Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 209 Location: San Diego, CA United States
Hello An Only Child Girl Helping You Out Posted: 02-20-06 14:22pm
Well since a lot of guys did help you on
the technical thing..Which i'm not so
knowledgeable about since i'm a girl...I
will help you on how to approach girls
because it is the thing that i'm good
at.
These are the laws:
1. First of all, be observant since girls
are not at all the same...Like guys, girls
are very different....Talking to a girl in
a club is very different from talking to a
professional girl...
*since i'm assuming that you are
professional you will talk to professional
girls too...
2. Don't use some stupid doing it pick up
lines...They are just annoying...Just be
honest...Like approach to a girl and say
"hi! You look very pretty today can I
know your name? Trust me that sentence
will make any girl vulnerable
3. Don't brag...O please girls hate guys
who brag on how much money they have...If
you want a serious relationship or a
descent woman...Talk to her like you are a
friend...Like ask her what her work is?
How does she feel? Ask her about family
and stuff...
4. Be somewhat emotional about
stuffs...A lot of girls are emotional and
sensitive beings...I'm not asking you to
cry in front of them...But it is effective
to throw some emotional lines ones in a
while...Like you know what....I really do
feel alone sometimes....Girls love guys
who are somehow or a little bit
sensitive...
5. Be comfortable...Don't act as if you
are scared or nervous..Girls will think
you are a complete weirdo....Lol...Talk
with confidence..Be confident...And
honest...
Also watch the 40 year old virgin...You'll
feel better...Being a virgin at 28 might
be really disturbing...But it's not the
end of the world...
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bkc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 23
Posted: 02-20-06 16:37pm
All this stuff about the lenght has me
wondering you measure from the tip to
where?
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fiona05
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Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
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Posted: 02-22-06 15:05pm
In my opinion, if you sleep with a
prostitute, you are just going to feel
cheap and empty inside. Sex is about
interaction and trust and attraction, and
a whole load of other things that you're
going to miss out on if you opt to go down
the hooker road. In my opinion, you will
regret it.
You seem to be building everything up to
the first time.... Well what happens
after that first time? It won't lead to
anything. It will be no substitute for a
happy relationship and i'm sure that is
what you really want.
Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of
- the more women a bloke has slept with
the less I am attracted to him. And your
penis is not too small, not too big.
It's perfect! I know I speak for many
when I say i'm not interested in penis
size... The vagina is only about 10cm
long. What are you going to do with a
f**king 12 inch penis? F**k someone in
australia?
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whirlygirly
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jan 2006 Posts: 87
Posted: 02-28-06 03:57am
Hey there. I just want to say that I
applaud you for coming forward and saying
your a virgin (especially being a male).
In a society where men are portrayed many
times as womanizers that keep scorecards
on who/how many women they have had sex
with, it is actually nice to hear that
there is someone in their 20's that is
actually a virgin and male. When it comes
to love and something deep, you should do
it when you feel the time is right (not
just from peer pressure from other male
buddies). I respect men that can stand
firm on their own beliefs instead of
following some "male guide" of what
symbolizes a "man". Plus, who wants to
sleep with a guy who has slept with 80
women...Yuck. I would rather be in a
relationship with a guy who has had good
long term relationships with a few women
than dozens of meaningless
relationships/one night standers with
many-its not how many women--its when you
feel your ready--and nothing else matters.
Some people get love and lust confused.
Find love naturally---don't go to vegas
and hook up with a hooker/stripper--more
than likely--you'll lose your
virginity---and possibly gain sexual
diseases which isn't worth it---you seem
balanced--let it happen when your ready.
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patch38
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Feb 2006 Posts: 6 Location: eNGLAND
Posted: 02-28-06 04:42am
guyphx
wrote:
well I just wanted to thank
everyone for kind responses (except for a
few) and I wanted to let you know that I
finally met with a girl that I was in love
with a long time ago. Life was that way
that we drifted away from each other since
we were far away from each other, but
finally after 5 years we saw each other
recently and felt that the love was never
gone.
