Im really regreting having an abortion but
my parents said they were not going to
help and they hate my bf which I have been
dating for 3 years now and when me and him
found out I was pregnant we got scared so
my parents took me to have the abortion
now I regret it so bad. Do you guys think
I should be trying to get pregnant agian
my bf has broke down crying alot and his
mom wont even talk to me because she had a
kid at 15 and disagrees with abortion. I
wish I never would of done it even though
im only 18 im like trying to get pregnant
now do you guys think this is ok or not
please I need advice!!!
Christy
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 03-06-05 13:45pm
Well - I don't think its okay to get
pregnant because you want to replace the
baby that once was there. I also don't
think it was cool of your parents to
'force' you to get an abortion. I don't
even think thats legal? Is it? Anyways,
I think you should wait until you're ready
for sure. Don't just try to replace the
baby that you aborted because thats not
going to help hun. Good luck, and if you
want to send me a note feel free.
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Blue8
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2005 Posts: 133 Location: VA
Posted: 03-06-05 20:27pm
I kinda think it might help a lil because
a couple of weeks ago I thought I was
pregnant and was so happy but then took a
test and it said no so I think it might
help a little....Maybe well thanks for the
advice!!
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-09-05 15:09pm
If you weren't ready to have a baby then,
you aren't ready now. What is getting
pregnant now going to solve? Yeah, you
may get excited about this new baby and
whatnot, but the feelings of regret will
always come back until you deal with them.
It isn't fair to the baby, you or your
boyfriend for you to be trying to get
pregnant right now.
Your parents couldn't have forced you to
get an abortion. They may have talked
you into it and I am very, very sorry
about that. Have you explained that to
your bf's mom?
Your parents should not have done what
they did. That is apparent. But, I am
sure they were thinking of what they
thought was best for you. Getting
pregnant again right away, what is that
seriously going to do? You really need
to stop and think about this.
I understand that you are in a great deal
of pain, but getting pregnant now is not
the solution. You need to find someone
you can talk to, either a counselor or a
friend. Anyone. Take the time to heal
from this and then figure out what you
want.
Don't you want to make sure you are with
the person you want to spend the rest of
your life with (which you may be, I don't
know), get married and then have a baby?
No, life doesn't always happen that way,
but you still have that choice.
Anyway, this is all just my opinion based
on my knowledge and the things I have seen
in my life. You can ultimately do
whatever you choose, I just don't want to
see you make the wrong decision.
Having another baby may make you all happy
and to help forget what happened, but it
also may make you feel worse. Going
through the pregnancy and all of the
experiences a new baby brings, may just
make you all wonder what the other baby
would have been like. You may end up
feeling a lot worse instead of a lot
better.
But good luck to you in whatever you
decide!
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Izzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Oct 2004 Posts: 883 Location: Earth
Posted: 03-21-05 15:58pm
There is no evidence to suggest that
women who try to become pregnant after an
abortion out of regret actualy gain
anything, I dont know where I read it, but
I have many women who do this often return
to obtain a second abortion.
I recomend speeking to some post abortive
counceling groups.
The national life center 1-800-848-love
will be able to help and suggest some more
practical ways of dealing with the regret,
other numbers
You poor thing.. Your parents only did
what they thought was best for you in
their defence, although parents aren't
always right.
I was kind of forced into it when I was
19. I ended up over dosing and couldn't
handle it, but it got better. I had the
rest of my life to live and knew that I
couldn't spend the rest of my life in
regret. Life is too short.
Babe, you will get over this. Think
positively if you can and remember that an
amotional cripple such as myself went on
to get over it and have 3 boys.
There is no point wondering what could
have been, because it will never be. You
have to get to a point where you must not
look back any more and respect all the
good things you should, could and will
have going on in your life.
You'll be ok. Take care.Xxx :)
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Blue8
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2005 Posts: 133 Location: VA
Posted: 03-23-05 10:33am
You guys are right I have pretty much
gotten over the fact its in the past and I
dont want to be pregnant now so im going
on bc pills but my bfs mom is still being
a pain but oh well thanks guys.
Christy
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-25-05 03:31am
It will all work out honey. She is
judging you because she got pregnant young
and had the baby, but you aren't her and
she needs to respect that.
I hope everything works out for you.
