Joined: 08 Feb 2005 Posts: 5 Location: North Dakota
Help! For Our 9 Year Old Posted: 02-09-05 10:57am
Our 9 year old recently has been put on
prozac (prior to taking zoloft for 8
mo.)..He is now seeing a therapist.
He is very moody, angry, rarely smiles,
aggressive, oppositional, etc.
This happens everywhere not just
home...School, during summer break w/
grandparents, his mom's (visits on
weekends-lives w/ me and his dad), bossy
and mean to friends...
His therapist (after only 3 sessions) has
come to the conclusion that this is all
caused by his 4 year old brother. The 1st
session he met with our 9 year old &
dad, 2nd session met with me & son,
3rd session met with son, myself, daughter
and 4 year old.. That is when he said all
the stress and anger son has is because of
our 4 year old....
I left very upset and angry that he could
say this....
I dont understand how all his behaviors
are the cause of our 4 year old... He
(therapist) says our son acts this way
because he "remembers" the last time his
brother aggrevated him....I dont get that
at all....Very confused and upset....
Can anyone relate or give suggestions....I
know this is a vague description of our
situation but I could go on forever....
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nadeentears
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2005 Posts: 78 Location: Canada
Help For Our 9 Old Posted: 02-10-05 13:44pm
If you do not trust your therapist how you
will listen to the others. Those are
specialist. Everyday they deal with tens
of cases. You have to trust him and give
him time to deal with all family partners.
Your son will express his feelings to
others and not to u. He feels neglected
by you since the arrival of his 4 years
sister. Sometimes we hurt our beloved
ones without feeling that. I was in your
shoes. When I delivered my next daughtr
the first one was completly changed. She
was aggresive and gloomy, cries all the
times without any reason. My family and
beloved once noticed that and advised me
to give her much love and concern. I know
that you love your son but as I told u
before,we do not feel that they might need
more attention and love than the new baby.
They are the older and understand our
behaviours and actions twards them. They
feel jealous from our attention to their
brother or sister and this is normal
feeling. We all pass through it. Sit to
your self and think what makes him
aggresive and try to do your best to
change the actions that put him in that
situation. Watch and see his reactions.
I will give you a simple example i'm
married have daughters I still remember my
childhood and how my mother prefer my
brother and loves him more than me (that
was my feelings when I was young and
teenager) now i'm a mother and I realised
that I was wrong in my feelings.
My heart is with you !!!