There was no sex, but we steamed things a
bit, because we were both trying to get to
know each other again before getting to
the next level. Now, she's gone but she
will be visiting in a few months again to
spend more time with me and it's most
certain that we will have sex.
I'm having other problems at this point
and I would like to hear from you guys.
I knew this girl a long time ago very
good, but now i've noticed that she's much
more experienced (she's 27 btw), you could
even say that she might be a sex addict.
She told me that she loves sex very very
much, she did almost everything possible
including anal sex and told me somewhat
about her relationships that happened
during the time we didn't see each
other.
This was an intimate conversation between
us where she also asked me what I would
like to do. She doesn't know that i'm
still a virgin, however I think she
suspects. I'm not willing to talk about
it with her, but she's showed me that she
is willing to show patience and allow time
for us to really enjoy having sex with
each other. I'm just not too happy to
talk about this anyway and I just want to
let it happen without much talk. It is
strange that I feel very confident with
her and not "afraid" if you can call it
fear. I even showed initiative and did
things that I thought I was afraid to do
while we were intimate while she was
visiting.
She's not here now, but I started having
doubts about her past and if she told me
everything about her previous affairs.
I love this girl very much, but i'm afraid
that she changed to a point where I would
be shocked if I found out something else
about her.
Some of the people she had relationships
with I know, among which one guy was with
her for a year and a half and the other
guy I know was a one night thing. She
told me she tried one night thing twice
and that both times was horrible.
Knowing this kills me, because I know that
eventually I will see these 2 guys I know
and I don't know how I will feel. Maybe
she told me about this just because she
maybe knew that I will most likely find
out one day.
On the other hand, i'm afraid that she's a
very sexual person and that she will sleep
with someone else even though she
expressed her feelings.
I guess i'm afraid that I don't know her
anymore and if she's not what I feel, I
will be crushed.
Can some of you guys who are more
experienced in relationships give me your
opinions about this. I can tell you
more about her if you need to know. I'm
just afraid that she changed to a point
where she was telling me what I wanted to
hear. Am I obsessing too much?
Btw, this girl is very far away from me
and this would be a long distance
relationship where I would see her
probably every few months for a period of
a month or so, for the next maybe 2-3
years while she finishes very tough
university. What will happen after that
I don't know.
If any girls are reading this, feel free
to post your thoughts
too.
it seesm you have a lot on your mind. My
advice would be not too worry about the
information you have been told. It seesm
fron reading your post that she has been
pretty honest with you regarding her past,
and I would be very careful not to judge
someone on their past expereinces. I met
a girl who had cheated on every guy she
had been with...We are still together 4
years later. It just goes to show that
people can change. :d
ultimately only you will know if this girl
is serious or not, the break away may be a
really good way of finding out.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Re: Hello! Posted: 02-28-06 16:15pm
You know,i would love3 to have been with a
virgin.Not be with him but actually be
with him as a couple and get to know him
cause I think for a guy to hold out that
long is awesome.You should not be
embarassed about it.Not all girls want
sex.It will happenn when it is suppose to
happen and with the person you feel it
will be right.Its a natural thing so
obviously it will come naturally to you
about what you are suppose to do.I give
you props and enjoy your first time!
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royrogers18777
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Mar 2006 Posts: 6 Location: Canada
They Lied Posted: 03-20-06 12:57pm
Alright brother, i'm in the same boat.
I'm 21, a university student, and i've
never had sex before either.
We all saw the after school specials when
we were younger about how you need to be
in love, you don't want to do anything
that will offend the girl, wait till your
ready blah blah blah...
Lies. All of it.
You get no respect like this. I've had a
boatload of girls who I really liked, who
I knew would love to be with me, but
because I had this preconceived notion in
my head that I didn't want to offend them,
or that I was scared that they wouldn't
like me when they knew I had never had sex
before. These girls left me for guys who
could make a move.
