Cant Make My Boyfriend Com Posted: 02-06-05 13:50pm
Hi,can anyone offer advice please,me and
my b.Friend very in love,we have a very
active sex life,but I cant seem to make
him com.Its almost like he holds back,he
loves being in control,and I love that too
but sometimes I want to make him com
without him stopping me.We do everything
together,i am very uninhibited,but he
never gives me feed back on what I am
doing,i can be in the middle of turning
him on and he stops me-if its a hand job
for example-and finishes it himself,this
makes me paranoid that I am crap at it.Do
you think I dont turn him on enough or do
you think he just likes being in
control?Please help as I am worrying about
it : )
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duckss
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Feb 2005 Posts: 11 Location: OH
B/f Posted: 02-09-05 13:50pm
This isn't about you or what you're doing
or not doing, this is about your b/f
inability to allow himself enough time to
come. Sounds like you get him close and
he doesn't want to wait so he goes ahead
and does what he's been doing for years-
cumming by masturbation. He needs to
learn to not be so impatient to climax.
He needs to get his libido under control.
You don't state your age but I would
suspect he or both of you are young. They
best way to handle this is to make sure
you have plenty of time together and for
him to agree not to 'take over' the minute
he wants to cum. After getting him close
but not cumming, he will learn to climax
under your control. He just needs to
learn how to climax with different
stimulations. Remember, he has probally
not came any other way than by his own
hand, he just needs to allow his body to
react under other stimulation.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
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Posted: 02-09-05 14:26pm
This happens a lot. I've been with a
girl like this... Active sex life, but
couldn't make me orgasm. And no, it is
not a libido problem. It was simply that
these girls were not very experienced, in
comparison to what i've had in the past.
Taking a step down and reaching climax is
not an easy thing to do, and can be
frustrating. And yeah, it comes to the
point where i'd have to take care of it
myself if I really wanted to. All the
waiting and patience in the world wouldn't
do it. Sometimes i'd have to stop
them... Simply because it gets
frustrating, sure they'll bring me up
there... But they don't know how to give
it that extra 10% to push over the edge.
If I went back to the girl I was with who
really knew what she was doing, then i'd
have a solid 4-5 orgasms a night easy and
she'd still keep on going. I'm also
similar in the aspect that I love being in
control and a girl that likes to be
man-handled once in a while. (can ya
blame me? I'm a 6'1" @ 235lb
bodybuilder... The sense of submissive /
domination is almost unavoidable.)
in either case, don't let this bother
you... Pick up a few good educational
books, experiment a little, and with
experience and guidance you'll be able to
blow his mind.
