First off congrats on having your little girl!!!! I found out i'm gonna have a boy!

Anyway does garry talk to his dad at all now??

I don't speak to my father and haven't in about 14 years and have no plans on telling him and my son is gonna have my bf's last name since I don't even want to carry on my last name.

This is a hard situation cause sometimes dad's grow up finally when their kids have kids. I can understand the jealousy thing but garry also has to realize that he's a dad now and has to "grow up" a bit (i'm not saying he's immature but....You know)

Thankyou.

Garry dosent really talk to his dad. His dad sends him the odd messages every now and then,(mainly when he is leaving the country) and stops by with birthday and christmas presents, but they dont "talk".

I understand the jealousy thing aswell, my dad is still having kids with my step mum, shes 4 months preg now. And im hoping they have another boy, because I dont want my dad to have another daughter.
Its kinda petty really.

Maybe garry does need to grow up a lil, now hes a dad aswell. But I just want him to be happy, as much as I want jay to be happy.

People might not agree with me but I think it should be up to garry whether to tell his dad or not. But i'm sure it'll come out sooner or later if his dad does call him and drops off gifts.

Awww honey. What a bad situation. Idk, but I think he should tell his dad. He should try to heal that relationship. For him and for you and jay. He may have some feelings of jealousy, but that's normal. Just as dads get jealous of baby when she gets all moms attention. But really, I think it would make him happy to see his dad in a diff way. The loving person that he always wanted. My husband had similar issues with his dad, and they are doing well now. It's hard but he has to forgive and move on. Bring his dad into your lives or will eat away at garry. And what will he tell jay when she asks about him in a few years?

Well I guess I can start off by saying. You need to respect your bf wishes for a min. And find out what is all behind closed doors there might be more to it. The first step would be to meet this man and see if he is someone you would want your child around. Also your bf is really hurt. I know how he feels. My father was in and out of my life and he remarried and now has a 2yr old son. I took my kids to meet him and he said he couldnt love no person children so I havent seen or spoke to him since. So that is why I say find out more about this man before you try to persuade. There might be a reason why he left. No one really knows until your bf gets the courage to ask the why questions. Good luck hun and I wish you guys the best. But also remember somethings are better left alone

well I think your dad deserves a swift kick in the a$$ for saying what he did.

My boyfriends real dad left when my boyfriend was a tiny baby and then 24 yrs later when mybf brother lod his dad he had a daughter he choose to write justin and try and be a part of our duahgters life but not justin's so I can kinda see the point your bf has about being jealous. But to this day he has never made anymore effort to see her and she will be 3 in apirl.

trust me he is going to ... When his son grows up and wants to be with the biggest black girl in town... That is when ill get my laugh back

is it true that a lot of people in the south are very racist???

i think so. But it has gotten better some...

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i really love montreal...Other than this bloody snow!!!!!! Arhg!!! Lol

I think because it's such a tough situation, it should be up to garry wether or not he wants his dad to be in jay's life. Personally I think it would be nice for garry to give his dad a chance at the grandpa thing.....He might be jealous at first, but for the sake of his son he should suck it up....Idk....Good luck though!

I hadnt talked to my dad in 10 years and we finally went to him to tell him I was pregnant... We both felt he had a right to know

Me? I would never tell my father (he's sure not my dad) even if my boyfriend said he thought I should (which he never would) why should he get any happiness out of my child. I have a great step-dad and my son's middle name is gonna be after my step-dad and i'm not even using my last name for my son it's gonna be my boyfriend's last name. I want nothing to do with my father and don't think my son should have anything to do with the friend either.