When a boy gets a girl pregnant and doesn't talk to her for awhile is it really because he is scared?
yes
53%
[ 7 ]
no
15%
[ 2 ]
not sure
30%
[ 4 ]
Total Votes : 13
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southernluvin
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2005 Posts: 19 Location: Kansas
18 And Preg....and Confused Posted: 02-10-05 16:13pm
I moved out the house back in october.
And have been living with my friend, her
baby, and her auntie. Before I left my
dad told me that if I ever came back I
better not come back home with a baby.
I never thought that I would get pregnant
this soon. I know that I can't go back
home and I know that I can't stay with my
friend any longer when I begin to show.
My boyfriend wanted me to get an abortion
but i'm not going to do that since I am
against abortion.
I feel as though he isn't there for me
emotionally when I need him the most out
of all the people. My friend told me that
it was because he is scared but I don't
really know if that is true. I really
need help and some advice what should I be
doing?
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 02-10-05 16:19pm
He is scared. Idk if he will come around
eventually, but you need support. Are
you in school? Talk to a school nurse.
Planned parenthood. A health clinic.
There are places that can help you with
shelter, maternity clothes, stuff for the
baby. I'm sorry idk any specific
organizations. Also, do you really think
your dad meant what he said? I'm sure
he'd rather have you and baby home safe.
My dad was upset when I got preg (22 and
married 4 years, lol), but he got over it.
Daddy's can be like that, but they love
us and want us to be safe. You should at
least let him know your situation. Take
care.
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 02-10-05 17:01pm
I am sure he is just scared he will
eventually come around. Trust me my ex
was that way when I first told him. He
came around after like a month and
excepted his child. Just give him space.
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1stTimeMom2Be
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2004 Posts: 466 Location: milwaukee, wi
Posted: 02-10-05 17:58pm
Some men leave or watever becuz they are
scared....But some of them are just no
good....Like my "sperm donor", I dont
think hes scared at all...He just aint no
good and he aint no man...Thats all it is
in my case...Now your im not sure...Have
you tried talkin to him about how u feel
about the situation...I mean about you
thinkin hes scared or what not...
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-10-05 18:47pm
We all have to keep in mind that not all
families have loving fathers/mothers in
them. Hopefully your dad just said that
out of anger and will come around, but I
don't know your dad. And I know several
"dad's" who would have meant it.
The first post gave great advice. Talk
to some people in school, nurse, guidance
counselor, etc. They will know where you
can go to get help. Hopefully the father
of the baby will come around, but don't
get your hopes up. Even if he does
decide he wants to be there, that doesn't
mean that he will stay or that he will be
a good provider, so find a way to do all
of that on your own. Good luck to you!
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4116 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
Thanked:3
Posted: 02-11-05 05:44am
Does he want this child? Have you
honestly sat down and talked about it?
You need to tell your parents... I mean
telling mine was one of the hardest things
to do... They didnt talk to me for 6
months! But now they have accepted and
love the idea.. I am 18 as well.. You
need to figure out a plan whether it
involves your bf/parents or not...
