This post id for everyone. I have been
reading some of the posts and they all
have one thing in common. Everyone that
wants to get better or thinks that they
will be better if they just some more
weight are looking for happiness in the
wrong place.
This is difficult to explain because I am
were all of you are at but at least I am
aware that by losing weight I will not
solve my problem, if this post seems mean
i'm really sorry because I don't want to
sound like that. Its just you can't
change your behaviour unless you change
your thoughts and feelings to be more
positive. An eating disorder is not
really about the food although it is a big
part of it, an eating disorder is a way of
coping with life. When you get help,
professionally you will be helped to use
less destructive and more positive ways of
coping with life. Over time as you begin
to change your thoughts and feelings then
your behaviour will stop, that is if you
want it to. The thing is you will come to
realise that this behabiviour of starving,
binging, purging, over eating is not a way
of life, its a way of death. You will
want to choose to be kinder to yourself,
you will learn that you all deserve much
better then this and you will choose
another way to cope.
I'm not sure if i'm making myself
understood properly but I would love
anyone to ask me questions because then I
would be able to talk specfially about
what you want to know. Believe I am only
a 17 year old girl who is trying to find
her meaning for being here because at
times I really don't think I want to be
here, I don't believe I deserve to be
here. I am also very afraid of letting go
of my eating disorder because its all i've
known for so long but I do know there is
hope and anyone can and will recover.
Someone please write back because I
actually need to reassured as well :roll:
lostoyou
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
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Posted: 02-27-05 15:08pm
I'll be honest with you. I've never had
a true eating disorder, however i've had a
similar problem. When I looked in the
mirror I never saw the same body shape
that other people saw... I wasn't happy
with myself physically.
I was 6'2" @ 158lb male, and felt quite
skinny. So I set out on a mission... To
gain some size. I joined a gym, began
eating everything in sight, began
researching, became a certified nutrition
and wellness specialist, became a
certified personal trainer, kept training,
kept weight lifting, kept monitoring my
weight on the scale, my size in the
mirror. Around 2 years later, I was up
to 241lb. (almost 100lb heavier), and
wore xxl clothes casually... Very
muscular, ripped, nice abs, and very
healthy and athletic. Since then, i've
lost some weight down to an xl to make
clothes easier to buy, and so I wouldn't
be so intimidating.
But I can say one thing. I'm definately
happy now. There are two ways to attack
the problem. Either learn to be happy
with who you are and what you have, or
learn to change yourself so you are happy.
I chose the latter, and it has worked
for me.
Not eating is not healthy, and not the way
to realize a goal of losing weight... But
if indeed your goal is to be happier with
who you see in the mirror, then by all
means.. Join a gym, eat properly, get
healthy, and sculpt your body so you are
the person you want to be.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 02-27-05 15:08pm
I'll be honest with you. I've never had
a true eating disorder, however i've had a
similar problem. When I looked in the
mirror I never saw the same body shape
that other people saw... I wasn't happy
with myself physically.
I was 6'2" @ 158lb male, and felt quite
skinny. So I set out on a mission... To
gain some size. I joined a gym, began
eating everything in sight, began
researching, became a certified nutrition
and wellness specialist, became a
certified personal trainer, kept training,
kept weight lifting, kept monitoring my
weight on the scale, my size in the
mirror. Around 2 years later, I was up
to 241lb. (almost 100lb heavier), and
wore xxl clothes casually... Very
muscular, ripped, nice abs, and very
healthy and athletic. Since then, i've
lost some weight down to an xl to make
clothes easier to buy, and so I wouldn't
be so intimidating.
But I can say one thing. I'm definately
happy now. There are two ways to attack
the problem. Either learn to be happy
with who you are and what you have, or
learn to change yourself so you are happy.
I chose the latter, and it has worked
for me.
Not eating is not healthy, and not the way
to realize a goal of losing weight... But
if indeed your goal is to be happier with
who you see in the mirror, then by all
means.. Join a gym, eat properly, get
healthy, and sculpt your body so you are
the person you want to be.
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mshanson
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Nov 2004 Posts: 102 Location: California
Posted: 02-27-05 17:08pm
I agree that losing weight is not the
answer. I try to focus on getting healthy
instead. No matter what your size, if you
eat right (whole foods, regular meals)
& exercise (not fanatically but 1 hour
every day), your body will do what it was
born to do & be the size it was meant
to be. I was anorexic for decades &
my weight was never low enough. I felt
fat even when I was 75 lbs.! Today I
don't ever weight myself & I eat 3
meals every day & do yoga. I try not
to care what my body looks like, but focus
on what it feels like. For me, that's a
miracle!
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mshanson
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Nov 2004 Posts: 102 Location: California
Posted: 02-27-05 17:08pm
I agree that losing weight is not the
answer. I try to focus on getting healthy
instead. No matter what your size, if you
eat right (whole foods, regular meals)
& exercise (not fanatically but 1 hour
every day), your body will do what it was
born to do & be the size it was meant
to be. I was anorexic for decades &
my weight was never low enough. I felt
fat even when I was 75 lbs.! Today I
don't ever weight myself & I eat 3
meals every day & do yoga. I try not
to care what my body looks like, but focus
on what it feels like. For me, that's a
miracle!
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mshanson
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Nov 2004 Posts: 102 Location: California
Posted: 02-27-05 17:09pm
I agree that losing weight is not the
answer. I try to focus on getting healthy
instead. No matter what your size, if you
eat right (whole foods, regular meals)
& exercise (not fanatically but 1 hour
every day), your body will do what it was
born to do & be the size it was meant
to be. I was anorexic for decades &
my weight was never low enough. I felt
fat even when I was 75 lbs.! Today I
don't ever weight myself & I eat 3
meals every day & do yoga. I try not
to care what my body looks like, but focus
on what it feels like. For me, that's a
miracle!
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hurt28
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2004 Posts: 49 Location: lowell
Blahh Posted: 03-18-05 20:48pm
Well.Not every one hear wants to stop!!I
dont and I am not planning on
stopping..Till I see bones....I just dont
undeerstand some pppl hear?? They bug me
soo much I just want to be sknny and im
not going to stop1!!!!!
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mellymel78
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-27-05 05:28am
"lost to you", I am sad to read your
post...I really hope that you can see that
it is okay to change...Even though 'eating
disorder' is the only thing you've ever
know, if its not what you want, change
it...I know it sounds easier said then
done and it is, but I was anorexic/bulemic
for 3 years, it was all I knew, or could
remember anyway, so I understand how
difficult in so many ways this must be for
you, but you can let go (maybe not
completley), and you will be okay to. It
will be scary and hard at first but once
you realize that you do have meaning here,
and people that love, care and worry about
you, the less difficult it will be...Be
strong...Im pulling for you
