wrong
and then when I ask that he always yells
at me, and says:( nothings wrong with me,
your so annoying, im fine, leave me
alone.....Etc.) I know exactly what your
talking bout. Im afraid too, that hes
hiding something from me and that he might
want the relationship to end soon.
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tonii9999
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2005 Posts: 81 Location: philly
Re: a Little Problem Posted: 06-08-06 12:16pm
My b/f is the same way in the car at
home.
qtpatuty30
wrote:
hey guys. Im having a
little problem. I live with my boyfriend
and things are ok but one issue that im
having is that when we are alone like lets
say in the car he doesnt talk to me. I
am the only one that starts a
conversation. I always ask him whats
wrong but he always says nothing. I dont
know if he is hiding something from me or
if my relationship is ending or if I am
over reacting. Help.
:roll:
