Mid Twenty Hiv Crisis. Somebody Help Me Posted: 03-16-05 07:15am
Am twenty five.
I last tested in 2002 after ending a
relationship with someone I had had unsafe
sex with. It turned out I was negative.
Since then, I have had sex a few times
with a steady partner whom (and stupidly
so) my intuition told me strongly it was
safe to have sex with him. I later
worried about not using condoms. But I
also got to realize he was worrying about
having sex that was unprotected with me
because his intuition told him, I was safe
to mess around with.
We suspended sex for a long time to sort
out a few things individually. I still
feel uneasy about having unprotected sex
but what are the chances I cold be safe
after following my intuition which
normally never lets me down. Ofcourse I
can never make the mistake again.
Another question please....
Around the time I met him I had oral sex
(i as the giver) with two previous lovers.
I tend to date people without having
sexual intercourse with them.
I gave both of them oral sex just once on
different occassions and again from both
incidences, I developed like mouth ulcers
or oral warts. My mouth didnt quite
develop sore but my lips had dry sores,
got very flaky and started peeling just
days after these incidences. Later I got
a vaseline for my lips on the second
incidence and I cured. Could I have
contracted an std as these raections came
on like two days after. They dint last
long on both occassions.
I never swallowed any semen on both
occassions neither was it deep throtting
but I recently found out that one of these
men is an hiv carrier. He has no symptoms
yet but he is on arvs medication.
Am worrying everyday that I could have
contracted hiv from these three scenarios.
Its driving me nuts thinking about it.
I have kissed all the three men, including
an hiv infected person. I have no
bleeding gums and I tend to cross check if
I have any oral wounds before going to
meet anyone.
Somebody tell me what they think however
bad it maybe while I gather courage to do
a trial test.
Im constantly worrying about it.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-27-05 19:42pm
Definately get a test. But not just hiv,
all stds. You could have gotten herpes
from giving oral (on your mouth in the
form of cold sores) or canker sores from
syphillis. Syphillis (like a lot of
other stds) can be cured if treated early,
but if not it will make you go crazy and
then kill you. Definately get tested,
get treated for whatever you have (if
anything) and get on with your life.
Waiting to test is just making you stress,
making you sick and risking your life.
Good luck!
