i am 35, 5 7 at 230 pounds and 7 months
pregnant. I have 1 son who is 6 years old
and i've been married for 7 years.
There has been an issue that I have just
found the courage to voice with my husband
and he has confirmed my fears.....He is no
longer attracted to me. He says he loves
me but he is very distant/cold.
This child has come at too big a price.
I'm afraid now, he'll find someone else or
just leave. I don’t think men can love
without sex, sorry guys but I fear this
may be true.
I find myself wishing this child didn’t
exist...... :cry:
i've never used a place like this to talk
but you see my husband was the one i'd
talk to and now....... :cry:
i'd rather lose this girl then my husband
and family as it was before this. :cry:
I know, it terrible. I've always loved
children.
My heart hurts so as sometimes I cant
breath. I dont know what to do. I feel
so alone.......
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robbiesgal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Oct 2004 Posts: 45 Location: oklahoma
Awe Dont Worry... Posted: 02-08-05 15:36pm
Awe hunnie.. Dont worry... Maybe you
should try talking to your husband about
how you feel... Ya know tell him that
this is not only your (mommy) baby but his
too... And you need a lil imput on how he
feels on all this... Do you know why he
is being so distant? Just hold your head
up... I always say.." things get worse
before they get better".... And just
think your about to have a baby... And
you may not be ready for just bc of your
relationship of right now... But you
gotta keep in mind that this baby didnt
have anything to do with it... And you
just gotta keep on loving your children no
matter what... I understand what your
feeling... But I promise.. It will get
better... And best thing to do ... Is to
talk about it...And try to occupy yourself
when you become upset...
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 02-08-05 17:15pm
Hun, don't worry!! Sometimes it's very
natural to have feelings like that about
an unwanted child. Your body is going
through so much, and so is your
heart.....I wish I had better words to
say, but I don't! This baby will end up
being a blessing.....Try talking with your
husband some more.....I'm sorry to hear
about you being so upset!! Don't cry!
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littlered
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005 Posts: 268
Posted: 02-08-05 17:35pm
I agree with everyone else. You need to
talk to your hubsand. And this baby will
be a blessing.
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 02-08-05 18:17pm
Oh my. Idk what to say. If he really
loved you it wouldn't matter how you've
changed. You've had his babies. I'm
sorry, but I would say there is a diff
reason you're not having sex than how you
look. When you really, truly love
someone looks don't matter. What if you
or him were disfigured some other way,
burned or had to have an amputation?
Would that change the way you felt? I
would try to talk to him about what the
real reason is. You can always get back
into shape. I hope it all works out.
Your daughter is a blessing. I know the
feelings you're having, i've had them too.
I miss being alone with my husband,
having him all to myself, but now I have
to share him with our two daughters, lol.
You can pm me if you want. I have 2
children and been married almost 7 years
too. It's hard, but if there are two
willing parties you can work through this.
Take care.
Lana
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 02-08-05 21:24pm
I am so sorry, this stuff happens and it
is happening to you, are you sure that he
is not having a rough time now, I know you
are, pregnancy is not an easy way to be,
with hormones being out of wack and
discomfort and all, men go thru there
periods too, a lot of men get jealous with
the thought of their wives being pregnant
because it takes away from their time,
sure hope this works out for all of you.
Sincerely,
sandy
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 02-08-05 21:28pm
Mint- im sorry this has happend to you,
and im actually dealing with a similar
situation, but not with myself. With my
favorite person, my bestfriend...My mom.
We recently found out some stuff, you
should send me a note because i'd love to
talk with you
