Ive been with my girlfiend for about 5
months now, she was on the shot, depo, or
something...But its supposed to last for 3
months, she got her last shot a month
after we started dating...She is supposed
to get her period after it goes away, but
has yet to get it. I think she may be
pregnant and trying to hide it from me?
Is there anyway or anything I can do to
find out? Her stomach has pooched out a
little, though it was that way when we
first started dating, its just gotten a
little bigger pretty fast...Which was what
caught my attention at first...But we have
been eating out alot, alot of junk. Shes
doesnt like me touching her stomach, and
she never had a problem with it before,
but when ever I put my hands there, she
always pulls them away now. Ive felt it
while she was sleeping, to see if it was
hard, as a girl from work who was pregnant
suggested but it seems soft, not hard like
shes pregnant but I really dont know. I
had her take a pregnancy test, but she did
it alone, so she could have just stuck it
in water. And shes been moody...But
nothing out of the norm ;) I saw under
google search she had searched for "how to
have a baby faster" and "what do
contractions feel like", I asked her about
it...But she swears it was for a friend at
work...Though her phone doesnt show any
calls to anyone from work :( I know that
seems snoopy, but considering the threat,
I think I have just cause. Im just
worried, and if she is pregnant, it is
something that I want to experience with
her, not have hidden from me until shes so
far in :'( if anyone has any suggestions
as to what I can do, or look for - i'd
greatly appreciate it.
Thanks
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mellymel78
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-21-05 04:52am
I think you should just ask her...Tell her
this is something you want to experience
with her, and tell her she has nothing to
hide from you...That you are there for
her, and just want her to be honest with
you...This isnt something she should hide
from you...If she is, she isnt a very
trustworthy person anyway...If she would
hide this from you, what else would she
lie about?? Pregnancy is a pretty big
deal.
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mellymel78
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Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-21-05 04:53am
I think you should just ask her...Tell her
this is something you want to experience
with her, and tell her she has nothing to
hide from you...That you are there for
her, and just want her to be honest with
you...This isnt something she should hide
from you...If she is, she isnt a very
trustworthy person anyway...If she would
hide this from you, what else would she
lie about?? Pregnancy is a pretty big
deal.
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corvus
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Joined: 21 Mar 2005 Posts: 8 Location: nonya
Posted: 03-21-05 05:00am
Yeah...And I have, and we had a huge
discussion about trust and
whatnot...Another worry is that if she
is...Then she has it and just wants child
support (though I dont know if you have to
have been married for that.) =\ I really
do trust her, but shes had a rough life,
and opening up seems hard for her. And
ive talked to her and told her she has
nothing to worry about, but if she thinks
id leave her, or something...She may be
afraid to tell me. And I dont want to
make a big deal out of it with her if she
isnt...<shrug> im just scared. Does
anyone know if I can put a pregnancy test
in toilet water if she doesnt flush? Or
would it be too diluted to pick up the
hormone?
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mellymel78
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Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-21-05 05:12am
If she is afraid you'll leave her for
being pregnant, maybe she would be more
afraid if she knew you'd leave her for
lying about somethinf this big...
I dont know if you have to be married
where youre from, but in utah, all you
need is a dna test or the fathers
admittance to get child support
and the toilet water thing, I think it
would be too diluted
just ask her to take one in front of you
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mellymel78
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Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-21-05 05:13am
Do you mind if I ask how old you 2 are
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corvus
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Joined: 21 Mar 2005 Posts: 8 Location: nonya
Posted: 03-21-05 05:37am
19 and 20. And I swear I jsut felt
kicking. I layed down, and had my hand
on her stomach...And it was in random
places, mostly on the side, but some
towards the middle. Shes not exactly
skinny...So I have no clue how far she
could be...Or if there are muscles that
can spasm like that...But it didnt feel
like a muscle spasm. Heh...I think im a
daddy =\
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mellymel78
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Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-21-05 05:41am
Are you sure she ever had the shot at
all??
If you think you feel kicking she would
have to be a few months along for
that...
Hmmm...Now I dont know what to say other
then just keep on asking her...Force her
to be up front with you...If she cant be
honest I dont see much of a future with
you 2 anyway
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kawaiianafrazier
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Joined: 20 Mar 2005 Posts: 9 Location: stone mountain
She Could Be Telling the Truth Posted: 03-21-05 05:42am
First how long had she been taking the
shot. I was on the shot for over 3 years
went to the clinic religously every three
months and when me and my boyfriend
decided on tostop and try for a baby it
was almost a year and half before my
period started again. So just trust her
if she says that she is not pregnant then
just relax and beleive her. Because if
you keep accusing her making her take
pregnancy test and sneaking to feel her
stomachin the middle of the night then you
may just run her away.
