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Lildreamer
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I Slipped...omg...! the Day I Met Omar.....
Posted: 11-05-03 00:51am
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Hey gurls..Its lildreamer and im in a
situation. I know I said that I love
johnny and I want to hold off on
sex......I really did mean it, but im only
human and I slipped on sunday. I have a
friend who tells me about some guy he
thinks I should meet. He said omar saw
me before and he thought im cute. I
always hear my friend bring up this guy
when he talks to the homies. He
sounded...Good so I told my homie to have
him meet me after school. Ohhhh myy
lord....Hes gorgous.....Well to me! He's
6 foot, 18yrs old and really skinny. Yes
my friends hes bald.......Looks like the
typical bad boy. Mmmmmm!!! Well...We
liked eachother right off the bat and we
wanted to see each other again. On
thursday I skipped class to see
him.....And ohhhh I liked him so much.
We talked and he was just all that to me.
Hes funny, cute......We had smiles the
whole time. As he kissed me...I was in a
different world....Nothing exist but me
and him. Thats when he laid me down and
"it" happened. It felt right! Yes we
used a condom. I dont know I guess I
wasnt thinking and I let my emotions take
over. Well after that we couldnt let
each other go. He helped me get dressed,
hugged me, kissed me,held me,held my hand.
It seemed like we were a couple for a
long time. He walked me back to school
which I thought was nice..He held me the
whole time. We talked about ourselves.
Then on friday I started my first day @
work. He came to visit me ..He gave me
kisses and hugs. Then on saturday..He
came by again and I chilled with him on my
break. He held my hand and held me the
whole time. We make each other laugh.
Then on sunday...I meet him up with my
friend(she came w/me to cover me from my
mom) then she left and it was me and him
and his friend whose my homeboy. We
chilled @ the homies house. He held me
again..Didnt let me go. Then we talked
for a long time to each other..Getting to
know one another..It was kool. Then the
kissing came and then came the make out
session and then...Clothes started coming
off. To me it felt right. Everything
was gentle. Well we made out for a while
and we were already naked just holding
each other...I went to hold his hand and I
felt the condom package in his hand......I
held his hand taken the condom from him
and setting it aside.(we were still
kissing) well we left it like that and it
flowed to having sex w/o protection. I
knoww I knoww..I just dont know what
happened..I wasnt thinking. Well
everything was so gentle and he held me
close and tight the whole time. I felt
great. It doesnt stop there...When the
time came for him to cum(he said he was
about to) we were holding on to each other
tight that we didnt let go. I felt he
hesitated to pull back and I held on and
he let it all go in me. Then he slowed
down and rested on me still in me.(he
never took it out) he started going at it
again. For like an hour more. I dont
think he came twice. We stopped cuz I
had to go home. The weird part is I felt
happy about what happened. Real happy.
Well he walked me home and we never
stopped holding each other. We got to
know each other a bit more. But the
thing is we're not together..We're just
seeing each other right now. Im not even
trippin on that...I get real excited when
my homie brings up his name or when I
think about him. I get really happy and
start to smile. I cant say im in love
cuz im not...I guess sprung is the word.
I know that there could be a huge chance
of getting preggy. What r my chance?
The last day of my period was sometime on
the 26-28th of oct. I had full unpro-
sex on sunday nov.2nd. Im not even
stressing on it. Im more happy than I am
scared. How long do you think I should
wait to test...Im usually irregular. I
dont know whats come over me? I dont
know why im happy, but I have johnny in
the back of my mind and what we could be
when he gets out. If I end up
preggy...Johnny will leave my for sure, my
mom will defenitley kick me out and hate
me forever..Especially cuz she doesnt know
omar @ all. Everytime I like some guy
she tells me "what about johnny"? Hes
your bf! I dont get her..She hates him
but as soon as I mention some guy she
reminds me about johnny! She says she
wants me to move on...But she always does
that! I talked to omar today and
everything is kool between me and him. I
still get happy and he makes me laugh. I
did mention what could happen..And he
seemed ok with it. Uhh whats up with
me....I dont know...I want johnny but omar
just makes me feel comfortable. I knew
johnny for 2 yrs and 2 months..We know
each other like the back of our hand. Im
just scared for johnny an me. I
slipped..Im sorry you guys...I dont know
what happened and whats happening to me.
Pleez dont hate me...Guys im sorry.
Pleez reply to my post..........I need
advice!Much kisses & hugs from me.
