I need some help. I have been with my
boyfriend for 4 years and have been living
together for 2 years. We have been having
the same problem for the past year and
thats that he doesnt know to organize his
priorities and also he doesnt know how to
value his time. I have spoken to him
about this several times before, but it
seems like it goes in one and comes out
the other. He says that he will try but
as soon as his friends come around he is a
different person. I really dont know what
to do anymore. Last night was a big fight
that it even turned physical. It started
cuz his friend came home from korea and he
wanted to be with him. I didnt mind cuz I
had to work. After I got out we had
agreed that we were going to go out and
discuss things cuz I found out 3 days ago
that I was pregnant. His friend asked him
to go out with him and he asked me but I
didnt want to go out with his friends. He
went out anyways and left me at home. He
showed up at 3:30 in the morning and
expected me to be fine with that. I told
him that since he wanted to go out with
his friends that I wasnt going let hime
sleep. We went at it and we even had to
call my mom to come over cuz it got really
bad. My mom ended up taking him with her.
But the point here is that I really love
this man and I cant picture my life
without him but at the same time I am fed
up I really need some help.
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beebee2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Feb 2005 Posts: 10 Location: london
Shoulf I Stay With Him Posted: 03-30-05 12:54pm
Hi there,you must be going through
difficult time right now,especially if
your pregnant,am in slightly similar
situation to you.Been with my fella for
2years,we argue alot,mainly about him and
his mates,i love him to bits and do see
future with him,but we constantly argue
about the same things-which is tiring.I
was married for 13 years,have a 7 year
old,my current b.F is great with my
son,better than his dad,but in some ways
very immature.For some reason men think
its their right to just bugger off with
their mates when it suits them.Hes done
that on more then one occasion-dont have
problem with him seeing friends-but you
would think one night is enough,he
prolongs it over a whole weekend
sometimes,which really angers me off.Dont
know how often your partner does this,but
if now your pregnant,could understand why
you fed up.At the end of the day,hes the
father to be of your baby,you have to get
things clear between you,i think,before
baby arrives,otherwise he will take the
piss still.Does he know your pregnant,you
didnt say?One thing you are guarenteed
of,he will have a huge wake up call when
baby comes,maybe he will change then.
I have learnt from my r,ship that its no
use just being pissed with them-men dont
respond well to ranting at them-think it
makes them do it even more,sit down with
him and tell him how unhappy you are,i
have written a letter before now,this away
they read it couple of times and it may
sink in more.
Wish you good luck-remember-you deserve to
be happy,for you and your childs sake :d
