Had Unprotected Oral Sex Can I Still Get Std's?.. Posted: 02-19-05 11:53am
Hi about 3 weeks ago I gave my boyfrined a
blow job and so far i've had nothing in my
mouth show up. No sores or anything.
Does tht mean he doesn't have anything?
He did stuff with another girl before.
His friends told me tht he said they hd
sex but when I ask him he says he didnt
and he wouldnt lie to me. He said that
they did everything but... And pparently
this girls been with lotsa guys... So
ianywayz...Im not going to pick a fight
with him because he'll think I dont trust
him. If I do it agin is there still
possible risk of std's or would I have
gotten thrm already the first time...?
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bbak
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Oct 2004 Posts: 21
Posted: 02-19-05 16:12pm
If you aren't 100% positive that he's
clean, you shouldn't be doing anything
with him. This is your life we're talking
about, him thinking you don't trust him is
a tiny concern when compared to your life
or quality of life. This is something you
cannot be too safe on!
Think about this. Say he does have
something, he's been lying to you about
the other girl, and you don't press to
find out the truth. If you end up with
some kind of nasty std, is it going to be
enough to say "i didn't want him to think
I didn't trust him."
the point is, obviously you don't trust
him entirely, or else you wouldn't be
wondering. How long have you been
together? Has he lied to you about other
things? Do you know him well enough to
tell if he's lying?
My suggestion would be that you sit down
with him and tell him that if you're going
to be sexually active in this
relationship, you're going to be
responsible and mature about it. Tell him
it's not personal, but you would like him
to be tested, because regardless of what
he says, you need to be sure. If he gets
upset and brings it up as a trust issue,
tell him it's not about him, it's about
you; and that you are only taking
responsibility for your own health.
It'd be better to find out he's got
nothing and was telling the truth, than to
blindly trust him and find out he's a
liar.
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 02-20-05 20:05pm
Yes, you can get stds from oral sex.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-01-05 02:40am
Yeah, you can get std's from oral, but if
you haven't had anything "show up" that
doesn't mean he is clean! For goodness
sakes, there are std's that you can get
from oral that may not show up for years,
and that may not have symptoms, when you
would have symptoms from vaginal sex.
Just because he says he wasn't with this
girl doesn't mean he wasn't and you don't
know that he wouldn't lie to you. You
may trust that he would't lie to you, but
you don't know it. I agree with the
first post, you really need to be careful
and sort your priorities. Don't worry
about him getting angry or thinking you
don't trust him, all of that is very petty
in the big picture.