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youngmama
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Posted: 11-05-03 08:35am
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Well hun, it sounds to me like you really
would rather be with someone other than
johnny, so what you need to do is end it
with him. Dragging him along while you
are sleeping with other people will not
only hurt him mentally but hypothetically
what happens if you come down with an std?
What will happen then if johnny gets it?
Sweetie, I understand that you slipped but
this lifestyle is not safe at all, if omar
slept with you 1 or 2 days after meeting
you, just think of everyone else he did
that with! I am not trying to scare you,
but if your not thinking about your own
health, sweetheart at least think about
johnny's.
Much love
-jessika-
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smith8500
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Jess
Posted: 11-05-03 08:47am
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Jess is right sweetie. You need to use
protection. You do not know this guy very
well, you said so yourself. You don't
know his past or who he's been with or
anything like that. Please use protection
if you do this again and as for the preggy
part. Wait a good while. It's only the
5th.
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insurancegirl
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Posted: 11-05-03 09:41am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 09-28-04 14:26pm; edited 1 time in total
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 11-05-03 12:06pm
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Im with jen on this dreamer. You made a
stupid decision. You know having sex with
all these guys, then one you dont even
know and you didnt use protection! You
better get tested. Hes 18 and you dont
know where hes been. If your pregnant and
youyr mom kicks you out, I dont think hes
gonna take you with open arms because you
had sex twice. Of course hes gonna be all
into you because you gave it up. My best
friend was like you and she never got a
guy to stick with her like that. Your
more like a booty call. And the funny
thing is she was with an omar. They are
no good. Especially a homie. You are not
thinking right at all. And he was being
responsible having a condom and you took
it away!? What were you thinking! You
slept with him the same day because you
got sprung??? Are you gonna do that with
every guy that comes along? You know what
kind of name girls get when they keep
doing that. You need to slow down. And
your not with johnny. Sorry but there is
no such thing as going out with someone in
county. Your not dating him. Your simply
screwing around while hes in there, and he
wont even be with you when he gets out. I
know homies. Im mexican too. I chilled
with homies, did the homie scene. And I
never dated a homie for one big reason
*they sleep around with everybody* all
homies do! Dont matter where theyre from,
they are easy and have all kinds of sex
and like 3 babies mommas. You need to
think better next time.
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illusionsmamma
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Posted: 11-05-03 13:22pm
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Well lildreamer you know in your head you
messed up right? But look I know that
with your johnny in jail maybe you found
comfort with somebody else and you felt
good loved and appreciated as a woman but
really you know that omar when he got home
and was with his homies he said yup I hit
that!! But hey you never know maybe you
can eventually work it out and he can
become your man and all but good luck girl
but my ? Is do you want to get pregnant?
Or it was just cause you were in the heat
of the moment?
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Lildreamer
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Is There Anything Else....
Posted: 11-05-03 18:24pm
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I know I messed up! I do realize
it....But its been done and there's no
undoing it. No I dont sleep with every
guy I get sprung off of. I guess I did
this time becuase I feel lonely w/o
johnny! I cant stand being alone and omar
was there to fullfill whats missing.
Other guys tried to hollar at me ...I mean
they were cute but I didnt think about
them. But thats not what happened when I
met omar. Now when guys talk to me..All I
think about is omar. I only have eyes for
him. Insurance girl..What do u mean most
vulnerable time??? I guess I just want to
belong with somebody. Since im not
allowed to have homegirls....I want a man
to have fun with.Know what im saying?
Johnny still calls me from juvie and tells
me he loves me and what not...But thats
not the case. Ok its too,but I dont know
whats going on with me. How can I start
thinking with my head instead of my heart.
Love does me wrong!!!! I just wasnt
thinking about health and all that stuff
but I guess I was trying to get pregnant
by this guy...I just want to belong to
someone! I realized after words I dont
want to end up preggy....It will ruin me
and I dont know omar..I guess I thought
maybe god will send down my love finally!
Uhhhh..Im so confused. I know my homies
are players too. I gotta talk to
omar.....But I dont want to sound like im
preggy when im not. I do want to be with
him...But the fact remains...Johnny!
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sparklypixie12
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Posted: 11-05-03 18:40pm
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Lildreamer-i dont wanna judge u sweetie
but what u've done 2 johnny is so
unfair-do u love him or not? Cos it
doesnt seem like u do.U need 2 b careful
cos u hardly know this guy-what if he's
got an sti? U dont want a guy like this 2
use u.If ur not preggers,u seriously need
2 get on the pill girl!!!!!
