On two recent occassions, I kissed a lover
ive been dating, but with no sexual
intercourse nor "finger pleasuring"
he has got aids in quite advanced stages
and we have fairly discussed his
situation.
There has not been anyother contact
between me and him other than hugging and
recently kissing on the two occassions I
was a full percentage sure I had no sores
in the mouth, no noticeable bleeding gums,
and I did not kiss him deeply, neither did
I swallow his saliva.
However I am constantly nervous that I may
have contracted hiv. Could it be because
am reading alot of stuff on hiv infection
that am constantly getting worried or is
my intuition warning?
Two days ago I developed a cold and
painful sore in the upper roof of my mouth
but I believe its more about my high
stress levels currently. I do not have
other symptoms yet.
Could my intuition be warning that I have
contracted it. The fear kills me
psychologically.
We like eachother alot and have discussed
how far we can go with the relationship.
We have known eachother about three years
but only started dating six months ago.
We talk regularly on phone. We feel
comfortable with eachother when we are
together, it almost makes me think am safe
so far.
What do I do with my anxiety.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Posted: 03-15-05 18:35pm
This is an extremely interesting and
powerful post. Something that you really
don't hear about every day. When you say
he has aids in advanced stages, do you
mean his immune system has already
weakened considerably?
If you do not have any cuts or sores in
your mouth or throat, then kissing is
quite safe to do. Keep in mind that you
can have cuts or sores on your gums as
well... You'll usually notice them if you
brush your teeth and your gums bleed a
bit.
This is the difficulty about caring for
someone with a contageous disease... You
have emotions but there is this barrier
that holds you back.
As for your anxiety, there is nothing you
should do about it. You should remain
very cautious and aware that this is a
potentially deadly disease that you can
accidentally attain. If you lose your
anxiety and become too comfortable it will
also be easy to lose caution within the
heat of the moment and do something
accidentally to contract hiv.
There is nothing wrong with expressing
emotion with a hiv infected individual.
These are people too and do require
friends, love, attention, and affection
like anyone else. Just be careful, use
the proper precautions.
Be safe,
justin
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Posted: 03-15-05 18:35pm
This is an extremely interesting and
powerful post. Something that you really
don't hear about every day. When you say
he has aids in advanced stages, do you
mean his immune system has already
weakened considerably?
If you do not have any cuts or sores in
your mouth or throat, then kissing is
quite safe to do. Keep in mind that you
can have cuts or sores on your gums as
well... You'll usually notice them if you
brush your teeth and your gums bleed a
bit.
This is the difficulty about caring for
someone with a contageous disease... You
have emotions but there is this barrier
that holds you back.
As for your anxiety, there is nothing you
should do about it. You should remain
very cautious and aware that this is a
potentially deadly disease that you can
accidentally attain. If you lose your
anxiety and become too comfortable it will
also be easy to lose caution within the
heat of the moment and do something
accidentally to contract hiv.
There is nothing wrong with expressing
emotion with a hiv infected individual.
These are people too and do require
friends, love, attention, and affection
like anyone else. Just be careful, use
the proper precautions.
Be safe,
justin
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-15-05 19:34pm
New studies are showing it is quite easier
to get aids through kissing then thought
before. If you brush your teeth at all,
grind your teeth or anything of the sort
then you can have microscopic cuts in your
mouth through which you can contract hiv.
You are just going to have to weight the
pros and cons and be careful.
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dear7
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Africa
Posted: 03-16-05 01:14am
He has been living with aids fr about 15
years but he is on strict anti retroviral
treatment. There was a point he got very
sick about three years ago, but then he
was still in self denial about the virus.
He now openly discusses it with me and has
a personal doctor tending to his health.
I have strong feelings for him, he is in
love with me but constantly fears
something might go wrong and I get
infected. I know he would never live with
it.
I knew about it all the while I knew him
as just a friend but he had no idea I ws
aware. Then he began to feel intimately
for me. When he decided to tell me, he
was an aids sufferer, he basically did it
to drive me away because he knew I would
run faster and break off the
relationship.
We are too insync with eachother, I
understand his moodswings and why it
happens to him.
What I feel for him is not out of
sympathy. I feel for him and also feel
that there is not much reason for me to
break it off for now.
All I have to work on is the guilt I feel
that I may have contracted. I am even
afriad to take a trial test after three
months just incase it turns out what am
thinking.
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