16 And Have Had 2 Miscarrys And Want to Get Preggy, Advice?

I'm sure all the people who have been giving advice have done so with good intentions. You obviously know what it is that you want. Do you know what caused the previous miscarriages? Have you had any advice about future pregnancies from teh doctors or nurses who trated you during that time?

Hi there,
I understand the desires that you have to have a baby and to be a mother. I have been there. Not all people have those feelings until latier in life. I was 16 when I got married had my first baby at 17. It was hard I am now 43 years old and I still have the desire to be a mother again. I regret not having the teenage life my friends had. Walking down the isle to graduate. Watching my children graduate was tough on me because I didn't get to do that. I could do it now but it would be the same. Everyone has priorities mine was to have children therefore I gave up my freedom to be a teenager. I feel I have had kids forever my youngest is 2 and I have grandkids that I total enjoy. But I never got time for myself. But that was a choice I made. Just promise me that if you get pregnant its for the right reasons. Don't do it to trap your boyfriend, or to get out of living with your parents, or for the attention it brings you. Do it only if you want a full time resposibiliy, that you are going to give this your 100% priority in your life if you can't do that don't get pregnant right now. As far as people saying that your boyfriend is going to runout on you. That doesn't always happen. Only you can be the judge of that we have no clue as to how your boyfriend feels about this. You need to sit down wiht him and let him know he has to be there to help you and be part of this babies life. That means changing diapers, walking the floor at night when he/she is sick. Bathing the baby and being there for you. If he can't do that then re-think about this. Babies are fun and cute and atract attention. But there is alot of things that go with all of that when they are sick or when they become toddlers and get into everything that they aren't suppose to get into. Patience, love, and a long life committment. The choice is only yours. You have gotten alot of negitive feed back and everyone has different opinions. I would like to tell you to wait til your in your 20's but who am I to say I have been there done that and I love my children and I do have regrets I just had to grow up real fast. You keep in touch and let me know what you decide I won't judge you. I do have a question for you. What does your parents think of you getting pregnant so young. Do you have there support ? Do you plan on getting married ? And will you have a place of your own so your parents aren't supporting you ? Well keep in touch I would like to hear from you
ctg

Hi I am 20 and I got pg (unplanned at 15 ) had phoebe at 16 yes it was hard and it was adifficult pg but she was meant to be ....I dont agree with you activly wanting a baby but I do think young mothers can make just as good a mother as older ones im a fully qualified therapist trained at college after my child was born and full time I might add not all mothers depend on benefits......I know I had my child young but would never have had it any other way my aprents are close to my daughter but by no means have they raised her I have to someone saying her bf aill 99%leave her well I was with my dh when I had my daughter and I am now getting married to the same man in april so to you "what do you know " we both have good jobs a nice house 2 nice cars and have never asked my parents to babysit they always ask me if they can take her somewhere or have her stop for the night
on the other hand I am also glad I had her so young I am now ttc number 2 and have recently found out that there is a very little chance I will be able to concieve naturally again
you should think grately about this it is very hard and I am lucky to have what I have but I have not had what you would call a normal childhood and that what 15-20 is its when you grow up into the women you are going to be so think hard. Once you go down that path you carnt just turn back
tc all ....
I have no intension of offeding anyone but dont judge all books just because they have the same cover the contenst can be very different
babydust to all wanting it and tc

Sweetgirl,

you are so sweet. I wish my sons someday marry women like you. I have a web site at http://www.Pronatal.Org that espouses early marriage and more children.

I would like a better background of your history to find out what is wrong with you in the first place.

#1 what were the reasons for your miscarriages? What did the doctors say?
#2 what is your state of health? Eating habits? Diet?

Edwin
http://www.Fertilityhelp.Net

I think if you want to have a baby then go for it iam 19 teen years old and I just found out that I have pcos and I can not have children so I think if you are ready and you think you can support the baby and you have money coming in then I think you should go for it I got married at 18 and I wanted a baby so bad and when I found out that I have this pcos I cryed I was so pissed that will if other women can has babys thats not fair but god has a plan for all of us so girl if you are ready and you can care and love for that child I say go for it dont care what others think of you
ashley

I'm sorry hun....But your 16 and have already been preg. Twice and lost both babies......Is that not telling you something? Like maybe to wait and let your body mature enough to be able to carry a full term baby. Or that if your keep going like your are your either going to get an std or have to have your uterus taken out because you had complications with a preg.

