How Do I Tell My Husband???? Posted: 11-01-03 22:23pm
I have been married for sixteen months.
He is 33 and I am 20, we had discussed not
having any kids. But now I want a baby.
Three of my sisters had babies one month
apart, and I see my husband with his
ex-wife when his daughter has functions,
and I realized that I want to share
something like that with him, I want to be
a mom, and not feel like a babysiter. He
already has a little thought in his mind,
but how do I tell him that I am serious???
Please someone give me some good advise.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 11-02-03 03:28am
Hi lrb,
what you are feeling is completely normal,
every woman at some stage in her life is
going to have the urge to want children,
especially when you have a multitude of
family and friends enjoying their husbands
and children, and you have to just stand
back and watch. It is most important you
talk to your husband and find out how
ready he is to have children, it would be
understandable if he is a little hesitant
at first seeings he already has children,
but i'm sure he loves you enough not to
deny you of the one thing that most women
dream about. It is always a good idea to
discuss children before marriage, as
sometimes this can be a very big issue for
some couples, sometimes even resulting in
divorce because one partner wants it so
bad but the other just does not. It is
completely understandable that you want
children, it is just going to be a matter
of talking honestly and openly together on
the subject, and hopefully being able to
come to some kind of decision or
compromise.
Good luck,
suzy
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JLRbabygrl0330
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2003 Posts: 22 Location: Michigan
Posted: 11-11-03 02:35am
Just let him know that that is what you
want you deserve to be able to have your
own kids and not take care of his.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 11-11-03 06:47am
Well you should really tell him that youve
been thinking it over and you want to have
a baby in your life. He should understand
that all women want a baby. Like with
jose, he asked me what I wanted for
christmas and I said I had everything so I
didnt need anything else. And he was like
"no what can I give you?" so I said "you
can give me a baby" so hopefully in
december we will start trying! Im happy
and I hop it works out for you to get your
baby too!
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allusivepond
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 452
Hey Nikki Posted: 12-10-03 03:18am
Hey there,
if anyone knows me they know that we are
not going to start trying for another year
minimum but I just wanted to let you know
that that is a great idea and when next
christmas comes that is what I am going to
tell my bf that thats what I want for
xmas.
Thanks for the great idea, I might even
start a couple of months early you never
know.
From someone who cant wait to have a jelly
bean all of their own
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 12-10-03 12:49pm
There you go. It can be a surprise for
christmas if its early, you can tell
everyone your preggy as a christmas
surprise, or have a baby by christmas and
have that be your gift! You can do
anything you want! I hope you get your
baby!
Or like I was watching "overboard" last
night and at the end when annie goes with
dean and he has 3 boys, and she has all
kinds of money, he asks her "what can I
possibly give you, that you dont already
have?" and she says "....A little girl" I
thought that was so cute! I love that
part!
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Just Be Honest... Posted: 12-16-03 12:15pm
He'll be with you or he won't, but if you
want them and he doesn't don't let it get
between you. This is something that can
eventually be worked out.
