Would you end a reationship if you couldnt TRUST your partner financially but you still loved them
Yes
57%
[ 4 ]
No
14%
[ 1 ]
Not Sure
28%
[ 2 ]
Total Votes : 7
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
He Lies & Gets Me In Trouble....reason to Dump Him? Posted: 02-09-05 07:51am
Hi, I need your help, your opinions from
the outside would be greatly
appreciated!
I have been with my (now fiance) for 4
years, he's slightly older than me and has
two children from a previous
relationship.
I have found that over the years he lies
to me about money, the mortgage is in my
name and I found out the other day that I
have been giving him my half to pay the
mortgage and he hasnt been paying it and
hiding letters that have been sent to me
in fear that I will find out....But I am
the one who will get in
trouble!!!!!!!!!!!! Ive also found out
that he is in a lot of debt, he has so
many loans yet still tries to get
more...He's terrible wioth money and it
scares me!!!!! Since he has been getting
me in trouble with my mortgage (and I
didnt know about it) he asked me to marry
him and tried to get me to sign a
declaration of trust to confirm what he
would get should things go wrong (so he
obviously thought that if I found out we
would split..I dont know?!!) I dont want
to live my life paying off debt and since
I have been with him there hasnt been a
year that has gone by when something bad
financially has happened.
Also, he's not the most affectionate
boyfriend and considering he lies to me
about money and things that he has brought
(and not just little things...One was a
15k van!) it makes me wonder if he really
loves me.
I have confronted him and I have been
staying at my sisters house, but I just
dont know what to do. He says he loves
and I really do love him, but now I cant
trust him. We have fun together and he is
my best friend.
Should you end a relationship with someone
if you still love them?
Is money a good enough reason to end a
relationship?
Please help me, I dont know what to do?
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 02-09-05 09:15am
...............Sorry I forgot to add that
although these things have happened and my
fiance isnt as affectionate as I would
like him to be, we getting on really well,
we laugh alot and most of the time I am
happy being with him. I feel 'safe'! But
despite all of these things....Arent you
supposed to trust your partner?! I know
he would never cheat on me.....But I could
never trust him with my bank card!
I dont think he will change his ways....So
should I like it or lump it?!
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 02-10-05 04:47am
Please anyone?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is
driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 02-11-05 10:38am
....Geez 26 views no opinions? It may not
seem like a big deal to you but it is to
me :-(
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nadeentears
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2005 Posts: 78 Location: Canada
He Lies Get Me In Trouble, Reason to Dumb Him Posted: 02-25-05 10:31am
I don't understand how you love a guy whom
you do not trust and scares you ( scares)
this is a big word with different fears.
You should give your life to a man whom
you will depend on. A guy who will give
you secure life, love, support and
shoulder to lie on in time of sorrow and
sadness. Not a guy whom he depend on your
money and cheating on financial matters.
These is really horrible. Ask your self
why he wants you to sign a declaration of
trust ? This means he is hiding his real
motives. 4 years of relation is enough to
understand him. Think carefully and don't
put yourself in relation that you might
regret lately.