Liz x
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Lildreamer
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Im His Lady Now!!!!!
Posted: 11-06-03 14:13pm
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I know im doing johnny wrong but we do
each other wrong all the time. I know its
sounds like we both dont love each other ,
but we 're always by each others
side...Sparkly...Have you read other posts
I wrote about him? Well.....Thats a
different story.
But last night omar asked me to be his
girlfriend....I said yes!!!!Im so
happy.And he said if I get preggy....He
wants to have it. He said that he does
not want me to get an abortion. I dont
know..I guess im just trippin!
Lildreamer
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 11-06-03 14:25pm
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I think you are very sprung. I know for
a fact your gonna get hurt. Sorry to be
all mean but thats how it is. So then
its over between you and johnny or are you
gonna play both omar and johnny too?
Thats messed up. If you were my old
friends back in school id say this: "your
a mensa for screwing up!" in fact I have
said that before...Lol but anyways. You
need to start being protected. Either
way hes older and he could have been
around. You need to get tested. You
say you wont do this with every guy you
get sprung on but how do you know that?
You could meet jaun, carlos and gabriel in
about 2 years and do the same thing. You
could end up with 3 different baby
daddies. Omar says that now but if the
time comes to it, he might just run out on
you. And your gonna get stuck and your
mommas gonna kill you. Its not all fun
and games doing this because you want to
belong to someone. You wanna belong to
something join a club. Not a gang. You
wanna be loved, get a puppy. Not 2 guys
and one is in county. Your stringing
along these homies you know that? Does
omar know about johnny? Johnny about
omar? What happened to not having sex
anymore? So what are your plans then?
So you and johnny always do eachother
wrong? What kinda relationship is that?
That aint love. You dont cheat when
your in love. Your by eachothers side so
your more like homies. Make up your mind
dreamer. And stop cheating and playing
games. Its gonna catch up to you.
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KissyBai912
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Posted: 11-06-03 14:37pm
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Lildreamer, I know exactly how you felt
hun. I felt that same lonely feeling when
my parents made me move to kentucky, 1200
miles away from the guy I was so in love
with. I was devastated. But, not
thinking, I guess I was just looking for
comfort, I slept with a guy I had met a
week earlier. It was protected, but
still. I felt like I just needed to be
held. Well, I ended up pregnant, had to
tell my boyfriend here in florida, and my
family and what not. My babys father made
all those promises too. And kept to them
for a short while, but man once I moved
back to florida and got comfortable with
the fact I wasn't going to try and keep
him from his son, he let it all go. He
almost totally quit calling. I still
don't talk to him very often. Luckily, my
boyfriend, (the one who dumped me for
cheating) has taken me back. I believe
he's still got some major trust issues
with me, but i'm doing every little thing
I can to prove myself to him. Now that
takes a real man. A guy who takes on his
cheating ex-girlfriend knowing shes
pregnant with another guys baby, that
don't happen very often. What i'm trying
to say is, although he'll make every
promise under the sun, chances are he
won't keep them. Please be smart about
this. Tell johnny exactly what happened,
I can't say he'll be as easy on you as my
boyfriend was on me, but it will take a
load off your chest. That way, he can't
hold it over your head, just tell him the
truth ok??? I'm here if you need to talk.
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mwdiab
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Re: I Slipped...omg...! the Day I Met Omar.....
Posted: 11-08-03 04:54am
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I think you should take the after
pregnancy pill, which you still could take
it even after a two weeks
good luck
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Jessika Adriana
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Posted: 11-08-03 05:13am
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Fever is a symptom of ectopic and molar
pregnancies, however the flu is going
around right now, so your fever maybe from
that. I would also wait another week to
be sure, since it takes some time for the
egg to implant and then create the
placenta which makes the hcg hormone.
Good luck hun! And by the way mwdiab the
morning after pill can be taken up to 72
hours after unprotected sex not 2 weeks.
Much love
-jessika-
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smith8500
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Well
Posted: 11-08-03 12:32pm
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Take a test now.... A test later.
Whatever you feel is right. But please be
careful next time!
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Lildreamer
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Definatly Out of the Question!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 11-08-03 14:37pm
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I know im most def..Fuc**** up! Its not
about playing johnny or omar.....Well
thats what it pretty much sounds like huh.