Because women have had guys trying to get
in their pants since they were 14 years
old, they think you're weird if you don't
try it also. Now that doesn't mean you
have to be all over her from the first
second you meet her, but if you fail to
let her know that you very badly want to
have sex with her, then you have no
chance. They will assume that you are not
into them.
The longer you let this go, the harder it
will become... Hahaha wouldn't it have
been so much easier to go through all of
this when we were young?
And the penis size? Forget about that
man... A vagina can expand to take almost
any size penis, or tighten to pleasure a
smaller one...
My advice? Don't have sex with a
hooker... Sleep with a woman that turns
you on. You don't need to be in love, but
a woman that you are attracted to and you
like... That's a lot of pressure for a
regular girl, taking a 28 year old man's
virginity, so don't tell her your a virgin
until after... Because then it really
won't matter anymore. Then you can have a
deep, intellectual conversation about it
if that flaots your boat, or forget about
it and move on.
And the bottom line? It's not about going
where no man has gone before... It's
about going where you have never gone
before... Step your game up, you'll be
proud of yourself afterwards, and besides,
what do you have to lose? (besides your
virginity :lol: )
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 03-20-06 13:29pm
Don't have sex because you feel that you
have to, have sex if you both want to and
don't forget the condoms. Sex to me is
just more than just sex, it is a feeling
that two people share together, especially
your 1st time.
I do realize that this is an old post.
Good luck!
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awkwarddepressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 70
I Was a 28 Year Old Virgin Till Last Month Posted: 03-21-06 12:48pm
I too was a 28 year old virgin until last
month.
Let me start off by saying that I am shy
and suffer from a severe lack of
confidence. I didnt believe that it was
possible for a girl to be interested in me
sexually. I have had female friends all
my life and they always tell me how great
and nice and kind etc etc etc I am but
they would never have anything to do with
me beyond friendship.
In high school and college I would develop
serious crushes on certain girls (i
thought this was love) and I would hang
out with them for years and years and
never make a move out of fear. Eventually
we would lose touch. In college, after
nights of drinking or drugs I hooked up
with a few other girls and had brief
relationships with them and did many
things, however I never had true
penetrative sexual intercourse with them.
One of them may have had sex with me but I
told her I had never had sex before and I
think she was wierded out or was bothered
by it and we never did.
Last month, a few days before valentines
day I went out with a bunch of people ,
including a group of girls that my
roommate has been friends with for years,
some of whom ive also known. I hit it off
really well with one of them and spent the
entire night close to each other and we
wound up back at her place making out and
she stated that she wanted to have sex
with me and so I did. We then began a
relationship where we hang out almost
every day and have sex multiple times a
night and spend weekends in bed and call
out sick from work and take half days to
be with one another and have sex in
different rooms while our roommates are at
work. Shes said many times that I am very
big and that I am really good at sex,
particularly oral sex. Its been amazing,
shes so cool and I really enjoy hanging
out with her.
I was on top of the world until this last
saturday when she decided she wanted to
"know where I was coming from" and she
asked about my prior relationships. I
told her pretty much the same as what I
wrote above but I didnt say that I was a
virgin. Then the next morning during
pillowtalk she asked "youve had sex with
other people before me right?" and I tried
to lie, but I couldnt and it was revealed
that I was a virgin. She was very
surprised and said she never would have
known because supposedly I am very good.
This didnt matter because at that moment I
was absolutely embarrassed beyond belief
and I felt my newfound confidence going
right down the toilet. I was mortified
that this piece of info was going to kill
the relationship and completely alter her
perception of me and that she would think
I was an absolute weirdo and that this
would change the natural flow of our
relationship. She assured me everything
was fine, she thought it was great and
that she had a lot of respect for me and
that nothing would change. (i strongly
believe that if she had known I was a
virgin from the start this relationship
would not exist). I would be so much
happier had she not asked me. I wouldve
told her eventually, but not now.
Then she felt that she needed to tell me
about her past and even though I didnt
want to know I found myself asking
questions and hearing answers I could not
deal with. I knew it was stupid to think
she might have been a virgin (shes 26) but
I really didnt want to know any details.
