I am in a relationship with a man which
started about 6 months ago. I have always
been open and honest with him from the
start. I suffer from depression and was
taking zoloft at the time. It was sending
me crazy so I weaned myself off it. I was
doing great until 6 weeks ago when I
realised something was wrong with me. I
was trying to explain to my b/f that
something wasn’t right with me. I
realise soon after telling him this that I
was ‘crashing’. I tried explaining to
him what was happening and I didn’t want
him to be there when I hit rock bottom so
maybe he should go and spend a few days at
his mum's house. He told me he was here
for better or worse and that we will get
through it.
Well I finally hit rock bottom about a
week later and he freaked out and went
home to his mum’s. Not for a few
days…he moved out completely. He left
me when I was totally down and out. After
a week of being in shock I got my act
together and started seeing a great shrink
and taking a new anti-depressant. Since
then he has told me that I have cause a
lot of pain and stress to out relationship
and to him and he will need time to heal.
He has also told me he can’t trust me
anymore at the moment. I am finding this
very hard to come to terms with as in the
start of our relationship he seriously
violated the trust factor between us but I
forgave him and moved on with life. He is
still dragging this out 5 weeks later.
He has personal attacks on me everytime we
talk saying I should have handle it better
and I should have been aware of what was
happening. I thought I was happy with
this man so I wasn’t convinced at the
time that I was ‘crashing’. I have
asked for his support to help me through
this and one day he will give it to me and
the next he’s telling I want to much
from him. When I have suggested we end
things he starts crying and tells me he
wants us and wants to be together till we
are old. He hasn’t told me that he
loves me in a week maybe more now although
I tell him everyday. I don’t understand
what he’s doing. Does he want us but is
scared of my depression or does he not
want us and is worried that telling me
will cause me to ‘crash’ again?
He’s 29. Any advice would be great.
|
ze paw
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2005 Posts: 11 Location: thunder bay, ont
Depression Posted: 03-30-05 19:16pm
I too have had simular experience. Now I
have learned to control my depressions in
different ways. My out is driving, when I
get really depressed I drive with my music
blasting and I cry. It seems now that the
good cry going down the hywy is
working.Anouther thing that helped was
that me and my spouse went to a counceller
together. It may not work for you but its
worth a try.
I hope you find your out. Keep trying
different things and some day you will
find it.
Ze paw
|
Hopehealth
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Apr 2005 Posts: 9
Posted: 04-05-05 12:23pm
I undertsand what you both have gone
through. My girlfriend got off of prozak
cold turkey and was fine for about a month
and then she crashed and I didn't know
what was going on and I was doubting our
relationship as well. I then asked her
if she was taking medication or got off of
any lately and she told me she did in nov.
(she didn't tell me she was taking a
medicine and never told me when she got
off) when I knew this I knew our
relationship would last. I then got her
onto some alternative things and they have
worked wonders.
I am telling you this because there is
always hope. The only problem is people
don't understand depressison or what the
side affects could be when getting off.
