Yesterday I had read all the new post, so
I sccoted way into the 200's...
Back in august some of you know, I moved
away and left luis...
And he got with his sisters best friend,
well call her "z"
yesterday when I was looking I found post
from "z" and they said;
'i think im pg' 'im missed my period' 'ok
I got my period, I need to know the days
to do it' 'me and my boyfriend want a
baby'
they all dated back to august...
Well I called him at work and told him
what I seen and he was like "no, no" and I
was already upset cause of my "venting"
stories, and he said he would be home in
15 minutes. Well, 3 hours later he came
home.
He said he was at his moms watching a
movie, ruby lives with her mom and "z" is
there every weekend, I just ignored him
and went to sleep, and I didnt talk to him
this morning...
I found a "love letter" in his dresser
when I was doing laundry, and in rubys
room theres pictures of luis and "z" on
the wall, and I was like "what"
shes always calling him, I know I caught
him talking to her in the truck the other
night, but "she was calling for ruby"
everynight when he comes home theres calls
to and from "z" on our cell phone, and he
says "ruby called her" one time there was
45 calls, and I called her and told her to
not ever call my phone again, then she
calls luis the next day and says "your
home already that was fast, is michelle
there, is she sleeping, why does she hate
me?"
how can I lol "punish" him w/o breaking up
with him, or kicking him out, just to show
him he was bad, and that im mad at
him?!?!
And what do you think about the situation?
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Princess385
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2004 Posts: 407 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 02-06-05 15:31pm
Um....Wow, i'd be royally pissed of.
Maybe leaving him for a day or two might
show him whta's up ro something? I don't
know what to tell you really though.
That's just not right and honestly if my
man was doing that, I woudln't put up with
it. I'd kick his ass to curb and that
would be that.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 15:38pm
Well he hasnt really 'done' anything yet,
its just suspicious, I keep saying if he
does anything to me, im gunna be strong
for the baby and let him go w/o getting
hurt, but the baby is why I would want him
around.
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Princess385
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2004 Posts: 407 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 02-06-05 15:47pm
Honestly I don't think ppl should stay
together just for a baby. A baby is able
to sense when his mother and father
aren't on good terms. I know it sounds
crazy. But it's really true. A baby
will be more fussy as well if you and the
dad aren't on good terms.
Personally you won't be happy, the dad
won't be happy, and neither will your
child. You'll struggle more and why do
that?
I think that if there's suspicon you
should talk to him and do something about
it instead of letting it keep on going
like this. Tell him he either has to
tell this "z" to leave you two alone, that
you two have a life together and a child
to be soon in the picture. Seeing that
he should be commited to you and nobody
else right now if you two are serious
about it.
But how it seems you just want him around
for the baby, which to me isn't right and
you shouldn't put a child through
something like that. I'm just saying
this as an opinion I really don't want to
start anything on here.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 16:09pm
I understand your point of view, but I
dont think you understood mine...
Were not fighting or anything, everything
is fine, I just wanted to know a way to
show him that I was mad, besides being mad
at him (im not mad)
that doesnt make much sence, huh?
Like, how do you tell a little kid they
were bad, without spanking them?
I cant really find the words to put that
into my situation.
As for "z", shes like... Uggh freaking
annoying. Even ruby told her to leave us
alone, but she wont. Ive called her and
told her to leave him alone, but she wont.
Even luis told her, "your rubys friend
and im gunna see you around, thats all"
but she still calls our phone!! I even
called the phone company to put a block on
her number, and he said if I was being
harrassed, I would need to contact the
police. Haha! So I dont know what else
to do, but laugh.
Oh and I posted this cause last night I
was having a horrible bad night, and I
just thought id share how the rest of it
went.
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 02-06-05 16:16pm
Well, i've been married for 6 years
(together for 9) and we have been through
some sh*t. I def don't agree with
kicking him to the curb. You guys are
going to have to work something out
though. I don't think there should be
any calls to or from her on your phone.
I don't think there is any reason he needs
to talk to her. Especially with their
past. Except when he's at his moms or
any other times he may accidently run into
her, you should ask him not to be talking
to her. Then go from there. If he
doesn't respect your wishes you'll have to
go to further extremes. Sounds like
nothing but trouble to me. If you play
with fire you're going to get burned.
(she's the fire.)
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 02-06-05 16:23pm
Oh
hellllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll
llllllllllllllllllll no. I'd flip caca.
Thats so messed up. I don't what i'd do.
I probably wouldn't talk to my boyfriend
for awhile. I don't even know what to
tell you do to hun.
Kourt*
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littlered
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005 Posts: 268
Posted: 02-06-05 16:26pm
I agree with l2at24. You shouldn't kick
him to the curb. But I also agree with
the a couple shouldn't stay together just
because they have a baby together. But
that is if everything is not going fine
and you are always fighting. Things like
that. And you said everything was fine
and you are not fighting. On how to tell
him that you are mad but not really mad.
Write him a note or talk to him about it.