She feels that now we know about each
other we can be even closer. I guess I
agree, but im also bothered to know that
she has been having sex for years, that
she had sex with at least 3 other people
and that she had anal sex with one of
them. I am jealous of these guys even
though she says I am the best guy both
sexually and otherwise that she has ever
known and that I have nothing to worry
about. She also said she had never taken
anyones virginity before. At 28 years
old, I know im never going to be able to
say that phrase to anyone.
After finding out this information about
her I went from being the happiest ive
ever been in my life to being completely
racked with extreme depression and
embarrassment over the choices I have made
in my life. I feel like I wasted my youth
and my college years when I should have
been banging hot young girls instead of
playing the part of the "good guy" because
thats what I thought was the "right" thing
to do. I was putting the vagina up on a
pedestal for way too long (the 40 year old
virgin is the most educational thing I
have ever seen, ironically I saw it for
the first time, the day after I had sex
for the first time.) I should have been
like a normal person and had sex at a
young age. Im almost 30 for crying out
loud.
I am unbelievably depressed and
embarrassed and feel that I wasted my life
and now my amazingly beautiful, fun and
kind girlfriend is afraid that I am going
to leave her in order to have sex with
random girls to make up for lost time. I
assured her I wouldnt and it made me even
more depressed that I made her feel this
way. I dont know what to do, I really
dont. If anyone can enlighten me in any
way I need to hear it. I need help. I
cant shake this feeling that I am a big
embarrassing failure coupled with jealousy
over her past. I really need help. I
find myself hating her for asking me and
having me reveal that I was a virgin and
also for revealing her past. I dont want
to feel this way because I really do like
her a lot. That day she told be she loves
me and I said that I think I love her too.
Shes everything I could ever want out of
a woman and we share a much greater bond
than just having sex.
My advice for all you guys is to not be
afraid of girls or sex. Get out there and
have fun and meet people and try to hook
up with a hot girl or two. We cant let
all these guidos and other assorted
garbage have all the fun all the time. We
are the good guys and we should get what
we deserve. Watch the 40 year old virgin
and take the advice they give in the movie
as absolute gospel. Had this movie been
made 10 years ago I would be a completely
different person now, instead of this big
depressed confused awkward jealous waste
of a human being that I am now. Im really
concerned for myself and dont know what to
do.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 03-21-06 13:52pm
You are definetly not a waste of human
being!Why would you say/think such things
about yourself? I think it is cool for a
guy to stay a virgin and wait until they
are ready.The reason people lose their
virginity so young is b/c #1 they think
its cool,and its what the grown ups
do.They have no idea what they are getting
into.At an older age you have had time to
understand what responsibilities come with
having sex,babies, stds and all. I think
you are a good guy and you finally have a
good girl,don't mess up what you have.If
she thinks your going to leave her to go
have sex with other girls you just need to
keep reassuring her it wont happen and it
also takes time.Trust takes time.Please
don't be ashamed of your past and don't
hold hers against her. : ) good luck!
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awkwarddepressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 70
Posted: 03-21-06 16:59pm
I thank you for your response but I wish
someone could give me more than the usual
"being a virgin is cool", because while it
might be nice to be chaiste and wait for
your wedding day and all that, its also
very sad. I need to hear from someone
thats been through the same thing
i just wish there was a way to erase the
enormous regret and jealousy that I have.
Its basically the old "if I knew then what
I know now" routine. I allowed fear and
lack of confidence in myself to
essentially ruin my life and make me miss
out on a lot of good things. I never
thought it was a problem but now I view
myself as someone with a potential mental
disorder. I wish I could make this
feeling go away. Sex is great and I love
my girlfriend, but being a 28 year old
virgin and revealing it to your amazing
girlfriend and then finding out shes been
around the block more than once is really
destructive, at least to me.
Embarrassment and jealousy is a powerful
force. Im concerned that I wont be able
to get over this and it will bother me for
a long long time.