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mellymel78
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Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-21-05 05:44am
It is different with everyone...And you
could be right, maybe she is telling the
truth...Maybe just give it time...If she
is you'll know, if not...You'll know
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corvus
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Joined: 21 Mar 2005 Posts: 8 Location: nonya
Posted: 03-21-05 06:02am
Im not sure how long shes been on it, but
yes im certain she was on it. And thats
what im scared of, I dont want her to feel
like I dont trust her if she is telling
the truth...We agreed on adoption in the
beginning of the relationship just incase
something did happen...Because we arent
financially set, or mentally set =\ to
raise a child right now. I dont think it
would be fair for the kid. And if she is
doing it for the
childsupport.........Grrrr....Why cant
girls have little red lights that come on
when theyre pregnant :(((((
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mellymel78
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Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Hang In There Posted: 03-21-05 06:07am
I cant believe youve only been together 5
months....I think you need to just relax
and try not to overthink the whole
thing...If she is she'll tell you...If
shes not, youre stressin for nothing...
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corvus
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2005 Posts: 8 Location: nonya
Posted: 03-21-05 06:08am
I know :( im just insecure and scared.
Thanks for all your help. Guess ill just
wait it out...Hopefully everything turns
out for the best. Thanks again.
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mellymel78
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Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-21-05 06:13am
Good luck!!!
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mandaroonie
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Joined: 08 Feb 2005 Posts: 9 Location: Illinois
Posted: 03-22-05 21:04pm
Ooh ooh ooh! Let us know how it turns
out!!! Sure sounds like she's pregnant
to me!!! :d
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Jays mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2005 Posts: 80 Location: England
Posted: 03-23-05 12:43pm
Hi, I was on the depo shot for a year, and
my periods went real wacky, I didnt have
one at all all while I was on the shot,
and I didnt get one again until 4 months
after I stopped taking it.
On the leaflet I got - to read before I
decided to take that form of
contraception- it mentioned, that it could
take from 6 months till up to 2 years to
become preg. After you stop taking the
shot.
There is a chance she could be preg. But
she wouldnt be very far along.
The depo shot is very affective.
You say her last shot was the month after
u met her... And u have been together 5
months, which means her last shot was 4
months ago? The shot last for 3 months..
Which means she has only had the last 4
weeks to become preg. In.
At 4 weeks preg. Hcg levels are very
low, meaning its quite likley to get a
neg. Result even if u are preg.
At 4 weeks preg. Its very unlikley to
have any symptons of being preg. Other
than a missed period.
At 4 weeks preg. Your stomach will not
have pooched out, you would have not felt
any kicking- the fetus dosent have formed
legs yet- its unlikley to have morning
sickness, but your breasts could be quite
tender- this is also a sign of getting
your period though-.
I would give her another month, or, at
least 2 more weeks before you get her to
take another preg. Test. And dont hassle
her, because girls dont like thinking that
our men dont believe what we are telling
them the first time round.
Hope this helps.
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corvus
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2005 Posts: 8 Location: nonya
Posted: 03-24-05 03:19am
Yeah :) im still not quite sure, but I
dont care. If she is lying, then we will
probably incur some problems. If
not...Everythings good. And im not sure
if she got the shot a month before, a
month after, but I know she got it...And I
know either way it isnt long enough for
kicking. Thats just my paranoia. =\
either way, as long as she doesnt medical
question me (not in a litteral sense)
everything will be fine. Im going to be
getting lots of money soon from a serious
injury in a car accident, so we if she
is...We will have money to raise a child.
Though I dont think were ready for it...If
she wants it, im not going to leave her
because she wants to keep my child. I
just want to know because I want to go
through it with her if she is. It came up
(not by me) and I told her that I trusted
her, and if she though/knew she was she
would tell me, and dropped it there. I
know everything will be fine. I thank you
guys for your help. :) ill let you know
if she is <nods>
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redsugar
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Feb 2005 Posts: 140
Posted: 03-24-05 09:17am
If you all are still together and get
along fine, I seriously doubt she is
pregnant. I would not think that any
girl who is still with their b/f and
pregnant wouldn't tell him. I mean, if
she is then she'd probably want you to
know....
Why don't u just ask her to make sure say
something like "since we aren't using any
birth control, are you sure you aren't
pregnant?"
you are just gonna have to trust her,
you'll know in a few months if she's
pregnant b/c her belly will start getting
hard! Good luck!
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Isabel_Kitty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Oct 2004 Posts: 17
Posted: 03-25-05 05:14am
If you think you felt "kicking" most women
experence the first feelings between 17-20
weeks.. And usually it takes a little
longer then that for them to be felt from
the outside. Which if you say there's 4
weeks roughly in a month put her at 4-5
months. I think she would of had to of
1)getting pregnant right away or 2)was
pregnant when you met her that's if she's
lying and is pregnant.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-27-05 19:25pm
I have a friend who got pregnant twice on
depo. It is just like birth control
pills (if taken correctly) and isn't 100%
effective. Plus, antibiotics, certain
herbs, etc. Render it ineffective.
Unless she got pregnant when you first met
or shortly after there wouldn't be kicking
yet. And yes, if she was and knew that
she was I am sure she would tell you.
You said that you both decided on adoption
when you first met if something were to
happen, but it is way different to say if
it happens we will....Then to have it
happen and then decide. I am not saying
that she isn't telling the truth, but if
she wasn't it may be because of that
"decision" made earlier. Maybe she is
afraid you will push for that when she
wants to keep the baby.
Anyway, just be there for her and if she
is pregnant she will tell you eventually.
She is probably telling you the truth
though and you are just stressing over
nothing. Good luck.
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