My Wife Wants Another, I'm Unsure Posted: 03-16-05 17:24pm
I don't mind haveing another baby, however
our baby is four years old and starts
school nexts august. She is great with
the kids. I just have a lot of concerns
such as how will our 4 year old react.
He thinks he is the baby and will always
be. My twin 7 year olds would deal with
it ok and so would i, but the little guy
well I just think it would break his
heart. Then their is the awake all night,
potty training again. I'm not sure. I
mean it sounds great don't get me wrong,
but we have three boys and they can be a
little wild at times. She is the one
with them more than me. I work nights so
I am never home to help. If we had
another baby it would more than likely be
another great boy, he would get all of our
attention durning the day unlike the other
three who had to share our time, and that
sounds great. What impact would it have
to our home? Is there any one out their
that is dealing with a possible addition
and unsure of the balance? Any
sugguestion would be greatly appericated.
Thanks j.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-16-05 18:06pm
I cannot answer as a parent, but as a
middle child! I was the baby at one time
and when my little brother came we dealt.
My parents say I was more excited than
they were and I carried him around
everywhere I went.
Of course it will disrupt things in the
beginning but it will all work out. And
the "baby" always does get more attention
and gets punished less but that is just a
fact of life. I mean, with the first one
or two you are still a rookie and are
experimenting with things. By the time
the last one comes you let the little
things go and it does seem unfair to the
others, but it always works out.
Just make sure you both want a baby before
you have another one. Make sure you are
both ready and on the same page. Talk to
your little one and see what he says. He
may surprise you!
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mjws
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Joined: 15 Mar 2005 Posts: 8 Location: Ky
Re: My Wife Wants Another, I'm Unsure Posted: 03-23-05 16:11pm
jaymws
wrote:
i don't mind having another
baby, however our baby is four years old
and starts school nexts august. She is
great with the kids. I just have a lot
of concerns such as how will our 4 year
old react. He thinks he is the baby
and will always be. My twin 7 year olds
would deal with it ok and so would i, but
the little guy well I just think it would
break his heart. Then their is the
awake all night, potty training again.
I'm not sure. I mean it sounds great
don't get me wrong, but we have three boys
and they can be a little wild at times.
She is the one with them more than me.
I work nights so I am never home to help.
If we had another baby it would more
than likely be another great boy, he would
get all of our attention durning the day
unlike the other three who had to share
our time, and that sounds great. What
impact would it have to our home? Is
there any one out their that is dealing
with a possible addition and unsure of the
balance? Any suggestion would be
greatly appericated.
Thanks j.
i'm not a man, but I wonder could your
wife be feeling lonely knowing that the
house will be empty? Maybe you should
ask her about how she feels with the
littlest child going to school. Maybe
if she worked part-time it would help some
of the lonely feeling she thinks she might
feel. I could be wrong but she might
want to try for a girl this time. What
ever the matter is talk to one another
before making this very big impact
decision.
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jaymws
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2005 Posts: 10 Location: TN.
Re: My Wife Wants Another, I'm Unsure Posted: 03-23-05 19:16pm
mjws
wrote:
jaymws
wrote:
i don't mind having another
baby, however our baby is four years old
and starts school nexts august. She
is great with the kids. I just have a
lot of concerns such as how will our 4
year old react. He thinks he is the
baby and will always be. My twin 7
year olds would deal with it ok and so
would i, but the little guy well I just
think it would break his heart. Then
their is the awake all night, potty
training again. I'm not sure. I
mean it sounds great don't get me wrong,
but we have three boys and they can be a
little wild at times. She is the one
with them more than me. I work nights
so I am never home to help. If we had
another baby it would more than likely be
another great boy, he would get all of our
attention durning the day unlike the other
three who had to share our time, and that
sounds great. What impact would it
have to our home? Is there any one
out their that is dealing with a possible
addition and unsure of the balance?
Any suggestion would be greatly
appericated.
Thanks j.
thanks for your input. I will talk with
her about what she might be feeling. I
have been thinking about another baby and
i'm not sure if I really want another
child. I'm scared I might disappoint her
though with my decision. Any one else
going through this same thing?
I'm not a man, but I wonder could your
wife be feeling lonely knowing that the
house will be empty? Maybe you should
ask her about how she feels with the
littlest child going to school. Maybe
if she worked part-time it would help some
of the lonely feeling she thinks she might
feel. I could be wrong but she might
want to try for a girl this time. What
ever the matter is talk to one another
before making this very big impact
decision.
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jaymws
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2005 Posts: 10 Location: TN.
Re: My Wife Wants Another, I'm Unsure Posted: 03-23-05 19:17pm
Thanks for your input. I will talk with
her about what she might be feeling. I
have been thinking about another baby and
i'm not sure if I really want another
child. I'm scared I might disappoint her
though with my decision. Any one else
going through this same thing?