My girlfriend is happy with it and says
its good because I cant compare her to
anyone else. I think thats a pretty effed
up obnoxious thing to say, even though it
really probably isnt.
Everyone I know is happy for me that im
with this girl, but deep down I know the
happiness stems from the fact that I was
always a gigantic loser and now finally by
some supernatural force ive been given a
chance to have something more meaningful
in my life than star wars toys. I really
regret my life choices and its crushing me
now. Im afraid. I should be very happy
and content and instead I find myself
becoming more and more sad that I waited
so goddam long to experience something so
natural and trivial and basic to our
existence as beings on this planet. Its
like waiting 28 years to take a leak.
I need someone to give me the real deal
here on how to deal with my problem.
Should I break up with this girl and start
life anew as a realistic bonafide
human-being that now knows that sex is not
this unnattainable thing for me, or should
I stay with her because I like her a lot
and want to be with her?
Had she just kept her mouth shut things
would be absolutely peachy for me right
now.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 03-22-06 08:56am
awkwarddepressed
wrote:
my girlfriend is happy with it and says
its good because I cant compare her to
anyone else. I think thats a pretty
effed up obnoxious thing to say. . .
Finally by some supernatural force ive
been given a chance to have something more
meaningful in my life than star wars toys.
. .
Should I break up with this girl and start
life anew as a realistic bonafide
human-being that now knows that sex is not
this unnattainable thing for me, or should
I stay with her because I like her a lot
and want to be with her?
i know i'm not the person you want to hear
a response from but. . .First of all I
don't think is messed up that she said
that,she might have some insecurities
herself so she feels a little more at ease
now.She may not be happy abouther past
sleeping with other guys but she accepts
it.You need to accept your past as she
did.Second,you wonder if you shoud stay
with her b/c you love her and your
happy.Look at what you just said!
".F.I.N.A.L.L.Y by some supernatural force
ive been given a chance to have something
more meaningful in my life than star wars
toys. . ."
look! Sex is not all there is and if you
feel you have been missing out on
something and want to experience it,break
it off with her and do your thing.But
remember,this girl cares about you and you
love each other,is it worth it to break up
with her to go sleep around and have the
chance that she might not want you back
for doing that to her? You said yourself
your happy and in love with her,sleeping
with other girls may make you feel better
but. . .You just need to think about how
important sleeping with other people is to
you.
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Glenn85uk
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Apr 2006 Posts: 31
Virgin Posted: 04-20-06 18:39pm
This is not for the faint of heart
hey, this is strange, im 20 and stil a
virgin, ive got no job and not really held
a stable job since I left school, I dont
have much social life, I play computer
games a lot, ive only ever had 1 gf and
the furthest I got was snogin her, whoop
de do, lets party, our lives rock,
w0o0o0o0o0ot! I go snooker once a week,
which is cool, yay! That peter guy n his
wife, wot nobs! People like that exist!