That is what I do with my hubsand when we
disagree on something. And it works. It
also works to let the other person know
how you are feeling and how much you care
for them to.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 16:28pm
Him and his sister work together, and she
uses the cell phone to call her. Thats
whats so iffy about it. I wanna say "ruby
get your own cell phone" but I really dont
care if she uses it. But then again I
cant say "you can use it as long as you
dont call "z"" I mean, she can talk to her
all she wants.
This girl sounds bad, but if you met her,
shes such a nice girl, like if you punched
her in the face she would smile at you and
say thank you...
Thats why I dont know how to get through
to her. If you yell at her, she wont get
the point, shell just say "sorry are we
still friends?"
im just venting...Again
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littlered
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005 Posts: 268
Posted: 02-06-05 16:34pm
Vent all you want. It is better to let it
all out instead of keeping it bottled up
inside.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 16:47pm
When I have a problem with him, I think I
just like to ignore him for a while.
Cause if I start talking, I cant just
talk, ill yell at him.
He just called me, and said "whats wrong
with you, why are you being like this, why
are you mad at me" and I just said hhmm,
and he says "helloooo are you busy" and I
was like "im on the internet and I dont
wanna talk about it" and he said "ugh I
have to go, ill talk to you later bye" and
I hung up.
I think ill do this all day, so he can
have a taste of what I got last night,
when he didnt pick up the phone the 57647
times I called.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 17:06pm
Im gunna go make a "avril book" it will
make me feel better. Maybe if im bored
later I will take a picture and show
whoever cares. :):):)
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jessied04
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2005 Posts: 60
Posted: 02-06-05 18:29pm
It really depends on the type of person he
is..Only you really know him...If there
was anything going on with him and "z"
would his sister tell you? Are you guys
close like that? I would just kind of
stress how important it is for him to be
around and how your not going to tolerate
him hanging out with another girl esp one
that you dont like..I always do it and
then I juast act quiet and he goes are you
mad? And I go no! And that gets my point
across...Itll be okay tho..I dont really
get whats with guys and why they have to
do things they knowwww we hate.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 18:33pm
Ya, shes the one who told me last time.
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jessied04
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2005 Posts: 60
Posted: 02-06-05 18:47pm
Well I know its really hard to let things
slide but try to and see what happens let
one or 2 things go and then get something
big to get mad at him about nad hell feel
like more of a jerk...Why would she be
interested in him tho if hes involved with
you and you guys are having a baby? Ugh
thats what I hate about girls...They
loveee going after the guys that have
g/f's
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 19:03pm
Exacly. She knows weve been together
almost 4 years, and she knows im pregnant,
but its cause shes liked him forever, and
shes 'in love with him' or 'cant get over
him' thats what she wrote in the letter.
I just hate her, she didnt even do
anything to me, shes just my reason to be
mad for the day.
Its funny, im mad cause he didnt come home
last night, but im pretending im mad cause
of her, and she doesnt even have anything
to do with it. At least I hope not.
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jessied04
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2005 Posts: 60
Posted: 02-06-05 19:15pm
Well do you know where he was last night?
Now this wonderful girl were calling "z"
stays at his mothers house? So I dont
think his family would let anything go on
with them...If I were you I would take
that note go pay a visit to her say
something really mean about her trying to
screw up something good with you two and
then rip up the note lol. I get really
mad with stuff like that..Ive actually
taken other girls phone numbers out of my
boyfriends wallet no matter who they are
(whihc they shouldnt have been there
anyway) and burned them all with a lighter
in front of all his friends lol I dont
understand guys or girls though...Why guys
can have such a great relationship with a
girl who loves them soo much and yet they
still need attention from other
girls...And the girls I would never ever
want to ruin someones relationship I mean
maybe thats just me but I could never do
that.
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 19:28pm
I could never do that either. But it
seems like they all wanna do it to me. I
dont worry about him, I know hell do
nothing, its her I dont trust. But oh
well if he does. I just feel like being
mad, and I need someone to be mad at, and
shes the only person I dont like, so I
pick her.
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jessied04
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2005 Posts: 60
Posted: 02-06-05 19:37pm
Well they dont jsut wanna do it to
you...They do it to all of us! Lol its
good you trust him though and no one
trusts any girl...But doesnt it scare you
sometimes that you dont know whats going
on...I know I hate it my bf always hangs
out with his friends and I know random
slutty girls are there that are all over
every guy there...Theres always something
wtih me and my boyfriend and I dont know
what to do sometimes it just gets me so
stressed out and I cry lol...If you were
to get really hurt by something he did and
he goes and calls you would you answer?
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-06-05 19:56pm
I dont hang out with anyone besides him,
and he only hangs out with this guy donnie
(who I know very well) like once in a blue
moon, and donnie doesnt hang out with
girls, cause he lives with his girlfriend
too, so were usually together. But ya,
back 4 years ago, when we first started
talking, I hung out with guys, and he hung
out with girls, I wasnt so much jealous
then, cause all his friends liked me, and
I never had time to think about him and
things I do now (i stay home all the time
now, so I have alot of time to think) and
we live in a small town, so all the kids
were on group called "cordes trash" lol so
I knew everything that went on. Well I
dont know if you know, but we live
together. So you mean, if he moved out,
and did something bad, would I answer the
phone? Probably ya, cause I am having his
baby. It would just depends on how mad I
was at the moment.