It takes a long time for a womans body to recover from a miscarriage or abortion....You have to wait and give yourself time to heal and get ready to be preg. You need to slow way down and just be a teen. Go out have fun with your friends and hangout. And for goodness sakes use all the protection you can if your going to have sex.....I'd hate to see a girl as young as you to lose all chances at ever being able to have children because you wanted to rush things and destroyed your uterus.

I'm 25 and I will never be able to get preg. Its not sumthing I did or didn't do I have pcos. I had no desire to be preg. In high school. I was too busy with my friends, work and school. We started trying as soon as we were married. And trust me...Knowing you can never carry anther life inside your own body is not sumthing I would wish on anyone

.O.M.G! How hypocrytical are some of the people on here? I have been ttc after losing my son .Dylan not long ago... I am 16 too!

Hun, a lot of people are going to say "i dont think you should do this...Wait" but if you feel you are ready to be the best mom you canbe (as I do) then please go ahead and have a baby... No-one has the right to dissuade you from that.

Also people need to stop being to harsh - saying things like


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are really undermining and pointless, sure put your point across, but please do it nicely. I know plenty of good teenage/young moms who are great at what they do - take a hike to the teen preg forum. And I know sure as hell fire that I was a good mom to dil before he died. He lived for two and a half weeks and I looked after him and loved him unconditionally in that time.

Hun, pm me if you need to/want to/feel like it. I know what you are going through.

Hi its me again just to let you know I have got pcos and I know it can be difficult to get pg and people with pcos have a 80 % higher rate of mc(metreformin brings this rate to normal ) but you can get pg especially if you have help many many women have good rates of pg with metreformin and clomid even taking soy tablets and progesterone cream can help you concieve so please ladies with pcos dont think you will never carry a baby because you can I concieved my first and I must have had pcos then aswell and concieved her naturally and carried her to term please please dont think you can never get pg because of the pcos cuz you def can it may take longer but its worth it in the end ive also got a underactive thyroid as well and have done a hel of a lot of research and nagged my doc alot so there is light at the end of the pcos tunnel
tc

Ohh I know there are good rates for pcos pgs. Its not just my pcos...My husbands count is 12...Even after he had a surgery that was supposed to fix it. Needless to say it didn't. The doctors have already told us with his count being that low...Even with meds and ai or invitro there was only a very small chance it ever being sucessful and an even slimmer chance of me being able to carry much less to full term. It would shatter me completely if after all these years I were able to get pg and then my body rejected it and we lost the baby. Which is why we have decided on adoption.

Good for you I just didnt want you to lose hope as if it were just your pcos you would be fine im so sorry that you feel so bad I hope you find happieness at the end of your ttc and life tunnel tc

Ohh no....Our hopes for a family are far from gone yet. Now i'm not saying there aren't many days I am totally depressed at having no luck the adoption area....But it gets better. And we support each other and talk through those bad days. All hope is not lost. Thank you.

Do you know why you have had the miscarriages? If you're concerned then I think the best thing to do would be to ask your doctor.

Personally I think you're too young to be having a child but it's your decision and if you're going to do it then I suggest you start taking folic acid even before you are pregnant. I would say to sit down with your bf and discuss the practicalities of having a child (i.E. Are you going to finish school after it's born, where you will live, how you will afford it etc...) and then hopefully you'll have as less a stressful pregnancy as possible.

Did some one fart?

I think it smells in here

Did anyone notice the original poster never posted again?

Hey ... Well news is im 17 and I had another misscarriage... And its bullcrap to be so critical against me and i'm trying to get preg because there is a 30% chance that I will ever have a child... Apparently my body trys to kill the sperm so thanks for not supporting me... Well anywho ... I'm marrying james in december... I ended up leaving cj because I had to move to alabama and I would not have a chance to see him again... Thank you to those who has given me support in trying to get pregnant... Yes, I have a job and so does my husband and I am mentally and physically able to take care of a child...... But.. I am going to be now .... And to the idiots who left the message ... "did somebody fart in here" and "it stinks in here" please do not post any crap like that again.... Goodnight to ya'll and thank you to the people who support me in what I am trying to do....

~natasha~
17 yrs old