Why? Lol, anyway, well I hav friends, but
I rarely see them, I only see 1 of my
mates regularly, I get stoned a lot now,
which is f*ckin crap, I actualy quit for 3
months last november til february, but now
I smoke again, I sumtimes go karate, I am
gona use this as a dating board like that
nob was saying bout, 5.5 inches of pure
english meat ^^ do u love it, mmmm, I said
yer, do u love it, yeeeeeer! lmao, im
goin crazy, I cant handle all this truth
revealing to people about me being a
virgin an all that, I never talk to any1
about it, hardly any of my friends no, I
hardly even no any of my friends anymore,
sum of them I never even really got to no,
we just simply coexist, wow, great
no.. I aint really that crazy, im quite
level headed, I am aproachable I would
say, I dont like loud mouths, attention
seekers, I dont like the idea of gays
being allowed to kiss in public, I think
they should make more clubs play trance,
hard house type music instead of that
crappy black music, rap, rnb, all that
sh*t, thats y I hardly see most of my m8s,
cos they go clubin, and I hate that niga
music (i am not racist, they call each
other niga, so y cant I call them a
person, huh?) hmm, I jus thought maybe I
am quite oppinunated but sometimes
indecisive, this is deep man, this is like
my mind unvailed, I like partys, I think
spastics and midgets r hilarious, I feel
sorry for them tho, as they should feel
sorry for me '5.5' erm, I usualy dont rant
this much, I am usualy really quite quiet,
quite shy, I hate people who r racists,
wot twats, they shouldnt even be allowed
to exist, crush em to a pulp them use them
as furtaliser.. I bet I sound so weird,
sum of the stuf I said, it was basically
jus woteva I thought, I was thinkin a lot
lately about how it would be cool if you
could relive your past life exactly as it
happened and see everything again but stil
hav it there as a memory as u r living it,
like reliving the good times in ya life,
enuf of me, sorry if I offended any1, byee
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Glenn85uk
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Apr 2006 Posts: 31
Virgin Posted: 04-20-06 19:04pm
Oh yer, and dude, I went to amsterdam wen
I was 19 last september, I could hav done
a prozy there, but tbh mate, its not worth
it, hold ur dignity, I did, wen me an my
mates went to a strip bar and I got
offered sex twice by the strippers,
obviously u hav to pay, tempting, but nah
tnx, id rather it be with a gf, sum1
closer than sum prozy, my life aint going
anywhere fast, but nevermind, i'l get over
it, remember, theres always jesus, lmao,
sum1 had to mention jesus sooner or later,
and I jus wanted it to be me before any1
else told him to hav faith in jesus.. I
aint actualy religious, I think the whole
jesus is lord thing is quite funny, but
anyway, im startin to rant, basically,
dont do the proz, if anything, take the
easy way out :/ jokin, bye
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ozgirl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2006 Posts: 11
22 Yo Girl Posted: 04-20-06 20:56pm
Hey,
this is coming from a girl's pov...
I'm 22 and a virgin. I've had alot of
encounters with guys before, pashed a
couple on the dancefloor in one night, got
naked with a couple, had oral sex even.
But I could never go all the
way...Actually lose my virginity to any of
them...Cos they weren't 'the one'. I can
never lie about my virginity to the guy
i'm with...I always tell them, some a bit
late maybe, when he's just about to enter
me lol! I want my first time to be
special...I've waited so long now, so I
think I wanna be kind to myself and wait a
bit longer. Guys always tell me i'm very
sexual, the way I dance, my body, how I
act when i'm alone with them, even in
public. When the guy finds out i'm a
virgin, he tells me straight up that he
doesn't want to be me first time, so I
guess even they know that the first time
is really special....
Goodluck :wink:
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awkwarddepressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 70
Virgin Posted: 04-26-06 10:56am
I was a 28 year old male virgin up until a
few months ago. Should I feel stupid that
I never had sex with a virgin? My
girlfriend who is 26 has had sex with
others and I feel that I missed out.
Anyone have any thoughts? Is having sex
with a virgin a big deal? I doubt that if
I knew that a girl was a virgin I could
take her virginity without really caring
for her. What are the odds of me finding
a girl in my age range thats still a
virgin? Not that I am going to do this,
im just wondering what the stats are
because apparently everyone screws like
rabbits and I missed the boat.
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Jucius Maximus
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Portugal
Posted: 06-03-06 17:29pm
Hi, i've been reading this forum and I
couldn't help thinking about my current
situation...I'm a 30 year old virgin and
this sucks!!!
I'm incredibly skinny (1m81cm tall, only
50kg...:( ) and also shy. I have a lousy
job, my income is very small and i'm still
living in my parents house.
I'm very insecure about myself. I know
i'm a loser. I don't feel normal. I've
spent countless hours doing therapy, but
the results never came. It´s
interesting, with all this talk about
penis size, I kinda thing my size is
average (16 cm), but the girth is
laughable :( .
I'm not getting younger, I know that!
