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Q: Girlfirend Lying?

asked by: corvus on March 21st, 2005

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Ive been with my girlfiend for about 5 months now, she was on the shot, depo, or something...But its supposed to last for 3 months, she got her last shot a month after we started dating...She is supposed to get her period after it goes away, but has yet to get it. I think she may be pregnant and trying to hide it from me? Is there anyway or anything I can do to find out? Her stomach has pooched out a little, though it was that way when we first started dating, its just gotten a little bigger pretty fast...Which was what caught my attention at first...But we have been eating out alot, alot of junk. Shes doesnt like me touching her stomach, and she never had a problem with it before, but when ever I put my hands there, she always pulls them away now. Ive felt it while she was sleeping, to see if it was hard, as a girl from work who was pregnant suggested but it seems soft, not hard like shes pregnant but I really dont know. I had her take a pregnancy test, but she did it alone, so she could have just stuck it in water. And shes been moody...But nothing out of the norm ;) I saw under google search she had searched for "how to have a baby faster" and "what do contractions feel like", I asked her about it...But she swears it was for a friend at work...Though her phone doesnt show any calls to anyone from work :( I know that seems snoopy, but considering the threat, I think I have just cause. Im just worried, and if she is pregnant, it is something that I want to experience with her, not have hidden from me until shes so far in :'( if anyone has any suggestions as to what I can do, or look for - i'd greatly appreciate it.

Thanks

Replies(19)

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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I think you should just ask her...Tell her this is something you want to experience with her, and tell her she has nothing to hide from you...That you are there for her, and just want her to be honest with you...This isnt something she should hide from you...If she is, she isnt a very trustworthy person anyway...If she would hide this from you, what else would she lie about?? Pregnancy is a pretty big deal.

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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corvus

replied on March 21st, 2005

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Yeah...And I have, and we had a huge discussion about trust and whatnot...Another worry is that if she is...Then she has it and just wants child support (though I dont know if you have to have been married for that.) =\ I really do trust her, but shes had a rough life, and opening up seems hard for her. And ive talked to her and told her she has nothing to worry about, but if she thinks id leave her, or something...She may be afraid to tell me. And I dont want to make a big deal out of it with her if she isnt... im just scared. Does anyone know if I can put a pregnancy test in toilet water if she doesnt flush? Or would it be too diluted to pick up the hormone?

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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If she is afraid you'll leave her for being pregnant, maybe she would be more afraid if she knew you'd leave her for lying about somethinf this big...
I dont know if you have to be married where youre from, but in utah, all you need is a dna test or the fathers admittance to get child support
and the toilet water thing, I think it would be too diluted
just ask her to take one in front of you

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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Do you mind if I ask how old you 2 are

corvus

replied on March 21st, 2005

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19 and 20. And I swear I jsut felt kicking. I layed down, and had my hand on her stomach...And it was in random places, mostly on the side, but some towards the middle. Shes not exactly skinny...So I have no clue how far she could be...Or if there are muscles that can spasm like that...But it didnt feel like a muscle spasm. Heh...I think im a daddy =\

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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Are you sure she ever had the shot at all??
If you think you feel kicking she would have to be a few months along for that...
Hmmm...Now I dont know what to say other then just keep on asking her...Force her to be up front with you...If she cant be honest I dont see much of a future with you 2 anyway

kawaiianafrazier

replied on March 21st, 2005

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She Could Be Telling the Truth

First how long had she been taking the shot. I was on the shot for over 3 years went to the clinic religously every three months and when me and my boyfriend decided on tostop and try for a baby it was almost a year and half before my period started again. So just trust her if she says that she is not pregnant then just relax and beleive her. Because if you keep accusing her making her take pregnancy test and sneaking to feel her stomachin the middle of the night then you may just run her away.

