Hey everyone! My name is kandyce, i'm 22
and i'm a single mom. I have a beautiful
9 month old daughter. About 4 months ago
I started dating this guy...Everything was
perfect. He is super hot, so sweet, he
didn't mind that I had a daughter. In
fact he always asked for me to bring my
daughter with me. I mean everything was
perfect...He treated me great and treated
my daughter as if it was his daughter.
We got engaged. To me it just felt like
a fairy tale. Because for a long time
(while I was pregnant and right after I
had my daughter) I felt like I would never
find a guy to be with that would love me
and my daughter. Then I found him. You
know I had a feeling it all had to be too
good to be true. And it looks like I was
right! So about a week ago we went to a
concert with some friends. Well one of
our guy friends came up behind me and
started dancing with me...And me thinking
oh this isn't a big deal we are just
having some fun...I danced with him for a
minute...Then I saw the look on my ex's
face. He totally got pissed up off. So
I talked to him and told him he had
nothing to be mad about. That he didn't
have to worry about me ever cheating on
him...That I loved him and would never do
that. I told him that I was just dancing
with a friend and that it wasn't a big
deal! Well he told me he was just
kidding and he wasn't mad. So I don't
know if he really was or not. Well my
best friend decided to talk to him about
it last tuesday...And told him that my
baby's daddy was a really jealous guy and
that I didn't like that...And that is one
of the reasons we broke up. She told him
that I was scared that the jealousy would
break us up. Well he totally took it the
wrong way and thought I was scared he
would do something to me because of his
jealousy. He hangs up the phone with her
and calls me and ends it....Just like
that. Doesn't give me a chance to talk
or anything! What kind of caca is that?!
So he tells me to give him 2 weeks and
maybe we can get back together. Well I
have a feeling that wont happen. So I
sent him a message on his phone...Asking
him if the break up was permanent because
I had a feeling it was and telling him
that I loved him and he broke my heart
when he broke up with me. I told him it
would break my heart all over again if he
makes me believe we have a chance to get
together in 2 weeks and we don't. So I
simply asked him to answer that
question...Do we have a chance...Or don't
we? And I never got a response...So I
guess that is my answer huh? I just dont
understand how he can go from loving me
and wanting to get married to completely
ignoring me and not letting him explain
the situation. Soo then I find out from
a friend of ours...That he was telling
people that we broke up because he was
ready to be single and bring back the guy
he use to me...The partier or whatever.
So I guess that's why nothing about the
break up made since...He was probably just
looking for a reason to break up. No
matter how little that reason. I just
hate this. I thought I found the one for
me. I'm soo tired of getting screwed
over. I mean I think i'm a very pretty
girl. And i'm not a big girl...I'm back
to the size (3 or 5) that I was before I
got pregnant. I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait. I want to fall in
love and get married now. I'm tired of
all the games!!!! Why are guys such
jerks?!?!
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lizzardlips
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 9 Location: Georgia
What a Jerk Posted: 03-20-05 02:59am
I think he did have feeling for you
initially, so I hope you dont ever feel
like he never did. I do think he was
looking for a reason to get out of the
relationship. He may at first thought he
was ready for something like you, but some
people figure out later that they arent
really ready. He was immature for not
just telling you that he has been re
thinking the relationship and did it in a
way that crushed you. Now that you know
what a heart breaker he is, arent you glad
you found out now than lets say later on
down the road after marriage? You deserve
better than that. Be glad that the
relationship ended now. A lot of people
suck everything up and stay in
relationships when they dont even know if
they want to be in it. That just creates
bad relationships and damages people in
the long run. Trust me, I did it myself.
I wish I would have had the courage to end
it or the guy I was with end it so I didnt
have to put up with all of the heart ache.
The dude sounds like a jealous freak. It
doesnt sound like you would like to be
with a guy like that. Be thankful. Its
hard, but down the road when you meet
someone else you will be thankful that the
relationship ended this way.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Thanks: 1
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Posted: 03-21-05 08:01am
Welcome to the world of infatuation. 4
months and already engaged. The
transition from infatuation to love is
where most relationships fail.. Sometimes
it happens in a few weeks, sometimes it
takes years for reality to set in.
Next time, take it slow... If you two are
good together, there shouldn't be any rush
to get married tomorrow... You will still
have one another. Also be careful who
you introduce your daughter to... Right
now she is very young, but in a few years
she will begin really latching on someone
as 'daddy'... And you don't want any more
men to walk out on her.
Justin
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KandyPants
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2005 Posts: 18 Location: Texas
Posted: 03-21-05 09:09am
I realize the break up is probably the
best thing in the long run. But it's
still really hard. I just get so lonely
and I want to find that special someone.
But i'm sure it will be awhile before I
get serious with someone again. You
know, after the relationship with my
daughter's dad...It was soo hard for me to
trust anyone....To let anyone get
close...That guy really messed up my
life...He messed with my head...He made me
feel worthless. So when I found kenny I
knew it had to be too good to be true. I
guess I will just be single for awhile.
I know god has someone out there for me
and my daughter, I just have to be
patient.
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nadeentears
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2005 Posts: 78 Location: Canada
Broken Heart Posted: 03-21-05 09:44am
You answered the question ( he just want a
reason to break the relation no matterwhat
that reason is small ) don't regret. Give
yourself enough time,don't rush in a new
relation. Maybe he will find that you are
fit for him and he misses your love. You
are still young and one day you will find
real love who deserves you and you
deserves him. You are not alone you have
a beautiful daughter,spend more time with
her to forget your pain. I'm her smile
will forget you your loneliness.
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dan443
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Mar 2005 Posts: 15 Location: Lincolnshire
Special Someone Posted: 03-21-05 10:08am
Hey i'm 16, but i've watched my mum go
threw this, so I kinda know how you feel
.... But the thing is, she has 3 kiddies
.. Me, my little brother and sister......
Now .. Who's going to wont a woman with
3 kids? Well someone did, she found
someone else took it slow, they've now
been together for well over a year coming
on 2 years. So someone will come along
and take you in along with your little
girl, and he will treat you right, and he
will treat you girl like an angel....
Don't give in be patient, be happy