I've lost all my hope. Fear controls my
life. I've abandoned my friends because
of this...I couldn't help feeling that my
constant winning was boring them, so I
have left. On the other hand, I work with
several good looking women and kind of
"hip" guys. Sex is one of the main issues
of our conversations, and I know they see
my lack of experience. Miles away! And
i've listened to the way they treat
virginity...With contempt.
I don't know what to do. I have fell in
love with several girls, but things never
happened. They ignored me. That was
awful. But it got worse...Some of them
became my "friends". Believe me, there's
nothing worse than that.
I have no solution for my life. I've
tried to put all this behind me, to became
some sort of "religious" figure, someone
who doesn't need sex to be happy, but i've
failed.
I don't know what to do...I could go and
seek "professional" help, but the hookers
here in portugal are very ugly and don't
look that clean...
"life is a pigsty"
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-teacher-
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Apr 2006 Posts: 3 Location: england
Posted: 06-04-06 19:04pm
I didnt have sex till I was 28 and like
you all my friends knew about this and I
would often be ridiculed in my early life
( I have errection difficulties which have
caused this )but I used this as a tool to
get my self reasonably fit and try and be
a nicer person having been on the other
side of the jokes.
I tryed to go with a prostitute but was so
nervus that I couldnt get hard! Not only
embaresing but expensive! Lol...She
actually offered me some advice in her
broken english.." dont smoke so much"
dont hide behind religion or false beliefs
as an excuse even if it offers u a defence
in social situations, this isnt what u
really want! U really need to help your
self! #
although looks shouldnt be important they
do have an impact. Try n join a gym or
buy some weights and stick at it regualrly
and build yourself up a bit, nothing comes
fast so stick at it. After u toned up a
bit may be join a dating agencey if only
for fun. Dont sit infront of the internet
or tv for too long either get out there
and do a hobby or evening classes.
Iv actually met someone who is wonderful
and really likes me and helped me with
many things, I still feel insecure but now
its about different things.
Any way good luck with all that u
do...........
Ps..... I got a small dick and still live
at home............=)
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Dr Lx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 12 Location: Europe
Re: Virgin Posted: 06-05-06 10:39am
awkwarddepressed
wrote:
i was a 28 year old male
virgin up until a few months ago. Should
I feel stupid that I never had sex with a
virgin? My girlfriend who is 26 has had
sex with others and I feel that I missed
out. Anyone have any thoughts? Is
having sex with a virgin a big deal? I
doubt that if I knew that a girl was a
virgin I could take her virginity without
really caring for her. What are the
odds of me finding a girl in my age range
thats still a virgin? Not that I am
going to do this, im just wondering what
the stats are because apparently everyone
screws like rabbits and I missed the
boat.
i don't think there is a rule that says "u
need to have sex by whatever age otherwise
you'll be missing out on stuff" :) is
there? :)
what i'm trying to say is you seem to have
found someone who cares for you and who
was honest enough to tell you the truth
about her past! Trust me honest people
are very rare nowdays...
You need to let her past go and enjoy
yourself. You can't change the past so
why worry about it anyway. Who cares what
other people do or "screw" lol? Be
yourself! :)
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disposable_feelings
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jun 2006 Posts: 21 Location: chicago
Posted: 06-11-06 15:27pm
I find it most appealing and sweet that
you are still a virgin.
Aside from that, you sound like quite a
catch...And any girl would be lucky to be
with you. Hard-working, ethical, and
goal-driven. Do you not realize what a
catch you are?
Also, from a female perspective here, it
doesn't matter how much experience (or
lack thereof) someone has; it's very
emotional and when you're with someone for
the right reasons (such as love), things
like this don't matter. So, although you
may feel uncomfortable, don't be.
Discuss it with your partner. I'm sure
she'd understand.
Although it's difficult for me to give
advice since i'm not in your shoes, I know
definitely definitely do not do the vegas
thing. I think you'll end up regretting
it, and you seem like the type of guy who
wouldn't do it normally, so don't do it
now. There is a girl out there waiting
for you, and she wouldn't approve :)
you're definitely a diamond...And stay
that way. You'll find a girl soon
enough....
