Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 51 Location: Connecticut
Do You Ever Regret Getting Pregnant Sometimes? Posted: 02-13-05 12:05pm
I'm sorry to say but I do. Maybe I
shouldn't feel this way but I do. My
boyfriend is immature as hell and I guess
I shouldn't complain because hes 16 but
man yo. I'd expect him to actual have
grown up or at least matured since finding
out that hes going to have a kid. Last
night he was up at his house with a friend
and his cousin jackie drinkin until past
2am and then going for a drive.
Ugh! I dont know it just irks me that
when my child is born, knowing that he
acts this way and probably wont change.
I dont need to have someone thats gonna
remain irresponsible like that.
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Princess385
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2004 Posts: 407 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 02-13-05 14:55pm
Hun i'm sorry that you feel that way!! It
could be a sign of depression...Maybe
mention something to your dr about it,
just to be on the safe side. :) you
won't regret it after the baby is here.
:) they're precious.
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Krista Kai
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Dec 2004 Posts: 380 Location: Virginia
Posted: 02-13-05 16:06pm
Mostly I love being pregnant. I love my
tummy and feeling my baby boy wriggling
and kisking inside me. I can't help
rubbing my tummy and looking in every
mirror I can and then thing "wow, would
you look at that?!? That's me!"
but i'll admit there's also times - mostly
at night when i'm laying there trying to
go to sleep - when I think "what have you
gotten yourself into girl??" I always
figured some day i'd have kids and I
always wanted to have lots of kids, but I
never dreamed i'd start this soon. I
think about being pregnant basicly my
whole senior year when all the other kids
are doing all those things you dream about
doing when you're a senior, and I think
about how being a mom's for the rest of
your life and how for me that's going to
be in like 3 1/2 months, and I get to
thinking i'm not ready for that. It all
sorta starts getting to me then. But
then I feel him move in me again and it
makes me think of the beautiful baby boy
and try to imagine what he's going to look
like and be like and I feel a lot
better.
I feel like this is either the best or
worst thing that ever happened to me, and
however it turns out is up to me. It
makes me want do the best I possibly can
for my baby boy, and nothing in my life
ever made me feel that way before. I
love that, and that makes me love being
pregnant.
I guess maybe that all sounds sorta crazy,
but that's how I feel. Maybe it's just
those preggo hormones and emotions kicking
in, but that's how I feel.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 02-13-05 16:18pm
I'm sorry but in most instances I have to
say - you slept with the guy, therefore
you ran the risk of getting pregnant by
this guy.
16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Most guys don't deal
with responsibility when they are in their
20's, he wants to do what 16 year old lads
do and honestly I don't blame him. After
all why should he care, he's a minor, he
doesn't have to accept responsibility, he
doesn't have to carry and care for this
child.
By the way, I think you are very lucky to
be pregnant, some can not experience
that.
So, take your hopes off the young guy and
pin them on yourself, because you will be
the one doing the hard work (unless you
give your baby up)
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 02-13-05 18:38pm
kia_breizzze
wrote:
so, take your hopes off the
young guy and pin them on yourself,
because you will be the one doing the hard
work (unless you give your baby
up)
exactly!
Having a kid wont change the fact that hes
still a kid, and it wont turn him into an
adult. Im 18, im still a kid, I love
hello kitty, playing dress up, and
watching the disney channel, being a kid
wont make me care any less for my baby,
now I will have someone to play all those
things with :):):) I got all the party out
of me at an early age, but being 16 and
male, what do you expect? Hes going to
want to drink and go out with friends, and
I dont think age has anything to do with
that. Maybe he will settle down after
time, but theres nothing wrong with being
young and having fun. My boyfriend goes
out all the time, I dont expect him to
loose his freedom because im pregnant. If
your going to regret something, regret
getting with a immiture boy, not your
pregnancy... Your all that baby needs.
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littlered
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005 Posts: 268
Posted: 02-13-05 23:02pm
I know that I probably shouldn't say
anything because I am pregnant and I don't
know how you feel but I do know that you
don't have to have the father in the
picture. You can raise your baby without
him. I know you don't want to but you can
do it. And if your boyfriend keeps
drinking and driveing or drinking and then
going for a drive. Something could happen
and you won't have him in the picture.
And it not be his choice. Which I guess
it would be because he is the one
drinking. I hope nothing does happen.
Have you tried talking to him. Maybe that
would work. Tell him that you are afraid
that something will happen and your baby
won't be able to know his father and you
don't want that to happen. I hope I
helped some.
