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Jays mommy

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Question About Fathers.
Posted: 02-16-05 17:39pm

Umm if your child/s father live/d with you, does he or did he wake up when your newborn baby started crying/screaming for about 10 mins?

Garry dosent, and it makes me so mad and angry, then it just depresses me and I end up crying while im up sorting jay out, and he's still snoring in bed.
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Tazzy D

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Posted: 02-16-05 17:52pm

Im on strike until they let lilblaze and the others back on sorry
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l2at24

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Posted: 02-16-05 17:54pm

My husband didn't get up b/c I was nursing, but once we got them on bottles (breastmilk bottles) he would get up. We would take turns. A lot of men don't, but that doesn't make it right. Have you asked him to get up with her sometimes? Hopefully you guys can figure out something where you take turns or he can at least get her a couple nights like friday and saturday. I know it's so hard, i'm sorry honey. She should be sleeping through the night in a couple months.
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Jays mommy

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Posted: 02-16-05 18:06pm

tazzy d wrote:
im on strike until they let lilblaze and the others back on sorry


tis ok, I think its pretty screwed that theyve been banned.
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Jays mommy

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Posted: 02-16-05 18:15pm

Well he works nights, mon tue fri sat and sun from 11pm till 8am.
He sleeps during the day from well when ever he wants..... Ive asked him if he could maybe sleep from 3pm till 9pm but we will have to see how that goes.
He only stays with me on a wednesday night, but he sleeps pretty much all day and all night. And just says its coz he's exhausted from working all night the night before.
I feel guilty askign him to do more... Because he let me get 2 1/2- 3 hours extra sleep this morning, though to be honest I would have had the extra sleep anyways, coz jay only wakes up every 3 hours for a feed, and I was knackered.

I was just wondering if it was jsut a motherly thing that you wake up as soon as your baby starts crying, and thats why the dad is able to stay asleep?
I feel kinda mean for letting jay cry for so long earlier, I had her on my bed, she had just peed when I took her nappie off, so I had just bathed her. So she was screaming pretty bad.
But garry was asleep, and he wasnt even stiring in his sleep. So I thought I would see how long it took for her crying to wake garry up.. Which is how I found out that garry dosent wake up to her crying.

Also..
I hate beign on my own. It gives me to much time to think. And the more I think the more I get depressed.
Does anyone else have that problem?


Sorry so long.
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l2at24

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Posted: 02-16-05 19:08pm

Daddy's def don't have the 'mother's ear'. I hear everything and I get irritated that he doesn't too. I have to wake him up and I can't go back to sleep until the baby's quiet. Sounds like you don't have a lot of choices with his schedule and all. And you do have a little post partum depression. Can you get out of the house at all? Just to take a walk, you could take jay with you. You def can't be home alone all day if you feel like you have too much time to be sad. Try to find a way you can get out of the house for a couple hours a day, or every other day at least. Take care. All I can say is it will get easier.
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