Does My Girlfriend Hate Me Now?? Posted: 02-10-05 17:26pm
Ok, I know she doesn't really hate me, but
lately she just seems sad and depressed.
She's about 7 weeks now. What is it?
Is it a phase? Hormones? Me!!! Have
I ruined her life!?! When we first found
out she was pregnant were both happy about
it. We kept it quiet for about a
month(if that) and recently made it public
to our friends and family, which I had
hoped would make her feel better. I
though keeping it a secret was just making
it more stressful, and now that everyone
knows the reaction has be overwhelmingly
possitive. I thought that would help,
but it hasn't yet. Is it just a matter
of time? Is there anything I could do to
help?
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sftbllchika06
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Posted: 02-10-05 17:32pm
It is most likely hormones. She is
probably have bad mood swings and feeling
that her body is out of control. Just be
there for her. She probably also feels a
little overwhelmed and scared and worried
about the baby. Just talk to her maybe
take her out to celebrate her pregnancy.
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BrianBaby
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Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 02-10-05 17:32pm
Being pregnant is very stressful for both
the new mom to be and the dad.....She's
probably just really overwhelmed right
now....Give her some space to figure her
feelings out, but make sure she knows you
there for her!!!
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2ferano
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Posted: 02-10-05 18:52pm
It may be hormones, or just stress. It
is easy to act all happy about it, because
once you are pregnant what else is there
really? She may still wish that she
wasn't pregnant (which is totally normal
and understandable). Maybe she just
wasn't ready yet to be pregnant, or maybe
she doesn't want to be pregnant at all.
People try to act like once you are
pregnant it is all laughs and smiles and
excitement, but to a lot of people it
isn't, and that is totally normal!
She will come around, hun. Once it all
sets in and maybe after she sees the baby
(ultrasound, etc. ) she will be happier
about it. I have a friend who just had
her baby and she was miserable throughout
the whole pregnancy. She tried to act
happy, but she just didn't want a baby.
Now that the baby is here she is just
beside herself with joy.
But, I have another friend, same
situation, but even though her kids are 8
and 9 now still says if she had to do it
over again, even though she loves her kids
more than anything in the whole world, she
wouldn't have kids. Not every woman is
meant to reproduce and that doesn't make
her defective or anything.
But, anyway, back to your situation, she
has you to be there for her and you seem
happy about this baby, so I think you two
will be fine. Just be there for her and
help her through this and I think it will
all work out.
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Tiffany0512
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Joined: 13 Jan 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Maple Ridge, BC
Re: Does My Girlfriend Hate Me Now?? Posted: 02-10-05 20:21pm
jetcar
wrote:
ok, I know she doesn't
really hate me, but lately she just seems
sad and depressed. She's about 7 weeks
now. What is it? Is it a phase?
Hormones? Me!!! Have I ruined her
life!?! When we first found out she was
pregnant were both happy about it. We
kept it quiet for about a month(if that)
and recently made it public to our friends
and family, which I had hoped would make
her feel better. I though keeping it a
secret was just making it more stressful,
and now that everyone knows the reaction
has be overwhelmingly possitive. I
thought that would help, but it hasn't
yet. Is it just a matter of time? Is
there anything I could do to
help?
its probably just hormones. It is very
common for pregnant woman to get
depressed, due to all the changes. You
have not ruined her life. Just be there
for her and compliment her. Good luck
with everything
tiffany
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jessamyn
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Posted: 02-11-05 05:36am
Its most likely her hormones... But that
is really soon to be "the crazy pregnant
lady" maybe shes just scared or unsure of
it all and doesnt know how else to react.!
But hunnie be there for her however you
can. Be there for her if shes happy sad
mad or emotional... Just be there!
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jetcar
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Joined: 04 Feb 2005 Posts: 3
Posted: 02-11-05 09:56am
Thanks all. I am hanging in there thick
or thin. I guess I just need to hear
this kind of a thing is somewhat normal.
She has one child(11) and does want more
children, but I know this was unexpected.
In the end I think it's all gonna work
itself out. I just hate feeling so happy
when I know she's just not having those
same feelings... Yet at least. Thanks
again for your comments.
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BrianBaby
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Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 02-11-05 12:48pm
How old are you guys??
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jetcar
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Joined: 04 Feb 2005 Posts: 3
Posted: 02-11-05 13:55pm
She's 30 & i'm 34. And btw, I talked
with her just an hour ago and she seems
muuuuch better!! I think it'll come and
go, but at least I can tell she does feel
happy sometimes. We're gonna get to
spend alot of time together this weekend
which I think will help both of us.
Thanks again!!
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l2at24
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Posted: 02-11-05 14:18pm
jetcar
wrote:
she's 30 & i'm 34.
And btw, I talked with her just an hour
ago and she seems muuuuch better!! I
think it'll come and go, but at least I
can tell she does feel happy sometimes.
We're gonna get to spend alot of time
together this weekend which I think will
help both of us.
Thanks
again!!
yes, i'm still struggling with two
surprise babies back to back. And now
they are 1 and 2.5!!! But, my husband is
so happy and such a good daddy. You're
doing great! Having a happy daddy makes
the situation much easier to handle.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 02-11-05 19:35pm
Yeah hun just know pregnancy is a
emotional rollarcoaster!