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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It is different with everyone...And you could be right, maybe she is telling the truth...Maybe just give it time...If she is you'll know, if not...You'll know

corvus

replied on March 21st, 2005

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Im not sure how long shes been on it, but yes im certain she was on it. And thats what im scared of, I dont want her to feel like I dont trust her if she is telling the truth...We agreed on adoption in the beginning of the relationship just incase something did happen...Because we arent financially set, or mentally set =\ to raise a child right now. I dont think it would be fair for the kid. And if she is doing it for the childsupport.........Grrrr....Why cant girls have little red lights that come on when theyre pregnant :(((((

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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Hang In There

I cant believe youve only been together 5 months....I think you need to just relax and try not to overthink the whole thing...If she is she'll tell you...If shes not, youre stressin for nothing...

corvus

replied on March 21st, 2005

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I know :( im just insecure and scared. Thanks for all your help. Guess ill just wait it out...Hopefully everything turns out for the best. Thanks again.

mellymel78

replied on March 21st, 2005

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Good luck!!!

mandaroonie

replied on March 22nd, 2005

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Ooh ooh ooh! Let us know how it turns out!!! Sure sounds like she's pregnant to me!!! :d

Jays mommy

replied on March 23rd, 2005

Experienced User

Hi, I was on the depo shot for a year, and my periods went real wacky, I didnt have one at all all while I was on the shot, and I didnt get one again until 4 months after I stopped taking it.

On the leaflet I got - to read before I decided to take that form of contraception- it mentioned, that it could take from 6 months till up to 2 years to become preg. After you stop taking the shot.

There is a chance she could be preg. But she wouldnt be very far along.
The depo shot is very affective.
You say her last shot was the month after u met her... And u have been together 5 months, which means her last shot was 4 months ago? The shot last for 3 months.. Which means she has only had the last 4 weeks to become preg. In.
At 4 weeks preg. Hcg levels are very low, meaning its quite likley to get a neg. Result even if u are preg.
At 4 weeks preg. Its very unlikley to have any symptons of being preg. Other than a missed period.
At 4 weeks preg. Your stomach will not have pooched out, you would have not felt any kicking- the fetus dosent have formed legs yet- its unlikley to have morning sickness, but your breasts could be quite tender- this is also a sign of getting your period though-.

I would give her another month, or, at least 2 more weeks before you get her to take another preg. Test. And dont hassle her, because girls dont like thinking that our men dont believe what we are telling them the first time round.

Hope this helps.

corvus

replied on March 24th, 2005

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Yeah :) im still not quite sure, but I dont care. If she is lying, then we will probably incur some problems. If not...Everythings good. And im not sure if she got the shot a month before, a month after, but I know she got it...And I know either way it isnt long enough for kicking. Thats just my paranoia. =\ either way, as long as she doesnt medical question me (not in a litteral sense) everything will be fine. Im going to be getting lots of money soon from a serious injury in a car accident, so we if she is...We will have money to raise a child. Though I dont think were ready for it...If she wants it, im not going to leave her because she wants to keep my child. I just want to know because I want to go through it with her if she is. It came up (not by me) and I told her that I trusted her, and if she though/knew she was she would tell me, and dropped it there. I know everything will be fine. I thank you guys for your help. :) ill let you know if she is

redsugar

replied on March 24th, 2005

Experienced User

If you all are still together and get along fine, I seriously doubt she is pregnant. I would not think that any girl who is still with their b/f and pregnant wouldn't tell him. I mean, if she is then she'd probably want you to know....

Why don't u just ask her to make sure say something like "since we aren't using any birth control, are you sure you aren't pregnant?"

you are just gonna have to trust her, you'll know in a few months if she's pregnant b/c her belly will start getting hard! Good luck!

Isabel_Kitty

replied on March 25th, 2005

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If you think you felt "kicking" most women experence the first feelings between 17-20 weeks.. And usually it takes a little longer then that for them to be felt from the outside. Which if you say there's 4 weeks roughly in a month put her at 4-5 months. I think she would of had to of 1)getting pregnant right away or 2)was pregnant when you met her that's if she's lying and is pregnant.

2ferano

replied on March 27th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

I have a friend who got pregnant twice on depo. It is just like birth control pills (if taken correctly) and isn't 100% effective. Plus, antibiotics, certain herbs, etc. Render it ineffective.
Unless she got pregnant when you first met or shortly after there wouldn't be kicking yet. And yes, if she was and knew that she was I am sure she would tell you. You said that you both decided on adoption when you first met if something were to happen, but it is way different to say if it happens we will....Then to have it happen and then decide. I am not saying that she isn't telling the truth, but if she wasn't it may be because of that "decision" made earlier. Maybe she is afraid you will push for that when she wants to keep the baby.
Anyway, just be there for her and if she is pregnant she will tell you eventually. She is probably telling you the truth though and you are just stressing over nothing. Good luck.

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