But thats not what im trying to do.
Johnny and I are not completely
over....Hes sweet one second, then a demon
the next! Im still thinking of what to do
about him. Johnny got mad at me cuz I was
talking sh*t about his homeboy & his
gf.... Why's he trippin off me when thats
the homeboy who handed him the rifle that
landed him in juvie. What a 2-face!
Always choses homies before me! Or am I
being selfish? I may have made a mistake
but I know I wont fu** everybody I like.
I haven't yet...Oh ok omar! Its not like
I have my p*ssy in my hands..Sorry so
blunt! Im not passing it out like a
flyer. Johnny does not know about
omar...But omar knows about johnny... As
an ex! Actually nikki....I thought of
getting a puppy or pet to love and help me
get over the heartache. My mom just
doesnt want to let me get a pet. I just
recently had 2 and I had to give them up!
My snake, pops...Ohh I loved so much...But
my mom said its against god. Then my dad
said my pit bull is not safe around my
nephew.(my pit died a week later when we
gave him to someone) am I a jinx or what!
Why cant I love. Johnny and I ...You know
its a different long story. I know whats
it like to be a player...Im paying the
price for it....It already cuaght up w/me!
I dont know about the cheating
thing.....!Kissy thanx gurl.....I feel
you...Wow, so he forgave you....Thats
chill! Johnny most def. Wont. I cant
tell him..I just cant. I cant stand
playing games no more. Johnny is driving
me away from him. Omar is just there to
give me attention...I dont wanna feel that
im using him for that. If I end up
preggy..Then im keeping it. I gotta
accept the consequences for what happened.
Who knows maybe omar is the one. I hope
god gives me strength. If I dont end up
preggy then I gotta make my desision on
the real about johnny. I cant carry on no
more. Its gonna hurt to see johnny go but
its unhealthy for me to stress over
him..You know!
Love you lots..
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Lildreamer
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P.s!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 11-08-03 14:52pm
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Well tomarrow is gonna be exactly when I
had unprotected sex. Do you think I
should take a preg test tomarrow...Or wait
one more week. Does fever come w/symtoms
of pregnancy? Im not streesing too
much...But it would be too early to have
symtoms..Right. Ok...Thats chill
then.Well..I guess I have to wait on it.
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Mommy_2_b
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Posted: 11-09-03 00:51am
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Im sorry sweetie sounds like "puppy love"
to me. 
Really dont let him hurt you and dont go
into something at the heat of the moment
no more - good luck ~melissa
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Lildreamer
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Posted: 11-09-03 10:02am
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So I guess i'll just wait on it. Whats a
molar pregnancy? That can't be good! So
fever is not a symptom of a regular
pregnancy? I really dont think I am cuz
iv'e been sexually active for 3 years and
I never got pregnant. It kinda scares me
cuz what if I cant have kids. Some of my
friends say its probably cuz they smoke
weed and it gives them low sperm
counts...But what if its not them? Omar
does blaze it...I guess. I feel that im
not but I guess I should check. When it
proves im not..I will be more careful. Im
going to tell omar that I dont want to
have sex right now. I need to get it
straight with johnny....Im all twisted
right now.
Well thanx....Ill keep you posted when I
find out the results.
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 11-10-03 00:22am
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Ok fine, what about a cat? Fish? Turtle?
Bird? You need something else other than
guys to love. Your not looking right and
your jumping real quick into whatever
comes along. So omar thinks johnny is an
ex and hes not. Johnny has no clue, so
your lying to him. And he backs up his
homies more than you? And thats love? I
think you need to settle down. Then they
all blaze and thats not gonna get them
anywhere. I mean people who blaze alot,
really have no future. At all. But I
guess youll figure it all out because what
we say really doesnt matter because youll
do what you want anyways.
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Yazmine
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Ohhhh Geezz....
Posted: 11-10-03 00:56am
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Ok so u know u messed up, I dont have to
tell u that....What have any of ur other
friends said bout omar? Does he have a
job or go to school? If not how will he
support the baby(if there is one) and what
will he be doing while ur in school? Omar
may seem great n all and maybe he is but u
should really slow down n get to know him
before u jump into a serious realtionship!
Tell johnny the truth, if u love
eachother it will work out. Have u asked
johnny what his plans r when he gets out?
It is very true u were just lonely n
wanting love, next get a hug from a
friend!!!
Yaz
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