I had my first child at 14, I adore my son, don't get me wrong, but I was not ready. At 14, you deserve to shop, have crushes, etc, etc. And btw, at 16 I was convinced I was through with guys since I couldn't be with my boyfriend, that I was a lesbian, well turns out i'm not, I do have feelings for women, but I am in a happy relationship again with my fiance.