Should I Have a Baby..

Well said....It's plain and simple.

Thanks bebe

Whatever

Lol, that's what they all say :)

Yup

Tsk tsk tsk.....Thanks for the laughs though!

: )

Obviously you are going to have a baby whether we say it is right or not. I think instead of asking if you are going to be able to support your new baby, you should have asked am I going to have enough love to go around for both children and my husband, because you seem to have the way you are going to support your baby all figured out. Im not quite sure what state you live in that will give you $700 a month, but I need to move! On one hand it does sound a little off to plan your child's financial future on someone else paying for it but I have to say that if I could get help I would take it! But that is only because I am 17 and living at home with my mother who has two other children that she pays child support for. My mom is a teacher and only gets paid $1,800 a month and with the child support taken out it's only $1,000 a month. That just barley pays rent, car payment and other utilities. Then I usually paid for grocieries with my paycheck but I have pre-term labor and cant leave my house! I have been hospitalized for more than a month and my medications alone total over $500, thats $500 that we dont have but the debt is ours because I choose not to have an abortion when I found out that I was going to be raising a child with no help from the father. But that was my choice and I dont see why you would choose to have a baby when you know that one day your aid could run out and then you will be sol.

I can't believe you people are still going on.

Drop it, move on.

Don't read it if you don't want to.

Yes, you girls are all right and we have all said it several times. But, one more time for the kids.....Government assistance isn't there for people who cannot afford to have children to just go and have them. It is for people who end up pregnant accidentally and cannot afford it. It is not a license to go out and get pregnant on purpose just to have someone else support their kid.
And as for the homeschooled thing, that post wasn't saying "don't do it" in a way that was ignorant. If you read that whole post you can tell that she just means it really isn't good for the child. Which, it has been proven time and time again that it isn't good for the child. Even if they are around other children, it isn't going to be as much as they would be if they attended school.

How many hours a day does a child really get to talk to there friends at school? I've decided to homeschool cause she can learn at her own pace and for socialization there are groups of other moms who get together a few times a weeks with there kids!

Well, I don't know exactly how many hours per day are required, but I am guessing that studies say 8 hours a day to be with other children as that is what the government requires. Unless homeschooled, then there are few requirements. It may be better for your child, no one really knows. All that poster was saying (i believe) is that it is proven to not be as good for the child to be homeschooled. The child can be withdrawn, and then they will only know what you teach them. They will be without the influences of other children (some good some bad!) and when they finally go out on their own they will have no idea what to do in many situations, because they wouldn't have had to make those decisions before. But, that's all up to you. Just make sure that if you do homeschool that your child gets a lot of interaction with other children. Not just a couple of times a week for an hour or two among other children who are also homeschooled. That really wouldn't do very much good.

Ok this thread is pretty much ridiculous now... Mainly towards babymama. You're obviously a bit ignorant, but nothing we say will change your mind about wanting to have another baby. Hotsafrick I give you props, I agree with you 100%, i've read every single post on here lol, and it made me angry seeing all the things she said...But to keep going like this, is it neccessary??? I'm just wondering, don't be offended because those weren't my intentions....

When a child is in school how many hours must they listen to the teacher and how many hours do they socialize .... Only in school, not before or after or stuff...Just the 8 hr school day. I am going to put my daughter in dance ( she loves doing it ) and in girl scouts. She also regularly goes to the park and i've talked to other moms in my area who homeschool that would love to get the kids together. Homeschooling can be a great way to teach a child. Do you know that computer games that teach, board games and even different movies can count toward there education? Yeah she will have some workbook studies but learning can be fun and you can teach them things they want to learn. As long as I make sure she gets around other children I believe she will learn to handle herself in different situations. Another good thing about homeschooling is that she will get the opportunity to mix with kids and adults of all ages instead of kids only her age. I won't have to worry as much about drugs and alcohol is me and her dad are non smokers and drinkers. We don't swear and another plus is maybe this will reduce the chance of her getting pregnant at a young age. I want the best for her and feel that I can give her a better education than the schools around here do.

That's all great then too! I was in dance when I was a little kid and I loved it for a while too. I unfortunately steered away from it, but I still regret it!
In school, yes the kids are listening to the teacher for a lot of the day, but good teachers (note: not all teachers!) make a lot of activities where the children interact in their learning. But, really, as long as you are following the government guidelines for homeschooling your children and making sure they have enough interaction with other children, then I see no problem with it. I was simply trying to clarify what I thought that one post was trying to say about homeschooling. I really don't think they were trying to tell you what to do in any way. It is just that a lot of people who do homeschool their children don't give them the interaction with other children that they need, and that is why it isn't recommended. But, if you are making sure they are well-rounded then no problem.

To the other post...Thanks, and I only keep going on this post when someone replies. I'm not posting when no one else does or when there wasn't a reply made specifically to me, so that is why I am still posting. When it dies, o.K. But, as long as I am being posted towards then I will still post. But, note, I haven't brought any of the other topics in this post back up, and that is my way of letting it go! :)

This whole thing started by somone asking if we thought it was right or wronge to have a baby when you are not financially ready. We gave you our answers, just for you to tell us that we were wronge. So why ask us in the first place? Also why are you being so defensive about your views, it almost seems to me that you are trying to convince yourself that what you are doing is right. Everyone has diferent views, but that does not make your views right and theirs wronge it just means that you have different views. If you dont agree with their views, then why ask their opinion?

Well, gonna go from the board...I'm pregnant!

Omg how stupid. You are about the same age (if not the same age) as me. This has to be the most ridiculous thing I have heard by someone over the age of 17 !!! Now I expect to hear this from a little girl that doesnt have a child and doesn't have the life experience but god from someone who has already been through it!!! I just dont understand why you want to raise a baby on any kind of assistance. I personally was ashamed when I was 16 and on public assistance and wic and all that. I am never going to go through that ever again. Selfish is all I have to say to you.